I think we need to be more intentional about how we raise boys. For the last generation or two, we’ve been increasingly thoughtful about how we raise girls—don’t focus on their looks; get them toys like legos that help them develop tech skills; encourage them to play sports and do debate so they aren’t shrinking violets. We give our girls boys names and buy them clothes from the boy’s department. But what about our boys? What are we doing to encourage them to be more nurturing/caring, more expressive with their emotions, more cooperative, more outgoing socially? Are we buying them dollhouses, signing them up for clubs that require cooperative communication, avoiding emphasizing their strength/stoicism, praising them for being helpful, nurturing, empathetic?
As much as “shrinking violet” disease was harmful to our girls, “strong and silent” disease is destroying our boys. We need to raise boys that will be helpmates and partners to the girls we are raising. And I will say it is damn tough. I thought counteracting society’s messages to girls would be hard but it really hasn’t been that bad. But the constraint stream of violent and sexist stuff directed at boys is just overwhelming.

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Anonymous wrote:I am all for supporting women and encouraging them to be leaders. However, I hate what we are doing in society today, forgetting about the boys and younger men sometimes. The old white guys seem to women out in the old generation. But they are different than the young males who are struggling right now.

In my company (in a field that was formerly considered male dominant), 65% of the leadership is women. We were told specifically to promote women into these positions, and once the women are in they continue to push other women into leadership positions. It's like the good old boys network except the other direction.

You think this is a bad thing?

I am not sure if it is a bad thing. I don't think it's a good thing, in my opinion. It isn't because the men are less qualified, per se, to be in leadership positions. I think when decisions are made base on gender, race, sexual preference, then it can become an issue. Ensuring there is diversity versus seeing the pendulum swing a bit too far can also have negative effects. That said, I worry less about the older generation than I am of the younger one. I wouldn't want my DD to grow up where a large swarth of the population is incompetent, whether it is male of female. It's going to be a burden on society and it's helpful to identify where we can help.

A middle-aged man with cancer once told me, "no one lights candles for us 50 year old white guys when we die". No one is worried about them and that's exactly why they need to be worried about.

Suicide rates are far worse in this demographic than any other.

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Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

Okay.

Just ignore the mass shootings, overdoses. Also ignore the lousy women managers and unhappy single parents. You worked hard and got yours.

WHAT DO YOU WANT WOMEN TO DO?

Stop going to college and grad school and stop pursuing careers, so they’ll once again have to rely on men to put roofs over their heads.

Said nobody ever. Except you of course.

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Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

It's sheer petulance. They know that their grandfathers could marry whenever they wanted to, treat their wives like slaves, and have other women on the side, no matter how unappealing they were. Life doesn't work that way anymore and they're mad. If they put half as much energy into bettering themselves that they do into complaining, they'd have no problem. And they'd be with women who actually WANT them.

You think men are two-dimensional cartoons.

If you disagree with the comment, tell us why.

While my grandfather was nearly freezing to death in a fox hole in the Ardennes his wife was shacking up with another man back home. After everything he went through he was still not known to complain very much about anything.

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Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

Okay.

Just ignore the mass shootings, overdoses. Also ignore the lousy women managers and unhappy single parents. You worked hard and got yours.

WHAT DO YOU WANT WOMEN TO DO?

QUIT TRIVIALIZING WHAT YOUNG MEN ARE GOING THROUGH!

Dropping out of school, escaping into gaming and porn, and whining about how they can’t get laid. I am all for figuring out ways to support all children, but blaming women for being selective about how they choose to date or marry isn’t the answer.

We are raising kids who are going to be ready for the modern workforce, not to mention relationships that are partnerships.

How is becoming aware of a problem "blaming women"? Defensive much?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

Okay.

Just ignore the mass shootings, overdoses. Also ignore the lousy women managers and unhappy single parents. You worked hard and got yours.

WHAT DO YOU WANT WOMEN TO DO?

Stop going to college and grad school and stop pursuing careers, so they’ll once again have to rely on men to put roofs over their heads.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

Okay.

Just ignore the mass shootings, overdoses. Also ignore the lousy women managers and unhappy single parents. You worked hard and got yours.

WHAT DO YOU WANT WOMEN TO DO?

QUIT TRIVIALIZING WHAT YOUNG MEN ARE GOING THROUGH!

I think it's really sad and wish they could be helped. But what do you propose we do to help them besides force women to be with them?

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Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

Are you appropriating the struggles of generations of women for yourself? What did you do?

Those struggles still exist.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

Okay.

Just ignore the mass shootings, overdoses. Also ignore the lousy women managers and unhappy single parents. You worked hard and got yours.

WHAT DO YOU WANT WOMEN TO DO?

QUIT TRIVIALIZING WHAT YOUNG MEN ARE GOING THROUGH!

Being losers, sitting around their basement and playing with themselves? I’m sorry, we shouldn’t have to coddle young men and we shouldn’t have to live in fear of them.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

Okay.

Just ignore the mass shootings, overdoses. Also ignore the lousy women managers and unhappy single parents. You worked hard and got yours.

WHAT DO YOU WANT WOMEN TO DO?

QUIT TRIVIALIZING WHAT YOUNG MEN ARE GOING THROUGH!

Dropping out of school, escaping into gaming and porn, and whining about how they can’t get laid. I am all for figuring out ways to support all children, but blaming women for being selective about how they choose to date or marry isn’t the answer.

We are raising kids who are going to be ready for the modern workforce, not to mention relationships that are partnerships.

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Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

It's sheer petulance. They know that their grandfathers could marry whenever they wanted to, treat their wives like slaves, and have other women on the side, no matter how unappealing they were. Life doesn't work that way anymore and they're mad. If they put half as much energy into bettering themselves that they do into complaining, they'd have no problem. And they'd be with women who actually WANT them.

You think men are two-dimensional cartoons.

If you disagree with the comment, tell us why.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

Okay.

Just ignore the mass shootings, overdoses. Also ignore the lousy women managers and unhappy single parents. You worked hard and got yours.

WHAT DO YOU WANT WOMEN TO DO?

They want women to revert back to property instead of doing any work themselves. That's it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

Okay.

Just ignore the mass shootings, overdoses. Also ignore the lousy women managers and unhappy single parents. You worked hard and got yours.

WHAT DO YOU WANT WOMEN TO DO?

They want us to take care of their lazy a***, like we did for centuries. We are obviously responsible for all the bad things that men do, just because they don't get laid enough.

Just how old are you? You've been taking care of lazy men for centuries? I'm guessing you didn't do jack shit for anyone other than yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

It's sheer petulance. They know that their grandfathers could marry whenever they wanted to, treat their wives like slaves, and have other women on the side, no matter how unappealing they were. Life doesn't work that way anymore and they're mad. If they put half as much energy into bettering themselves that they do into complaining, they'd have no problem. And they'd be with women who actually WANT them.

You think men are two-dimensional cartoons.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know what? Women had to work like crazy to break into professional careers, network, wear power suits and work there a$$es off. We had to learn all the rules of the men’s club in order to get a foot in (after centuries of being treated like chattel). Give me an effing break with this nonsense that men can no longer figure out how to be successful.

Okay.

Just ignore the mass shootings, overdoses. Also ignore the lousy women managers and unhappy single parents. You worked hard and got yours.

WHAT DO YOU WANT WOMEN TO DO?

QUIT TRIVIALIZING WHAT YOUNG MEN ARE GOING THROUGH!