Anonymous
09/06/2023 17:02
Subject: Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you invited a family over for dinner, specifically told them to come after lunch so you don't have to feed them, specifically told them to bring snacks so you don't have to feed them snacks....that's a weird flex.
They were rude to not ask, yes, but you are not a gracious host. At all. If guests are coming after lunch you could easily have put out a spread of snacks and drinks.
THIS
Exactly. It’s this fundamental part of the story that makes me doubt the veracity of OPs claims regarding the other family’s behavior. I can’t believe that someone who explicitly told guests “you may only arrive after you’ve eaten lunch and you must bring snacks as we will not be sharing any food with you beyond what we cook for dinner” has a strong grasp on normal human behavior.
Also, I am suspicious that, while OP was clearly dedicated to the no food sharing policy, the other family renting may not have been as rigid. If all hosts were, why did no one speak up? Were all the other hosts and their kids firmly on board with the no snack sharing? It’s just hard for me to me imagine a house full of adults and kids vehemently against sharing any food with the guests they invited over. And if they all were why did no one say anything?
Anonymous
09/06/2023 13:53
Subject: Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you invited a family over for dinner, specifically told them to come after lunch so you don't have to feed them, specifically told them to bring snacks so you don't have to feed them snacks....that's a weird flex.
They were rude to not ask, yes, but you are not a gracious host. At all. If guests are coming after lunch you could easily have put out a spread of snacks and drinks.
THIS
Anonymous
09/06/2023 10:46
Subject: Re:Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
- Regarding the daughter watching TV on "your" bed -- Yes it would have been better if they'd asked first. But it's weird that you are this put out. It's not even your actual bed, it's a rental house. And it's a child, who was tired or needed a break. It's weird you are begrudging her that. You weren't using it.
It is actually my bed. I slept in that bed.
So if you are invited to someone’s house and feel tired you can sneak into host’s bedroom, make yourself comfortable on their bed and watch TV? Is this how you are raising your kids?
And where is this OK? What universe? In your trailer park?
Good hosts will notice when a young kid looks tired or cranky, and would offer them a place to get some quiet time and maybe a chance to nap.
A lot of people on this thread seem wholly incapable of hosting guests. Maybe you shouldn't invite people over, if hospitality is so alien to you?
Anonymous
09/06/2023 10:46
Subject: Re:Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
- Regarding the daughter watching TV on "your" bed -- Yes it would have been better if they'd asked first. But it's weird that you are this put out. It's not even your actual bed, it's a rental house. And it's a child, who was tired or needed a break. It's weird you are begrudging her that. You weren't using it.
It is actually my bed. I slept in that bed.
So if you are invited to someone’s house and feel tired you can sneak into host’s bedroom, make yourself comfortable on their bed and watch TV? Is this how you are raising your kids?
And where is this OK? What universe? In your trailer park?
What you seem to not understand is that many of are MC and UMC people with good manners who would not be upset about a child (we're talking an 11 yr old here, right?) lying down in "our" bed in a weekend rental to watch TV while the adults enjoyed themselves for a bit longer. Would it be more polite for the child and/or her parent to ask first. Yes, I agree with that.
But I cannot imagine being THIS unhinged about a very minor issue. You seem to be unable to understand the difference between "ideal" and "okay." When you host other people, sometimes things are not ideal. Actually, sometimes when you interact with other human beings, things are not ideal. You have to learn to roll with it a little bit.
I might be a little annoyed if I experienced what you did with this family. I can see how the little things would add up. But you have no self-awareness about the fact that these are, in fact, little things. Oh well. Now you know if you invite this family, plan to have more food on hand. Or, don't invite this family as they don't seem to mesh well with yours. But crying and screaming because a CHILD laid down in your rental bed because she was tired is just immature. Grow. Up.
Anonymous
09/06/2023 10:33
Subject: Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because the idea of letting a kid go hungry just seems awful, but maybe that's just me.
Maybe people should feed their own kids and not rely on others to do it?
Also, failure to take care of your own kids may result in them gobbling up junk food that this woman generously offers.
I would rather my kids be hungry and wait for dinner than eat your junk.
Yes, I understand you're the type of person with weird food and control issues that would happily let someone else's kid sit there, hungry, and watch her kids eat.
What made you this way?
Anonymous
09/06/2023 09:02
Subject: Re:Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
- Regarding the daughter watching TV on "your" bed -- Yes it would have been better if they'd asked first. But it's weird that you are this put out. It's not even your actual bed, it's a rental house. And it's a child, who was tired or needed a break. It's weird you are begrudging her that. You weren't using it.
It is actually my bed. I slept in that bed.
So if you are invited to someone’s house and feel tired you can sneak into host’s bedroom, make yourself comfortable on their bed and watch TV? Is this how you are raising your kids?
Most people would say, “Hey, Suzy…Little Lisa is exhausted. Is it okay if she lays down in another room and watches tv until we hit the road?”
And the appropriate response is, “Of course!”
Fun families who socialize at night have been doing this for generations.
And where is this OK? What universe? In your trailer park?
I wish OP would lose the raised in a barn/trailer park references. It makes it difficult to see her main point which is it is rude to help yourself to things in someone else's home (own home or rental is irrelevant) without asking.
Anonymous
09/06/2023 07:35
Subject: Re:Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
- Regarding the daughter watching TV on "your" bed -- Yes it would have been better if they'd asked first. But it's weird that you are this put out. It's not even your actual bed, it's a rental house. And it's a child, who was tired or needed a break. It's weird you are begrudging her that. You weren't using it.
It is actually my bed. I slept in that bed.
So if you are invited to someone’s house and feel tired you can sneak into host’s bedroom, make yourself comfortable on their bed and watch TV? Is this how you are raising your kids?
Most people would say, “Hey, Suzy…Little Lisa is exhausted. Is it okay if she lays down in another room and watches tv until we hit the road?”
And the appropriate response is, “Of course!”
Fun families who socialize at night have been doing this for generations.
And where is this OK? What universe? In your trailer park?
Anonymous
09/06/2023 07:30
Subject: Re:Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:
- Regarding the daughter watching TV on "your" bed -- Yes it would have been better if they'd asked first. But it's weird that you are this put out. It's not even your actual bed, it's a rental house. And it's a child, who was tired or needed a break. It's weird you are begrudging her that. You weren't using it.
It is actually my bed. I slept in that bed.
So if you are invited to someone’s house and feel tired you can sneak into host’s bedroom, make yourself comfortable on their bed and watch TV? Is this how you are raising your kids?
And where is this OK? What universe? In your trailer park?
Anonymous
09/06/2023 07:19
Subject: Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:
Well, we all know DCUM is in full support of the weird (mostly) Gen Y/Z obsession with their kids needing to cram something in their mouths every 60-90 minutes between meals, lest they wither and die on the vine.
Their kids probably weigh 200 lb from all the sandwiches and muffins these women shove in them every two hours.
Anonymous
09/06/2023 07:14
Subject: Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:Because the idea of letting a kid go hungry just seems awful, but maybe that's just me.
Maybe people should feed their own kids and not rely on others to do it?
Also, failure to take care of your own kids may result in them gobbling up junk food that this woman generously offers.
I would rather my kids be hungry and wait for dinner than eat your junk.
Anonymous
09/05/2023 21:53
Subject: Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:Can someone link to the bacon thread?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/908921.page
Anonymous
09/05/2023 20:29
Subject: Where are people’s manners?
Can someone link to the bacon thread?
Anonymous
09/05/2023 20:21
Subject: Where are people’s manners?
Almond mom is a perfect term. Glad I learned something today.
Anonymous
09/05/2023 18:46
Subject: Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Who invites someone to their house and doesn't have plenty of food and snacks for them? Sounds like you couldn't afford this rental. If you were scraping by you should not have invited them to come.
A pinch-faced, unhealthily skinny socially inept WASP with food issues. There are a lot of them in the DC area.
I remember one of them in our ES in NW DC, who had a non-dropoff birthday party for 1st graders, but didn't have any food or beverages for the parents who had to stick around for 2 hours.
I can totally picture it.
Anonymous
09/05/2023 18:25
Subject: Where are people’s manners?
Anonymous wrote:I don't get why you invited a family over for dinner, specifically told them to come after lunch so you don't have to feed them, specifically told them to bring snacks so you don't have to feed them snacks....that's a weird flex.
They were rude to not ask, yes, but you are not a gracious host. At all. If guests are coming after lunch you could easily have put out a spread of snacks and drinks.
+1 this is very strange. If we are hosting people for a certain period, we have the requisite food for meals, snacks etc.