Anonymous
04/16/2024 23:29
Subject: Re:Two entrees?
Anonymous wrote:We have an acquaintance who eats two entrees when we go out to eat. Medium sized guy. I have wondered for years where he puts it all. Maybe he doesn't eat the rest of the day, I don't know. But he pays for both of them!
It does sound like FIL has an eating disorder, which is very sad. The not paying thing is annoying but you know it's coming so if you want to continue to go out, just make your peace with it. I have 2 relatives who are absolute nightmares in restaurants - polite to staff in manner, but always asking to have a different table, or a different water glass, or to split their food in weird ways, or for the entree to come out first and the appetizer second for some reason known only to them, or for bizarre combinations or substitutions - and we know if we go out with them that it will be that way. Like one year, in a rather nice restaurant, one liked the sauce on her fish so much that she asked for more. When it came in a jug, to pour over the fish, she picked it up and drank it! Or they bring their own teabags and ask for hot water and get mad if the restaurant charges for it. Or, it turns out, one only eats unsliced bagels - not sliced. (Don't ask me how this works on a lox platter.)
Knowing all this, and still wanting to maintain a relationship because we only see them yearly, we pick places where it will be less of an issue (Chinese places tend to be good on substitutions and sharing) or that we don't have a longstanding relationship with so we aren't embarrassed to go back. We still enjoy their company and over the years we have learned to deal with the restaurant oddness. Don't love it, but do love them.
Op here. I wonder if it’s my FIL. He is definitely chubby but not fat. I truly wonder how he does it.
Anonymous
04/16/2024 23:28
Subject: Two entrees?
Anonymous wrote:When will you share a meal with him again? I'm looking forward to an updateed account of this peculiarity.
Op here. Thanks for the sweet request for an update! We are going to see each other this summer, but probably not for Father’s Day. He’s starting to make noises about Thanksgiving as well.
Anonymous
04/14/2024 23:03
Subject: Two entrees?
Anonymous wrote:“Hey Dan, appetizer and dessert is fine, but we’re only paying for one entree tonight. If you want a second entree, please get a second check.”
Open your mouth.
This exactly. You can say it with a pleasant expression, even a smile. But say it.
Anonymous
04/14/2024 23:00
Subject: Two entrees?
That was 0:03 seconds apart. Impressive.
Anonymous
04/14/2024 22:58
Subject: Two entrees?
Keep sock puppeting every minute OP!
Dont let your troll post fade awaaaaaaaaaayyyy.
Dont let your troll post fade awaaaaaaaaaayyyy.
Anonymous
04/14/2024 21:09
Subject: Two entrees?
I’m already looking forward to the Father’s Day update!!!
Anonymous
04/14/2024 21:06
Subject: Two entrees?
op I believe you as well and have found your anecdotes fascinating and infuriating, pls update in the future!
Anonymous
04/13/2024 09:31
Subject: Re:Two entrees?
We have an acquaintance who eats two entrees when we go out to eat. Medium sized guy. I have wondered for years where he puts it all. Maybe he doesn't eat the rest of the day, I don't know. But he pays for both of them!
It does sound like FIL has an eating disorder, which is very sad. The not paying thing is annoying but you know it's coming so if you want to continue to go out, just make your peace with it. I have 2 relatives who are absolute nightmares in restaurants - polite to staff in manner, but always asking to have a different table, or a different water glass, or to split their food in weird ways, or for the entree to come out first and the appetizer second for some reason known only to them, or for bizarre combinations or substitutions - and we know if we go out with them that it will be that way. Like one year, in a rather nice restaurant, one liked the sauce on her fish so much that she asked for more. When it came in a jug, to pour over the fish, she picked it up and drank it! Or they bring their own teabags and ask for hot water and get mad if the restaurant charges for it. Or, it turns out, one only eats unsliced bagels - not sliced. (Don't ask me how this works on a lox platter.)
Knowing all this, and still wanting to maintain a relationship because we only see them yearly, we pick places where it will be less of an issue (Chinese places tend to be good on substitutions and sharing) or that we don't have a longstanding relationship with so we aren't embarrassed to go back. We still enjoy their company and over the years we have learned to deal with the restaurant oddness. Don't love it, but do love them.
It does sound like FIL has an eating disorder, which is very sad. The not paying thing is annoying but you know it's coming so if you want to continue to go out, just make your peace with it. I have 2 relatives who are absolute nightmares in restaurants - polite to staff in manner, but always asking to have a different table, or a different water glass, or to split their food in weird ways, or for the entree to come out first and the appetizer second for some reason known only to them, or for bizarre combinations or substitutions - and we know if we go out with them that it will be that way. Like one year, in a rather nice restaurant, one liked the sauce on her fish so much that she asked for more. When it came in a jug, to pour over the fish, she picked it up and drank it! Or they bring their own teabags and ask for hot water and get mad if the restaurant charges for it. Or, it turns out, one only eats unsliced bagels - not sliced. (Don't ask me how this works on a lox platter.)
Knowing all this, and still wanting to maintain a relationship because we only see them yearly, we pick places where it will be less of an issue (Chinese places tend to be good on substitutions and sharing) or that we don't have a longstanding relationship with so we aren't embarrassed to go back. We still enjoy their company and over the years we have learned to deal with the restaurant oddness. Don't love it, but do love them.
Anonymous
04/12/2024 11:43
Subject: Two entrees?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That would irritate me in so many small ways.
1. He shouldn't be eating that much, honestly. Restaurant dishes are usually higher in calories than their home-made counterparts.
2. Try something radical. When he visits, don't go out to eat. Cook at home, or order less-expensive take-out. Tell him you're on a budget, even if it's not true. Watch him struggle with that, then when he's not around, splurge!
Op here with an update. FIL came for Easter. To say he was infuriating was a huge understatement. Wallet stayed firmly in his back pocket but he was full of suggestions about where he wanted to go (meaning where he wanted us to treat him).
I took the advice of many like this PP and got takeout the Saturday before Easter. First of all, he insisted on ordering multiple entrees because “nothing tastes better than leftovers”. I ignored him and ordered one entree per adult, one of the appetizers he ordered, and didn’t order dessert at all. Fil did not offer to pay. When the food arrived, he ripped the bags from my husbands hands immediately started serving himself. He didn’t even wait for everyone to get to the table before he was gobbling. By the time we managed to sit down he had consumed two entrees completely and was working on the one he ordered. There was nothing really left for my husband and I to eat, and FIL said well i ordered two entrees and a bunch of apps but it looks like the restaurant didn’t put them in the bag!! My husband through clenched teeth told him to please wait for everyone to sit down before eating and for the love of God each person is entitled to eat the entree they ordered. He looked utterly wounded and tearful, but did not offer to pay or apologize. He spent the rest of Saturday sulking.
Do I think he learned his lesson? No because my kids caught him eating out of their Easter baskets. He then asked me where the leftover candy went, and I had to tell him that the Easter bunny brought the baskets not me. My kids definitely now know there is no such thing as the easter bunny.
Either we have 1) trolling, 2) an OP who is exaggerating to the extreme for attention/sympathy, or 3) a FIL with extreme mental illness.
Nobody can eat that fast or else the family is incredibly slow to sit down. What are you all doing that he was eating that much? This seems more than a little far fetched.
When he gets into his “gobbling frenzy” (this is DH’s term) he eats super quickly. Yes we were slow to sit down- I had to round up the kids and make sure everyone washed their hands.
At the end of the day, please just move on. It’s an anonymous forum- I don’t really care if you believe me or not. I do think you’re a bit sad posting this over and over. I get it, the situation is weird as heck. I wish I wasn’t in it, or at least I wish I wasn’t bothered by it. I am still annoyed at FIL and am dreading the next visit. We haven’t planned anything yet but I am not abandoning him over the holidays because he has an emotional eating disorder or mental illness or something.
You're delusional if there's only one person calling BS on your story.
Every couple days she’ll add another fake zinger.
Mashup of bizarre IL posts all in one monstrosity.
I believe her. I have not seen any fake zingers. The only fakery is the person / people shrieking about it being trolling.
You're no better. We know you've probably never seen a fake post on this site, but that doesn't mean you're right.