There was a line in The Lincoln Highway to the effect that the old money people don’t change things, they stay largely in the same place, because their wealth/power derives from keeping things the same. There’s some truth to that.

And old money people do brag about money but in such a low key way that you wouldn’t know it unless you are old money. There are all these little signifiers like where people went to school or where they vacation or brands without labels, or even people that are common acquaintances, that go right over the head of normal people. But if you know, you know. I went to Yale with some of these people and it all had to be explained to me.

Years ago in a hotel I saw about half of that documentary that the Johnskn kid made about rich kids in NY. It was so fascinating and I’ve wanted to rewatch it although it’s very dated now. A young Ivanka Trump was in it and seemed both very normal and very sad.

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Anonymous wrote:My cousin married into some serious new money. At the baby shower her MIL led my aunt and mother into the bedroom to show off her jewelry collection, hand woven rugs, silk clothing and listed the price of every item. My mom was suitably impressed and envious.

This is so tacky.

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My mom married my old money father and still does cringey things like this. We went to a dinner party and I remember my mom turning over a bread plate to check the make and commented in it. She will never learn how that makes people feel. At least she was pretty.... dad was a total nerd.

Haha I turn over plates all the time in restaurants if I think they’re handmade or something close, because I’m a potter and I’m curious. Worse, if they have food on them I lift them up and look!

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Anonymous wrote:Online clues:
Constantly posting travel photos experiences and meals on FB/Insta "what an AMAZING day we had zip lining in Costa Rica" "I'm in HEAVEN - enjoying tonights Sangria and Paella in PORTUGAL"
Posting about dream school full-freight acceptance to someplace expensive but mediocre "All the hard work paid off - Suzy is THRILLED to be joining the Tulane community"
Posting FB/insta photos at the lacrosse game where their Jimmy is benched with rich families they have met twice

Real Life Clues:

- Whole family dressed head to toe in trendy mall brands (Burberry, Golden Goose, Tory Burch, Aviator Nation, Crew, David Yurman, Louis Vuitton)
- Leased Mercedes or Lexus LX SUV
- Beautiful home adorned with Home Depot window treatments

You sound insufferable but how exactly can you look at a car and know it’s leased? Are you one of those people who just can’t imagine buying a car that’s more expensive than the one you have?

DP here. IME leasers are MORE than happy to tell you all about it and try to convince you that its somehow saving them money.

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Old money are typically in Subarus or 20+ year old Land Cruisers.

If they're boomers they still might be driving that boxy old Volvo wagon from when the kids were little and it still smells from the dog they took on vacation.

No way. This is commonly posted on here and isn’t true. Drive around old money towns like Greenwich, CT or even less known locations like Litchfield, CT and it’s full to luxury cars, especially Teslas. I live on a street with families that often are third generation business owners and not a single one drives an old car.

Maybe people drove old cars in the 80s/90s but that’s not a thing anymore.

I live in an old money New England town. 15 year old Lexus is the norm. I haven’t seen a Tesla yet, except when I call an Uber that comes from elsewhere.

Anonymous wrote:https://nypost.com/2024/07/21/us-news/tragic-hamptons-mogul-tried-to-keep-up-with-the-bezoses/

This article reminded me of this thread. The guy in this article did have wealthy parents, but a lot of the behavior seems to fit what people are calling "new money".

His father was self‐made. So they are new money. Their money couldn't even last an entire generation

https://nypost.com/2024/07/21/us-news/tragic-hamptons-mogul-tried-to-keep-up-with-the-bezoses/

This article reminded me of this thread. The guy in this article did have wealthy parents, but a lot of the behavior seems to fit what people are calling "new money".

Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone want to appear an old money? Why is it considered “better” in America?

Because America is a country for stupidity and brainwashing but not for independent thinking or logic.

Why would anyone want to appear an old money? Why is it considered “better” in America?

People get newer cars for safety features.

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Anonymous wrote:The entire United States is new money. It’s by definition. This country was buffaloes and Indians before the White man came. It’s all new money and anybody that appears wealthy is just 1 or 2 generations from wrangling cattle and planting corn

It’s all relative. I think if it’s more than 1-2 generations, it’s “old money.” To me, the Rockefellers are old money. Same with the Carnegies, Astors, and Gettys. I would never call this new money.

My family’s money came from a deal with John Rockefeller, so we’re now into the 4th generation.

so, you're admitting your family's wealth came from breaking labor's back under a ruthless monopolist. got it. i wouldnt say that out loud, buddy.

Actually quite the opposite, buddy. Should I give it all back? My relative was the definition of a self-made man and the embodiment of the American Dream.

I’m proud of my family’s legacy. My late parent skillfully reinvested and managed the monies and grew it substantially; providing college educations for grandchildren.

But what have YOU done?….waiting…crickets…

Don’t know if this is sarcasm but I directly support causes near and dear to my heart with my time, talents and money. Career in a low-pay, helping profession. I knit blankets for NICU babies and cancer patients. Any other questions?

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Anonymous wrote:Online clues:
Constantly posting travel photos experiences and meals on FB/Insta "what an AMAZING day we had zip lining in Costa Rica" "I'm in HEAVEN - enjoying tonights Sangria and Paella in PORTUGAL"
Posting about dream school full-freight acceptance to someplace expensive but mediocre "All the hard work paid off - Suzy is THRILLED to be joining the Tulane community"
Posting FB/insta photos at the lacrosse game where their Jimmy is benched with rich families they have met twice

Real Life Clues:

- Whole family dressed head to toe in trendy mall brands (Burberry, Golden Goose, Tory Burch, Aviator Nation, Crew, David Yurman, Louis Vuitton)
- Leased Mercedes or Lexus LX SUV
- Beautiful home adorned with Home Depot window treatments

You sound insufferable but how exactly can you look at a car and know it’s leased? Are you one of those people who just can’t imagine buying a car that’s more expensive than the one you have?

DP here. IME leasers are MORE than happy to tell you all about it and try to convince you that its somehow saving them money.

+1

Old money are typically in Subarus or 20+ year old Land Cruisers.

If they're boomers they still might be driving that boxy old Volvo wagon from when the kids were little and it still smells from the dog they took on vacation.

No way. This is commonly posted on here and isn’t true. Drive around old money towns like Greenwich, CT or even less known locations like Litchfield, CT and it’s full to luxury cars, especially Teslas. I live on a street with families that often are third generation business owners and not a single one drives an old car.

Maybe people drove old cars in the 80s/90s but that’s not a thing anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:The entire United States is new money. It’s by definition. This country was buffaloes and Indians before the White man came. It’s all new money and anybody that appears wealthy is just 1 or 2 generations from wrangling cattle and planting corn

It’s all relative. I think if it’s more than 1-2 generations, it’s “old money.” To me, the Rockefellers are old money. Same with the Carnegies, Astors, and Gettys. I would never call this new money.

My family’s money came from a deal with John Rockefeller, so we’re now into the 4th generation.

so, you're admitting your family's wealth came from breaking labor's back under a ruthless monopolist. got it. i wouldnt say that out loud, buddy.

Actually quite the opposite, buddy. Should I give it all back? My relative was the definition of a self-made man and the embodiment of the American Dream.

I’m proud of my family’s legacy. My late parent skillfully reinvested and managed the monies and grew it substantially; providing college educations for grandchildren.

But what have YOU done?….waiting…crickets…

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Anonymous wrote:The entire United States is new money. It’s by definition. This country was buffaloes and Indians before the White man came. It’s all new money and anybody that appears wealthy is just 1 or 2 generations from wrangling cattle and planting corn

It’s all relative. I think if it’s more than 1-2 generations, it’s “old money.” To me, the Rockefellers are old money. Same with the Carnegies, Astors, and Gettys. I would never call this new money.

My family’s money came from a deal with John Rockefeller, so we’re now into the 4th generation.

so, you're admitting your family's wealth came from breaking labor's back under a ruthless monopolist. got it. i wouldnt say that out loud, buddy.

Actually quite the opposite, buddy. Should I give it all back? My relative was the definition of a self-made man and the embodiment of the American Dream.

I’m proud of my family’s legacy. My late parent skillfully reinvested and managed the monies and grew it substantially; providing college educations for grandchildren.

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Anonymous wrote:The purse/handbag. Dead giveaway if it’s an $$$$ label. Old money doesn’t flaunt.

So old money wears purses from Walmart?

ll bean😀

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Anonymous wrote:Online clues:
Constantly posting travel photos experiences and meals on FB/Insta "what an AMAZING day we had zip lining in Costa Rica" "I'm in HEAVEN - enjoying tonights Sangria and Paella in PORTUGAL"
Posting about dream school full-freight acceptance to someplace expensive but mediocre "All the hard work paid off - Suzy is THRILLED to be joining the Tulane community"
Posting FB/insta photos at the lacrosse game where their Jimmy is benched with rich families they have met twice

Real Life Clues:

- Whole family dressed head to toe in trendy mall brands (Burberry, Golden Goose, Tory Burch, Aviator Nation, Crew, David Yurman, Louis Vuitton)
- Leased Mercedes or Lexus LX SUV
- Beautiful home adorned with Home Depot window treatments

You sound insufferable but how exactly can you look at a car and know it’s leased? Are you one of those people who just can’t imagine buying a car that’s more expensive than the one you have?

DP here. IME leasers are MORE than happy to tell you all about it and try to convince you that its somehow saving them money.

+1

Old money are typically in Subarus or 20+ year old Land Cruisers.

If they're boomers they still might be driving that boxy old Volvo wagon from when the kids were little and it still smells from the dog they took on vacation.

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Anonymous wrote:My cousin married into some serious new money. At the baby shower her MIL led my aunt and mother into the bedroom to show off her jewelry collection, hand woven rugs, silk clothing and listed the price of every item. My mom was suitably impressed and envious.

This is so tacky.

+1

My mom married my old money father and still does cringey things like this. We went to a dinner party and I remember my mom turning over a bread plate to check the make and commented in it. She will never learn how that makes people feel. At least she was pretty.... dad was a total nerd.