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Anonymous wrote:My wife:

Educated, PhD from good school
Wonderful mom, on top of all the kids schedules, heavily involved in schools
Good fashion sense.
Likes to have fun, decent sense of humor
Excellent shape, into fitness
Great cook.
Zero libido, not willing to work on it. Sex 3-6x a year for last decade.

Do we have the same wife? Over spends on fashion, egotistical, lost friends because of her god complex. Waiting until our son is older to divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:Hard worker, works 7am—10pm weekdays and some admin on weekends
Makes about $400K (I make $200K)
Bought and renovated our beautiful home at a top notch address and another in the country where he cleared the land himself and added a pool
Adores our children, has read to them every morning since they were born (they are 16).
A giver
Emotionally breathtakingly fluent and responsive/responsible
Loves sex and giving oral, is good at it; great chemistry
The most un-selfpitying and unentitled person I have ever known. Never complains.
Is strong, warm, gentle, kind, loving, accepting, supportive, heart of a lion but demeanor of a golden retriever.
Took care of me through a serious illness
Cheated on me for three years with his own patient.
Placed our family in enormous jeopardy, could have been ruined if she sued or reported him.

Whoa. Didn’t see those last two lines coming.

Tough one. I'd keep him, the devil you know. But that does suck

I feel like there’s a lot more to unpack with this one. Maybe he is not in touch with his wants and needs, and has learned to suppress them, but deep down feels like there is something missing … which led him to the affair and the severe lapse of judgement? Pass.

NP. Whoa. Also didnt' see that coming. But then the 7-10 work schedule should have been a red flag. Days that long all week every week plus "admin" on weekends sounds like not all those hours were actual work. Too much opportunity to cheat and too little time at home (despite the reading to the kids). I'd trade away the two "top-notch" homes and pool and the income for more hours at home. And I don't know how he was able to nurse the PP through a serious illness if he was working hours like that....Sadly, to me, "strong, warm, gentle, kind, loving, accepting, supportive" people don't carry on three-year lies at the most profound level. I could only stay with this one if he altered the work hours (even with loss of income), was remorseful to his very marrow, and entered intensive couples therapy with me. Maybe not even then. I see a disconnect between loving/supportive etc. and three year affair and it's a pretty grave disconnect on the level of character. Could be salvaged but like I said -- the hours would have to change. Too much opportunity.

Something off on this one. Is he waking up the kids at 6am every day to read together? Also, this is basically a long distance relationship, with a man who may or may not have another girlfriend in his town.

Anonymous wrote:My wife:

Educated, PhD from good school
Wonderful mom, on top of all the kids schedules, heavily involved in schools
Good fashion sense.
Likes to have fun, decent sense of humor
Excellent shape, into fitness
Great cook.
Zero libido, not willing to work on it. Sex 3-6x a year for last decade.

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Anonymous wrote:Hard worker, works 7am—10pm weekdays and some admin on weekends
Makes about $400K (I make $200K)
Bought and renovated our beautiful home at a top notch address and another in the country where he cleared the land himself and added a pool
Adores our children, has read to them every morning since they were born (they are 16).
A giver
Emotionally breathtakingly fluent and responsive/responsible
Loves sex and giving oral, is good at it; great chemistry
The most un-selfpitying and unentitled person I have ever known. Never complains.
Is strong, warm, gentle, kind, loving, accepting, supportive, heart of a lion but demeanor of a golden retriever.
Took care of me through a serious illness
Cheated on me for three years with his own patient.
Placed our family in enormous jeopardy, could have been ruined if she sued or reported him.

Whoa. Didn’t see those last two lines coming.

Tough one. I'd keep him, the devil you know. But that does suck

I feel like there’s a lot more to unpack with this one. Maybe he is not in touch with his wants and needs, and has learned to suppress them, but deep down feels like there is something missing … which led him to the affair and the severe lapse of judgement? Pass.

NP. Whoa. Also didnt' see that coming. But then the 7-10 work schedule should have been a red flag. Days that long all week every week plus "admin" on weekends sounds like not all those hours were actual work. Too much opportunity to cheat and too little time at home (despite the reading to the kids). I'd trade away the two "top-notch" homes and pool and the income for more hours at home. And I don't know how he was able to nurse the PP through a serious illness if he was working hours like that....Sadly, to me, "strong, warm, gentle, kind, loving, accepting, supportive" people don't carry on three-year lies at the most profound level. I could only stay with this one if he altered the work hours (even with loss of income), was remorseful to his very marrow, and entered intensive couples therapy with me. Maybe not even then. I see a disconnect between loving/supportive etc. and three year affair and it's a pretty grave disconnect on the level of character. Could be salvaged but like I said -- the hours would have to change. Too much opportunity.

Anonymous wrote:DH:

handsome and very fit (gets compared to Matthew Mcconaughey and Bradley Cooper by strangers- looks like their love child)
decent earner 200k
very good at sharing cleaning and chores around the house (except cooking- terrible cook)
excellent with tracking financials and home/family admin
stylish without trying hard
is reliable
is smart and interested in the world
is charismatic and well regarded by peers, employers, coworkers, and subordinates
likes to read books, watch movies and shows, with me- always something to talk about
highly confident (overly confident? doesn't always do the legwork to make sure things will turn out well- just assumes they will)
has loud angry overreactions when something small happens (kid spills milk, someone doesn't let him merge in traffic)
is impatient
can be selfish/prioritizes himself (workout time, rest time, etc) over the needs of the family. a small example, he scheduled a race for the day we moved into our new house- leaving me with 2 toddlers and a house full of boxes. it was a disaster.
is always comparing who has done what in our marriage, like a running tally. "well i changed a poop this morning, so it's your turn" even though i am in the middle of cooking dinner
doesn't take even the slightest criticism well- gets very defensive
never apologizes of his own volition
has an awful, gossipy, narcissistic and interfering mother

Anonymous wrote:Very Pretty
Very good body
Dedicated Mother to the point where she can not say no and does everything for kids. Kids are becoming miserable to be around, example walking into places with no masks on or masks below the chin. We live in an area with mask mandate, mom thinks its funny. Kids on phone all the time, don't do homework, disrespectful to teachers, see sees this as showing strength and independence.
Wakes up complaining, goes to bed complaining.
Sex life is non existent.
Works from home, goes to gym, nails, shopping and such during the day so that when the kids come home she can complain about how she is always "stuck" at her desk working.
Maxes out every credit card available, spends all the money in any accounts she has access to.
Good cook.
Keeps the house clean, basically a maid to the kids. I cook and clean up also, but I am not a maid to the kids, I make them clean up rooms, bring laundry down and such. We also have housekeepers come 1 x a week to do a deep clean.
Only shows interest in me when discussing money and planning things like purchases or vacations.

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Anonymous wrote:Good earner ($225k)
Better investor. Has parlayed a small <$100k inheritance, plus our contributions over the years, into a $4M+ investment portfolio, so we generally earn more from our money than working.
Early 40s
Excellent father. Involved, loving, patient. Smart, well-educated, advanced degree, and can and will tutor our kids in any subject they need.
Good in bed, good and enthusiastic at oral and ensuring my pleasure.

Has a fetish for being spanked. Doesn’t require it to have sex, but loves it nonetheless and wants me to do it (over my lap) when we’re alone and there’s no one around to hear.

I should add good looking, works out several times a week including weights and running, athletic and trim. Good dresser. Looks younger than his age.

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Anonymous wrote:Good earner ($225k)
Better investor. Has parlayed a small <$100k inheritance, plus our contributions over the years, into a $4M+ investment portfolio, so we generally earn more from our money than working.
Early 40s
Excellent father. Involved, loving, patient. Smart, well-educated, advanced degree, and can and will tutor our kids in any subject they need.
Good in bed, good and enthusiastic at oral and ensuring my pleasure.

Has a fetish for being spanked. Doesn’t require it to have sex, but loves it nonetheless and wants me to do it (over my lap) when we’re alone and there’s no one around to hear.

I should add good looking, works out several times a week including weights and running, athletic and trim. Good dresser. Looks younger than his age.

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Anonymous wrote:Good earner ($225k)
Better investor. Has parlayed a small <$100k inheritance, plus our contributions over the years, into a $4M+ investment portfolio, so we generally earn more from our money than working.
Early 40s
Excellent father. Involved, loving, patient. Smart, well-educated, advanced degree, and can and will tutor our kids in any subject they need.
Good in bed, good and enthusiastic at oral and ensuring my pleasure.

Has a fetish for being spanked. Doesn’t require it to have sex, but loves it nonetheless and wants me to do it (over my lap) when we’re alone and there’s no one around to hear.

I should add good looking, works out several times a week including weights and running, athletic and trim. Good dresser. Looks younger than his age.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good earner ($225k)
Better investor. Has parlayed a small <$100k inheritance, plus our contributions over the years, into a $4M+ investment portfolio, so we generally earn more from our money than working.
Early 40s
Excellent father. Involved, loving, patient. Smart, well-educated, advanced degree, and can and will tutor our kids in any subject they need.
Good in bed, good and enthusiastic at oral and ensuring my pleasure.

Has a fetish for being spanked. Doesn’t require it to have sex, but loves it nonetheless and wants me to do it (over my lap) when we’re alone and there’s no one around to hear.

I should add good looking, works out several times a week including weights and running, athletic and trim. Good dresser. Looks younger than his age.

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Anonymous wrote:Hard worker, works 7am—10pm weekdays and some admin on weekends
Makes about $400K (I make $200K)
Bought and renovated our beautiful home at a top notch address and another in the country where he cleared the land himself and added a pool
Adores our children, has read to them every morning since they were born (they are 16).
A giver
Emotionally breathtakingly fluent and responsive/responsible
Loves sex and giving oral, is good at it; great chemistry
The most un-selfpitying and unentitled person I have ever known. Never complains.
Is strong, warm, gentle, kind, loving, accepting, supportive, heart of a lion but demeanor of a golden retriever.
Took care of me through a serious illness
Cheated on me for three years with his own patient.
Placed our family in enormous jeopardy, could have been ruined if she sued or reported him.

Why is he still reading every morning to 16-year olds?

I mid-wrote, he used to read to them now they all read together and then discuss.

Wow. I’m so sorry. For me, the cheating and the *incredibly* poor judgment to do it with his own patient cancel out every nice thing you wrote before. I would absolutely divorce over this, and I forgive very, very easily.

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Anonymous wrote:Hard worker, works 7am—10pm weekdays and some admin on weekends
Makes about $400K (I make $200K)
Bought and renovated our beautiful home at a top notch address and another in the country where he cleared the land himself and added a pool
Adores our children, has read to them every morning since they were born (they are 16).
A giver
Emotionally breathtakingly fluent and responsive/responsible
Loves sex and giving oral, is good at it; great chemistry
The most un-selfpitying and unentitled person I have ever known. Never complains.
Is strong, warm, gentle, kind, loving, accepting, supportive, heart of a lion but demeanor of a golden retriever.
Took care of me through a serious illness
Cheated on me for three years with his own patient.
Placed our family in enormous jeopardy, could have been ruined if she sued or reported him.

Why is he still reading every morning to 16-year olds?

I mid-wrote, he used to read to them now they all read together and then discuss.