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Anonymous wrote:Op here. This thread has really gone off the rails a bit.

I’d prefer not to get into all the details of my finances, because I wasn’t looking for a comprehensive review. I had a specific question I got it answered, and I greatly appreciate the replies.

One thing we did that has helped tremendously-I had forgotten about our childcare FSA and healthcare FSA (I might be using the wrong words for these). We never reimburse in real time and usually do it in Jan/feb/March when we turn to taxes. So I’ve already come up with $7600 I didn’t know we had.

The job in January is as certain as any job can be. Signed contract, definite start date. But I’m hoping to land something better and hence all the interviews. I’ve got a good shot of landing something better and might be able to start earlier than January.

I think we will scrape by and be Ok. I’ve been able to sell $1000 worth of stuff in the last week as well.

Thanks again for the helpful replies.

New poster - cheering you on and glad to hear you’re doing ok!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. This thread has really gone off the rails a bit.

I’d prefer not to get into all the details of my finances, because I wasn’t looking for a comprehensive review. I had a specific question I got it answered, and I greatly appreciate the replies.

One thing we did that has helped tremendously-I had forgotten about our childcare FSA and healthcare FSA (I might be using the wrong words for these). We never reimburse in real time and usually do it in Jan/feb/March when we turn to taxes. So I’ve already come up with $7600 I didn’t know we had.

The job in January is as certain as any job can be. Signed contract, definite start date. But I’m hoping to land something better and hence all the interviews. I’ve got a good shot of landing something better and might be able to start earlier than January.

I think we will scrape by and be Ok. I’ve been able to sell $1000 worth of stuff in the last week as well.

Thanks again for the helpful replies.

Wait, so you haven't even started the job yet and you're already looking to screw them over? You know they stopped interviewing and rejected the other candidates when they offered you the position, right?

NP. Since when does one owe loyalty to their employer? She is smart to keep interviewing.

What kind of job offers 6 months before start date? Is there clearance needed? That would be a D move if you have them do clearance and then quit before starting

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. This thread has really gone off the rails a bit.

I’d prefer not to get into all the details of my finances, because I wasn’t looking for a comprehensive review. I had a specific question I got it answered, and I greatly appreciate the replies.

One thing we did that has helped tremendously-I had forgotten about our childcare FSA and healthcare FSA (I might be using the wrong words for these). We never reimburse in real time and usually do it in Jan/feb/March when we turn to taxes. So I’ve already come up with $7600 I didn’t know we had.

The job in January is as certain as any job can be. Signed contract, definite start date. But I’m hoping to land something better and hence all the interviews. I’ve got a good shot of landing something better and might be able to start earlier than January.

I think we will scrape by and be Ok. I’ve been able to sell $1000 worth of stuff in the last week as well.

Thanks again for the helpful replies.

Wait, so you haven't even started the job yet and you're already looking to screw them over? You know they stopped interviewing and rejected the other candidates when they offered you the position, right?

NP. Since when does one owe loyalty to their employer? She is smart to keep interviewing.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. This thread has really gone off the rails a bit.

I’d prefer not to get into all the details of my finances, because I wasn’t looking for a comprehensive review. I had a specific question I got it answered, and I greatly appreciate the replies.

One thing we did that has helped tremendously-I had forgotten about our childcare FSA and healthcare FSA (I might be using the wrong words for these). We never reimburse in real time and usually do it in Jan/feb/March when we turn to taxes. So I’ve already come up with $7600 I didn’t know we had.

The job in January is as certain as any job can be. Signed contract, definite start date. But I’m hoping to land something better and hence all the interviews. I’ve got a good shot of landing something better and might be able to start earlier than January.

I think we will scrape by and be Ok. I’ve been able to sell $1000 worth of stuff in the last week as well.

Thanks again for the helpful replies.

Wait, so you haven't even started the job yet and you're already looking to screw them over? You know they stopped interviewing and rejected the other candidates when they offered you the position, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Y'all are so off topic. OP's kids are small and don't have mental health issues. She was just living to the max and it bit her in the a$$.

My child was diagnosed with a mental health condition when she was 2.5 yo. We've spent thousands on therapy for that condition.

Also to add, none of the therapists that treat that condition are in-network for any insurance.

So you use your health insurance, and the following year you budget for it. No one is saying medical costs are not obnoxious, but they’re hardly surprising. That’s literally the point of health insurance - to limit surprises and allow you to budget. You are bad with money if your kids’ multi-year health condition frequently made you broke.

You have no clue about how people live. Privileged much? We should easily be able to cash flow $30,000 or more in non reimbursed medical expenses?

Anonymous wrote:If you have the body for it, a gig at a strip club could help you out alot OP. Just wear a wig and no one will recognize you.

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Anonymous wrote:Y'all are so off topic. OP's kids are small and don't have mental health issues. She was just living to the max and it bit her in the a$$.

My child was diagnosed with a mental health condition when she was 2.5 yo. We've spent thousands on therapy for that condition.

Also to add, none of the therapists that treat that condition are in-network for any insurance.

So you use your health insurance, and the following year you budget for it. No one is saying medical costs are not obnoxious, but they’re hardly surprising. That’s literally the point of health insurance - to limit surprises and allow you to budget. You are bad with money if your kids’ multi-year health condition frequently made you broke.

You have no clue about how people live. Privileged much? We should easily be able to cash flow $30,000 or more in non reimbursed medical expenses?

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Anonymous wrote:To all the people suggesting side gigs — how much are you thinking OP will clear with these gigs? Not a lot. She needs $20k. Earning $1k per month isn’t going to make much of a dent in that.

$1k per month can cover food and utilities.

Sell stuff to come up with daycare payments for at least a month or two.

Didn't they already sell the second car? When folks recommend to sell stuff I wonder what they have lying around the house that will bring in anything worthwhile.

Jewelry (yes, even inherited things.)
Designer bags, sometimes designer shoes/clothes
Recreation equipment like bikes, 4 wheelers, boats (even simple boats like kayaks.)

You'd be surprised how many people "can't afford" basics but are literally sitting on tens of thousands (or more!) in luxury items that have actual resale value.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Y'all are so off topic. OP's kids are small and don't have mental health issues. She was just living to the max and it bit her in the a$$.

My child was diagnosed with a mental health condition when she was 2.5 yo. We've spent thousands on therapy for that condition.

Also to add, none of the therapists that treat that condition are in-network for any insurance.

So you use your health insurance, and the following year you budget for it. No one is saying medical costs are not obnoxious, but they’re hardly surprising. That’s literally the point of health insurance - to limit surprises and allow you to budget. You are bad with money if your kids’ multi-year health condition frequently made you broke.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. This thread has really gone off the rails a bit.

I’d prefer not to get into all the details of my finances, because I wasn’t looking for a comprehensive review. I had a specific question I got it answered, and I greatly appreciate the replies.

One thing we did that has helped tremendously-I had forgotten about our childcare FSA and healthcare FSA (I might be using the wrong words for these). We never reimburse in real time and usually do it in Jan/feb/March when we turn to taxes. So I’ve already come up with $7600 I didn’t know we had.

The job in January is as certain as any job can be. Signed contract, definite start date. But I’m hoping to land something better and hence all the interviews. I’ve got a good shot of landing something better and might be able to start earlier than January.

I think we will scrape by and be Ok. I’ve been able to sell $1000 worth of stuff in the last week as well.

Thanks again for the helpful replies.

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Anonymous wrote:No expenses you can cut? Family to borrow from?

It sounds like you are going to have to see if you can get a loan from your bank or credit union, HELOC, or rack up some credit card debt.

Op here. We already cut way back, sold a car, etc. No family to borrow from.

My question is the best way to cover these costs, a personal loan? HELOC? Credit card debt is an option (can get a 0% card), but we can’t pay our mortgage or childcare with a credit card.

You only pay mortgage. You skip out on childcare without notice and lose your spot. You do NOT take out a high interest loan to save face/avoid losing childcare. If you haven’t paid for October, DON’T.

Op here. My kids have special needs and losing their spots is simply not an option. I’m not able to interview or apply for jobs while caring for them, and there’s zero chance we’d secure childcare for them in January when I start working again if we don’t keep their spots now.

Look, I’m not really looking for a comprehensive review of my entire life and finances and choices. The situation is what it is. My question is rather specific-what financial vehicles make the most sense for getting us $20-30k to survive between now and January?

My DH mAkes $120k, we have a ton of home equity and good credit. No debt besides mortgage. I’m sure there has to be a way to do this.