Anonymous
07/05/2023 14:56
Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some
My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.
How? Lingerie is lingerie.
Well OPs son would love it
Anonymous
07/05/2023 11:45
Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:My in-laws gave us a pair of exquisite champagne glasses a few days before the wedding. We used them to toast at the wedding, and still use them for our anniversary and New Years. It has several advantages over other gifts here: small, meaningful, they are impractical in that I would not have spent that much money on them for myself, and yet practical since we do use them.
These would sit unused in my house, collecting dust and taking up space. We rarely drink champagne or wine. When we have guests over that do, I wouldn't want the using my 'exquisite' glasses of which I only had 2.
Anonymous
07/05/2023 10:45
Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:My in-laws gave us a pair of exquisite champagne glasses a few days before the wedding. We used them to toast at the wedding, and still use them for our anniversary and New Years. It has several advantages over other gifts here: small, meaningful, they are impractical in that I would not have spent that much money on them for myself, and yet practical since we do use them.
I got these too but so impractical for our apartment, it takes up precious storage space. I think paying for a private beachside honeymoon dinner would be a nice treat for your son and DIL. I actually like the cashmere pashmina idea too.
Anonymous
07/05/2023 09:22
Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
My in-laws gave us a pair of exquisite champagne glasses a few days before the wedding. We used them to toast at the wedding, and still use them for our anniversary and New Years. It has several advantages over other gifts here: small, meaningful, they are impractical in that I would not have spent that much money on them for myself, and yet practical since we do use them.
Anonymous
07/05/2023 09:04
Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some
My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.
How? Lingerie is lingerie.
Anonymous
07/05/2023 08:54
Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Silver candlesticks. My mom used hers every day and so do I. Will likely get them for all of our kids.
I got a set from our wedding and it felt like such an impersonal gift. We never use them.
So again, ask the DIL. You don't want this to turn into a resentment fest.
We all need silver candlesticks. You’re gonna be screwed when you help that homeless person who you let stay with you who then steals your candlesticks, is caught by the cops and is exonerated by you when you show up and say you gave them to them which results in homeless person experiencing such an epiphany that much singing and dancing ensues.
You’re screwed if you don’t have silver candlesticks.
Anonymous
07/05/2023 08:40
Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
I still think my idea of a high quality weekend bag with no obvious logos is a great idea. I'd like one!
Anonymous
07/05/2023 08:39
Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ask your son what her favorite nursery is and give her a gift card to it. I could spend thousands of dollars on plants, pots, a fountain, etc. And as a gardener, it's so much more fun to pick out your own plants. For presentation you could buy a pot of annuals and stick an envelope with the card and gift card in it.
I would never buy someone else a tree. It may not work at all with what she wants her garden to look like. This is the outdoor equivalent of buying someone a painting.
Wow. This is so personal to the writer. I would have a nursery gift card.
Missed where they both live gardening. I take it back. A gardening gift Certificate wills be lovely.
Anonymous
07/05/2023 08:38
Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:Ask your son what her favorite nursery is and give her a gift card to it. I could spend thousands of dollars on plants, pots, a fountain, etc. And as a gardener, it's so much more fun to pick out your own plants. For presentation you could buy a pot of annuals and stick an envelope with the card and gift card in it.
I would never buy someone else a tree. It may not work at all with what she wants her garden to look like. This is the outdoor equivalent of buying someone a painting.
Wow. This is so personal to the writer. I would have a nursery gift card.
Anonymous
07/05/2023 08:36
Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:What about some lovely lingerie? Every bride needs some
My mil did this to me. It was so awful. So awkward.
Anonymous
07/05/2023 08:34
Subject: Re:Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Get her a hori hori knife for the garden. I wish I'd had one growing up on the farm. Our garden alone was over an acre. When my mom used mine, she had me order 4 more!
https://www.amazon.com/Hokuru-Hori-Knife-Landscaping-Sharpening/dp/B07WNDQVH2/ref=sr_1_11?keywords=hori+hori&qid=1688411025&sr=8-11
Serious gardener here. I would somehow manage to require a visit to the emergency room if I had one of these. That would certainly make for fond memories of mil.
I’m the gardener below you and yes—this is my most treasured garden tool!
Anonymous
07/05/2023 08:29
Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m old fashioned (but not a Boomer - Gen X) and think that heavy Cranes stationery with “The Lastnames” on it would be nice, if they are sharing a name. Or their combined names, if that’s what they are doing.
I'm also a GenXer (1965). This would never get used in my house and I'd find a way to recycle it as soon as possible.
I’m old and miss the days of writing letters. The amount of time I used to spend hunting for the perfect stationary…
Not a good idea pp, even for us oldies.
Anonymous
07/05/2023 08:26
Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:I think she would love some beautiful crystal or decorative items for the home. They would be treasured - I always give them as gifts and the recipients love them!
What is kind of sad is that I make bird baths and fountains out of crystal vases and lamp bases. Do you know how much crystal ends up in thrift stores? Everyone gets crystal vases as gifts and they get donated all the time.
This doesn’t mean op’s dil wouldn’t be happy getting one. If she’s kind she’ll appreciate what op gets her - well, unless it’s art or furniture.
Anonymous
07/04/2023 22:09
Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.
Do people really want and display these things in their house? I enjoyed my wedding and all but there is literally not one item from our wedding in the house, other than a photo album that is tucked away. These things just seem very mawkish and, well, middlebrow.
Anonymous
07/04/2023 20:49
Subject: Wedding Gifts for future daughter in law
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP I know you wanted something for her shower but since you mentioned the sunflower garden, maybe you could do something like this with those flowers or just the same flowers that she might cherish. You are very thoughtful and I wish you were my mother in law. https://www.timelessfloralsstl.com/shop
OP here. I love these, especially since we share such a strong love of gardening and flowers. I’ve never seen anything like them. Thank you so much
My pleasure. Please don’t let the sayers of nay get you down. I’m sure she will love whatever you come up with.