Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 23:41     Subject: Disappointment
I hate to see the hate. I am so sorry this happened to your DD. It hurts. She had amazing stats and it wasn’t unreasonable to expect more acceptances. Hang in there.

TJ sends a bunch to Pitt every year. Both my kids applied and toured, and we were impressed. Pittsburgh is a great place to go to school!

Hope it works out!
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 23:37     Subject: Disappointment
By VT do you mean VA Tech? Tech is better than UVA for engineering anyway.

And Lehigh is a great choice for engineering.

I do agree with those stats I would have expected a bit more success tho! This was a competitive year, but I wonder if maybe she had a bad rec? Did you read her essays?
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 23:34     Subject: Re:Disappointment
It stings. She can always transfer.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 23:27     Subject: Re:Disappointment
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At this point, admissions are out, kids will pick their schools, and no one will ever again care how hard you worked in high school. It is no longer relevant. Help your DD focus on the future and picking a place where she can be happy.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 23:07     Subject: Re:Disappointment
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Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP but your kid sounds like a cookie-cutter NoVa striver to me. T20s are looking for more distinctive applicants.

I bet you didn't work half as hard as my DD when you were in school. Someone sounds strangely jealous.

Not the PP, but sound like you and DD could benefit from getting knocked down a peg or two.
At this point, admissions are out, kids will pick their schools, and no one will ever again care how hard you worked in high school. It is no longer relevant. Help your DD focus on the future and picking a place where she can be happy.

Exactly what I was trying to say. It's common knowledge that T20s are looking for more than just academically qualified applicants. I don't know why it comes as such a shock that Ivies are looking for more personal ECs.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 23:05     Subject: Re:Disappointment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP but your kid sounds like a cookie-cutter NoVa striver to me. T20s are looking for more distinctive applicants.

I bet you didn't work half as hard as my DD when you were in school. Someone sounds strangely jealous.

Not the PP, but sound like you and DD could benefit from getting knocked down a peg or two.
At this point, admissions are out, kids will pick their schools, and no one will ever again care how hard you worked in high school. It is no longer relevant. Help your DD focus on the future and picking a place where she can be happy.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 23:04     Subject: Disappointment
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Anonymous wrote:OP, you and your DD have a right to be disappointed. My high stats DC is too when we see low SAT students getting in to the top 5 schools (1390 SAT). This is happening and should be investigated.


Yes, DD said that one of her classmates that got into Brown (RD) had around a 1370 SAT and much lower GPA. ECs + essays must have been phenomenal...


It’s so hard. Maybe that student was TO? Legacy? Athlete. And you’re right, the essays do matter. It’s hard to accept. But often, when we dig deeply and honestly, we know that there are reasons. Somehow, even on paper, depth, dedication, creativity etc do shine theough


This is why $510M is being cut at Brown. I recently sat in on a student session from a top 3 school and was horrified by the poor communication skills of one of the students. Who are they letting in these days? She will be probably become an AO.

Brown was one of the schools that DD had the least hope for due to their very holistic approach - They seek the "quirky" applicants.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 23:03     Subject: Disappointment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, you and your DD have a right to be disappointed. My high stats DC is too when we see low SAT students getting in to the top 5 schools (1390 SAT). This is happening and should be investigated.


Yes, DD said that one of her classmates that got into Brown (RD) had around a 1370 SAT and much lower GPA. ECs + essays must have been phenomenal...


It’s so hard. Maybe that student was TO? Legacy? Athlete. And you’re right, the essays do matter. It’s hard to accept. But often, when we dig deeply and honestly, we know that there are reasons. Somehow, even on paper, depth, dedication, creativity etc do shine theough


This is why $510M is being cut at Brown. I recently sat in on a student session from a top 3 school and was horrified by the poor communication skills of one of the students. Who are they letting in these days? She will be probably become an AO.


Now THIS is bitterness and jealousy. The school liked another kid more than yours and you will never know why. Move on.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 23:01     Subject: Disappointment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, you and your DD have a right to be disappointed. My high stats DC is too when we see low SAT students getting in to the top 5 schools (1390 SAT). This is happening and should be investigated.


Yes, DD said that one of her classmates that got into Brown (RD) had around a 1370 SAT and much lower GPA. ECs + essays must have been phenomenal...


It’s been many days since Brown RD came out. You need to get her to stop comparing with her classmates.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 23:01     Subject: Disappointment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, you and your DD have a right to be disappointed. My high stats DC is too when we see low SAT students getting in to the top 5 schools (1390 SAT). This is happening and should be investigated.


Yes, DD said that one of her classmates that got into Brown (RD) had around a 1370 SAT and much lower GPA. ECs + essays must have been phenomenal...


It’s so hard. Maybe that student was TO? Legacy? Athlete. And you’re right, the essays do matter. It’s hard to accept. But often, when we dig deeply and honestly, we know that there are reasons. Somehow, even on paper, depth, dedication, creativity etc do shine theough


This is why $510M is being cut at Brown. I recently sat in on a student session from a top 3 school and was horrified by the poor communication skills of one of the students. Who are they letting in these days? She will be probably become an AO.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 22:59     Subject: Re:Disappointment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP but your kid sounds like a cookie-cutter NoVa striver to me. T20s are looking for more distinctive applicants.

I bet you didn't work half as hard as my DD when you were in school. Someone sounds strangely jealous.

Yes, I'm jealous of a teenager who thinks that having inflated grades and Mommy and Daddy's non-profit guarantees her a spot at some of the best universities in a world. Give me a break.

*the world
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 22:58     Subject: Re:Disappointment
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP but your kid sounds like a cookie-cutter NoVa striver to me. T20s are looking for more distinctive applicants.

I bet you didn't work half as hard as my DD when you were in school. Someone sounds strangely jealous.

Yes, I'm jealous of a teenager who thinks that having inflated grades and Mommy and Daddy's non-profit guarantees her a spot at some of the best universities in a world. Give me a break.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 22:58     Subject: Disappointment
OP, this is the fault of you and other adults filling her head with the notion that she would be a shoo-in for top schools. I told DD her dream school was one that accepted her, and we could afford. Once acceptances are in hand, then you can fall in love. The adults advising her allowed her to put the cart before the horse. As others said, look on the bright side that she has several good options.
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 22:55     Subject: Disappointment
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Anonymous wrote:You said “it was more of a safety.”

Yes, I said it was more of a safety than a reach, which would make it a target. Sorry if that wasn't clear.


Did you find the entire college admissions process overwhelming? A lot of uncertainty in these posts. A college counselor probably would have helped.


We mainly relied on DD's own research and school counselor.


You don't need much "research " basically applying to half of the T25. 🙂
Anonymous
Post 04/03/2025 22:54     Subject: Disappointment
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Anonymous wrote:This has to be fake. People cannot be this naive.


+1

Especially students who are "that smart"

And if they are truly that naive, well then they did this to themselves. It's not a balanced list of schools at all. And if she wants BME, why is W&M? Very few kids do a 3+2 program, because nobody wants to leave their college after 3 years and go somewhere different.

It's unfortunate, because there are many many many excellent engineering schools in the 30-70 range, many that would have given her $$$ as well.
For example:
Case
URochester
WPI
RPI
NEU (tough admit, but might have given her NUIn or Global Scholars with those stats)

Had she shown interest, she would have gotten into all of those except NEU---that is the only Reach.


NEU isn't a reach from good schools and full pay. The acceptance rate at our school is about 70%.