Anonymous wrote:Call me a snob but I personally would much rather be around the old money, quiet, artist/consultant couple living in an inherited house than the striving, new money big-law lawyer couple renovating things every year. NO CONTEST. I would take the old money inheritors every single time

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Anonymous wrote:I will never sell my house in MoCo. When we retire, I will keep the house and have one of my adult children live in it. Financially it doesn't make sense to sell.

THIS. I am planning to move out of the area but has decided not to sell my house in Bethesda. Keeping it for the children.

Except most kids don’t want their parents’ house. All the old people around me in CC MD are amazed their kids don’t want their house, mainly because it was last updated 30’years ago and lots of deferred maintenance and the kids created lives elsewhere.

Talk to the kids and they wish the parents would just sell it and save them the hassle of cleaning out the house and selling it.

Give me a mortgage free house and I don’t mind cleaning it and selling it.

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Anonymous wrote:How does everyone know who's getting down payments from parents and grandparents paying for private schools? I'm in both of those categories but I've told almost no one. I may have mentioned that my parents pay for the kids' private schools to a few old friends who already know family's situation because we've been close for decades. But none of my neighbors, coworkers, or parents at my kids' school knows this. And I have never mentioned the down payment to anyone. I can't imagine why I would ever tell them. Is this something people talk about or is it a lot of speculation?

It becomes obvious in a number of ways. Dad is at DoJ, mom is part-time at a liberal nonprofit. Somehow the three kids go to GDS. Or, mom is an artist, spouse is a consultant in something he can't describe well, and the grandparents show up on Grandparents Day driving a $120,000 S-Class and dripping in large diamonds. This artist consultant family just bought a turn key renovated home in Cleveland Park.

That sort of thing. It's not hard. More nuanced is the GS-14 parents who work hard and send 3 kids to school for $48k a year. They don't look like loafers, but they also aren't getting that kind of financial aid, so ...

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Anonymous wrote:I will never sell my house in MoCo. When we retire, I will keep the house and have one of my adult children live in it. Financially it doesn't make sense to sell.

THIS. I am planning to move out of the area but has decided not to sell my house in Bethesda. Keeping it for the children.

Except most kids don’t want their parents’ house. All the old people around me in CC MD are amazed their kids don’t want their house, mainly because it was last updated 30’years ago and lots of deferred maintenance and the kids created lives elsewhere.

Talk to the kids and they wish the parents would just sell it and save them the hassle of cleaning out the house and selling it.

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Anonymous wrote:None of this is rocket science and it is baffling that the OP got any traction on the original post that doesn't seem to be credible.

I doubt that in one year (kindergarten) at his kids upscale neighborhood school, he had TWELVE separate families confide the financial arrangements of their households. If you have been on a pick up line or on a playground, you know that does not happen, even for the most aggressively curious among us.

But, OP does presume that we will believe that folks have confessed these intimacies and then he goes on to OUT them by posting a “shocked” post on DCUM. All of this seems creepy.

Who knows why OP exaggerated facts to create a "SHOCKED" post leading to banal conclusions. But we all fell for a pretty low level of tabloid click bait ....

I think it's probably just a bit of jealousy and also probably being triggered by the reactions (or lack thereof) of the old money types in his neighborhood. Probably the people back home in Kansas think it's absolutely amazing that OP worked so hard in school and got to their position in biglaw or whatever, and now they're living in *OMG* Chevy Chase. Then contrast that to the 40-something non-profit worker who breezes past OP in their khakis and polo shirt, unconcerned with whether they'll get a Christmas bonus, living in the same neighborhood despite not caring about money or achievements. That same person also has a higher status in the local social crowd because they went to a tony Northeastern boarding school, got into an Ivy-adjacent because of legacy or donations, and belongs to the most exclusive country club in the area. They hang out with a crowd that would probably find OP a grating nerd and try hard. This seems like a maddening up-ending of the natural order to someone like OP, who DESERVES that house in a way the inheritor did not. And an ultimate reminder that no matter how hard OP tries, there are some things he cannot work his way into.

Sure. And the Ivy adjacent country clubber can't raise his IQ two SDs, either.

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Anonymous wrote:None of this is rocket science and it is baffling that the OP got any traction on the original post that doesn't seem to be credible.

I doubt that in one year (kindergarten) at his kids upscale neighborhood school, he had TWELVE separate families confide the financial arrangements of their households. If you have been on a pick up line or on a playground, you know that does not happen, even for the most aggressively curious among us.

But, OP does presume that we will believe that folks have confessed these intimacies and then he goes on to OUT them by posting a “shocked” post on DCUM. All of this seems creepy.

Who knows why OP exaggerated facts to create a "SHOCKED" post leading to banal conclusions. But we all fell for a pretty low level of tabloid click bait ....

I think it's probably just a bit of jealousy and also probably being triggered by the reactions (or lack thereof) of the old money types in his neighborhood. Probably the people back home in Kansas think it's absolutely amazing that OP worked so hard in school and got to their position in biglaw or whatever, and now they're living in *OMG* Chevy Chase. Then contrast that to the 40-something non-profit worker who breezes past OP in their khakis and polo shirt, unconcerned with whether they'll get a Christmas bonus, living in the same neighborhood despite not caring about money or achievements. That same person also has a higher status in the local social crowd because they went to a tony Northeastern boarding school, got into an Ivy-adjacent because of legacy or donations, and belongs to the most exclusive country club in the area. They hang out with a crowd that would probably find OP a grating nerd and try hard. This seems like a maddening up-ending of the natural order to someone like OP, who DESERVES that house in a way the inheritor did not. And an ultimate reminder that no matter how hard OP tries, there are some things he cannot work his way into.

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Anonymous wrote:None of this is rocket science and it is baffling that the OP got any traction on the original post that doesn't seem to be credible.

I doubt that in one year (kindergarten) at his kids upscale neighborhood school, he had TWELVE separate families confide the financial arrangements of their households. If you have been on a pick up line or on a playground, you know that does not happen, even for the most aggressively curious among us.

But, OP does presume that we will believe that folks have confessed these intimacies and then he goes on to OUT them by posting a “shocked” post on DCUM. All of this seems creepy.

Who knows why OP exaggerated facts to create a "SHOCKED" post leading to banal conclusions. But we all fell for a pretty low level of tabloid click bait ....

I think it's probably just a bit of jealousy and also probably being triggered by the reactions (or lack thereof) of the old money types in his neighborhood. Probably the people back home in Kansas think it's absolutely amazing that OP worked so hard in school and got to their position in biglaw or whatever, and now they're living in *OMG* Chevy Chase. Then contrast that to the 40-something non-profit worker who breezes past OP in their khakis and polo shirt, unconcerned with whether they'll get a Christmas bonus, living in the same neighborhood despite not caring about money or achievements. That same person also has a higher status in the local social crowd because they went to a tony Northeastern boarding school, got into an Ivy-adjacent because of legacy or donations, and belongs to the most exclusive country club in the area. They hang out with a crowd that would probably find OP a grating nerd and try hard. This seems like a maddening up-ending of the natural order to someone like OP, who DESERVES that house in a way the inheritor did not. And an ultimate reminder that no matter how hard OP tries, there are some things he cannot work his way into.

Anonymous wrote:None of this is rocket science and it is baffling that the OP got any traction on the original post that doesn't seem to be credible.

I doubt that in one year (kindergarten) at his kids upscale neighborhood school, he had TWELVE separate families confide the financial arrangements of their households. If you have been on a pick up line or on a playground, you know that does not happen, even for the most aggressively curious among us.

But, OP does presume that we will believe that folks have confessed these intimacies and then he goes on to OUT them by posting a “shocked” post on DCUM. All of this seems creepy.

Who knows why OP exaggerated facts to create a "SHOCKED" post leading to banal conclusions. But we all fell for a pretty low level of tabloid click bait ....

Anonymous wrote:I dont see issue. Lots of people in my area are older and retired with a condo in Florida but are snowbirds and still have their big house in Potomac or Bethesda. Which they barely use.

What is big deal with a kid want to live in it?

Anonymous wrote:How does everyone know who's getting down payments from parents and grandparents paying for private schools? I'm in both of those categories but I've told almost no one. I may have mentioned that my parents pay for the kids' private schools to a few old friends who already know family's situation because we've been close for decades. But none of my neighbors, coworkers, or parents at my kids' school knows this. And I have never mentioned the down payment to anyone. I can't imagine why I would ever tell them. Is this something people talk about or is it a lot of speculation?

Anonymous wrote:I've lived in CCMD for 20+yrs and don't know anyone who lives in their parents' house. Maybe I don't run with the right crowd?

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Anonymous wrote:I will never sell my house in MoCo. When we retire, I will keep the house and have one of my adult children live in it. Financially it doesn't make sense to sell.

THIS. I am planning to move out of the area but has decided not to sell my house in Bethesda. Keeping it for the children.

Anonymous wrote:I will never sell my house in MoCo. When we retire, I will keep the house and have one of my adult children live in it. Financially it doesn't make sense to sell.