Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 16:02     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

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Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.


We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.


Read up on Warren Buffet’s own marriage.


+1

He is in no position to give advice to modern day women, unless you are into polygamy

Warren Buffett's arrangement was hardly polygamy in the traditional sense. He was married on paper to one woman, but acted married in all other respects to another.


He did fine in life, relative to men who are single until age 41. Attracted 2 women long term, was committed to them, earned a fortune and respect in all areas of his life. Both of his "wives" are hardly sugar babies types but rather someone he respected and who were well integrated into his life in practical sense. I would totally agree with his viewpoint at marriage


His wife left him but did not want to limit her access to his funds so she chose not to divorce. Then she contacted her friend and made her a sister wife. If that is what you are into, then listen to him.

Many women do not want to share their husbands.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 16:02     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

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Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.


We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.


Well, Buffet’s first wife up and moved to CA and left him. He was (prob still is) a workaholic and seems low in terms of EQ so not sure I’d listen to his marriage advice….


So a man must have all of the money and resources, but he can't be a "workaholic", whatever that means. Childish.


Duh. Thst's what they have been telling you, and you keep arguing. You can have all the money in this world, and women will still get tired if you lack substance.

But you don't want to listen because working like a dog is easier than developing a personality, empathy, and emotional intelligence.


You take relationships from "glass half empty" viewpoint. Why don't you think of them and your marriage from "glass half full" standpoint? That marriage is the practical institute that is meant to raise a family while taking the related risks. That life is long, and things may change. So things need to be considered in the dynamic perspective of whole life, not just what you want at that moment. And never loose yourself in marriage because one you do, you start blaming the spouse for every unsuccesful joint decision (liky buying a 1.7mm house you coulnd't afford)
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:58     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.


We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.


Well, Buffet’s first wife up and moved to CA and left him. He was (prob still is) a workaholic and seems low in terms of EQ so not sure I’d listen to his marriage advice….


So a man must have all of the money and resources, but he can't be a "workaholic", whatever that means. Childish.


Duh. Thst's what they have been telling you, and you keep arguing. You can have all the money in this world, and women will still get tired if you lack substance.

But you don't want to listen because working like a dog is easier than developing a personality, empathy, and emotional intelligence.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:58     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.


We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.


Read up on Warren Buffet’s own marriage.


+1

He is in no position to give advice to modern day women, unless you are into polygamy

Warren Buffett's arrangement was hardly polygamy in the traditional sense. He was married on paper to one woman, but acted married in all other respects to another.


He did fine in life, relative to men who are single until age 41. Attracted 2 women long term, was committed to them, earned a fortune and respect in all areas of his life. Both of his "wives" are hardly sugar babies types but rather someone he respected and who were well integrated into his life in practical sense. I would totally agree with his viewpoint at marriage
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:55     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

Anonymous wrote:Women think that because lots of guys want to have sex with them, they are somehow special because if that. It's delusional.


And what is wrong with women thinking they are special? If you disagree, move on. A lot of success is built on what many people would call delusions. And being a happy, single woman is success. Lots of single women are happy, whether or not they are single by choice.

Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:54     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.


It is weird to me this nonsense that comes up over and over again. Is this male copium for those who are inadequate in all areas?


It seems like it.

My dh is 2 inches shorter than I am and only hit 100k ten years after we got married. He's really funny, sweet, and likes to cook together.

It sounds like some.pf these guys only want to date extremely attractive women from rich families, who can have their pick of the wealthier men.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:52     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm seeing a lot of men over 35 who have never been married, have no kids and/or are divorced, but have no interest whatsoever in dating. And there is nothing wrong with these men. They are employed, their mental health is okay, they just want to remain single. Why??


The extreme money-demands/ expectations of women looking to date reduce these women to little more than high-risk prostitutes.

For that kind of $$, many men choose to skip the risk, the drama, and are content to choose sex à la carte.


Found the incel

Bingo. I have never met anyone in real life who talks about relationships in such a transactional sex/money way.
You mean not counting all the women on DCUM ofc


DP. You know that DCUM is not real life, even for the women posting, right?
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:50     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.


We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.


Well, Buffet’s first wife up and moved to CA and left him. He was (prob still is) a workaholic and seems low in terms of EQ so not sure I’d listen to his marriage advice….


So a man must have all of the money and resources, but he can't be a "workaholic", whatever that means. Childish.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:49     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.


We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.


Read up on Warren Buffet’s own marriage.


+1

He is in no position to give advice to modern day women, unless you are into polygamy

Warren Buffett's arrangement was hardly polygamy in the traditional sense. He was married on paper to one woman, but acted married in all other respects to another.


Polygamy- ish
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:43     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

When I say "real life" I mean offline, not an anonymous message board where you have literally no idea if someone posting is actually a man or woman.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:41     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm seeing a lot of men over 35 who have never been married, have no kids and/or are divorced, but have no interest whatsoever in dating. And there is nothing wrong with these men. They are employed, their mental health is okay, they just want to remain single. Why??


The extreme money-demands/ expectations of women looking to date reduce these women to little more than high-risk prostitutes.

For that kind of $$, many men choose to skip the risk, the drama, and are content to choose sex à la carte.


Found the incel

Bingo. I have never met anyone in real life who talks about relationships in such a transactional sex/money way.
You mean not counting all the women on DCUM ofc
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:40     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

Women think that because lots of guys want to have sex with them, they are somehow special because if that. It's delusional.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:36     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.


We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.


Well, Buffet’s first wife up and moved to CA and left him. He was (prob still is) a workaholic and seems low in terms of EQ so not sure I’d listen to his marriage advice….
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:23     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm seeing a lot of men over 35 who have never been married, have no kids and/or are divorced, but have no interest whatsoever in dating. And there is nothing wrong with these men. They are employed, their mental health is okay, they just want to remain single. Why??


The extreme money-demands/ expectations of women looking to date reduce these women to little more than high-risk prostitutes.

For that kind of $$, many men choose to skip the risk, the drama, and are content to choose sex à la carte.


Found the incel

Bingo. I have never met anyone in real life who talks about relationships in such a transactional sex/money way.
Anonymous
Post 06/18/2026 15:22     Subject: Why so many single men not interested in dating?

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.


It is weird to me this nonsense that comes up over and over again. Is this male copium for those who are inadequate in all areas?