Anonymous wrote:Our closest family friend's daughter bailed on her hs graduation and that experience gave me more empathy for the kids who were just not into high school. She's a great kid who suffered thru HS but pushed thru and made it. And come graduation day was like nope, not into it. And her parents honored that choice (it's her ceremony they pointed out).

And it reminded me that my traditional color in the lines way isn't the only way of doing things, and sometimes maintaining the relationship with the kid is worth tossing out some expectations.

All that to say, I think Jen posts that stuff so parents who have kids like that...who do things differently...don't feel so alone and judged. I think a lot of parents who otherwise live in a color in the lines worldview feel ostracized or embarrassed that they haven't parented better or raised good little kids...so when Jen posts that it reaches an audience that needs to hear that it is ok for our kids to do stuff that doesn't fit the norm and we aren't awful parents who raised little demon spawns.

in fact I think this is when Jen is at her best. pointing out things in our mom culture that are held sacred that can be shaken up or thrown out and it's ok. It's ok to not have it all together and for it to look different in different families.

If she would just stay in this lane of wisdom, authenticity, admitting to discomfort and grace for ourselves I think shed fare much better. But shes sometimes that person and mostly not that person anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:Our closest family friend's daughter bailed on her hs graduation and that experience gave me more empathy for the kids who were just not into high school. She's a great kid who suffered thru HS but pushed thru and made it. And come graduation day was like nope, not into it. And her parents honored that choice (it's her ceremony they pointed out).

And it reminded me that my traditional color in the lines way isn't the only way of doing things, and sometimes maintaining the relationship with the kid is worth tossing out some expectations.

All that to say, I think Jen posts that stuff so parents who have kids like that...who do things differently...don't feel so alone and judged. I think a lot of parents who otherwise live in a color in the lines worldview feel ostracized or embarrassed that they haven't parented better or raised good little kids...so when Jen posts that it reaches an audience that needs to hear that it is ok for our kids to do stuff that doesn't fit the norm and we aren't awful parents who raised little demon spawns.

in fact I think this is when Jen is at her best. pointing out things in our mom culture that are held sacred that can be shaken up or thrown out and it's ok. It's ok to not have it all together and for it to look different in different families.

If she would just stay in this lane of wisdom, authenticity, admitting to discomfort and grace for ourselves I think shed fare much better. But shes sometimes that person and mostly not that person anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:She seems drunk in her latest wine video. Definitely not normal.

I only read her posts. I never turn the audio on in her videos. I can’t even watch with no sound for more than a few seconds without the cringe factor. For some reason I turned the wine video on. Wow. She’ really seems over medicated or slightly high or had too much to drink. Not fall down drunk but glassy eyes, disjointed rambling sentences. She’s just doesn’t seem quite with it.

I razz on her and think she’s fake and pretentious. But watching this I could only think I hope she gets some help. She doesn’t look like she’s in a good place mentally or emotionally.

Anonymous wrote:She seems drunk in her latest wine video. Definitely not normal.

Anonymous wrote:Did anyone else find his use of “yo” and “dope” excessive for a man in his late forties? He’s trying way too hard to represent. My sense is he has been posturing his whole life, faking his heterosexuality and to some extent of the depth of his black identity. His closest friends and girlfriend are all white. On one hand he’s like respect me I’m intelligent and educated-look I even say so here on my self designed black graphic tee shirt-then on the other hand he’s dropping Tupac/DrDre/Idris Elba black culture references to keep up his street cred. It’s all so contrived.
A pp got shredded for saying she found him unattractive, while insisting it wasn’t because he’s black.
She was labeled a racist and the thread moved on.
I’ve struggled with that, why can’t she have an honest visceral reaction to the appearance of the man without being attacked?
Yesterday a man of Tyler’s height, skin tone and age struck up a conversation with me as we waited to check out of Costco. He was strikingly beautiful and attractive in every way. He is a Brazilian retired professional soccer coach who has travelled the world. He was confident and at complete ease with himself. When I contrast that with what I saw in Tyler on the video I shutter at the difference. Tyler is unattractive and it’s got nothing to do with his skin color it’s his artifice of a persona. Many of us are having a gut check that something is not right here and it makes him unattractive. Again not because of his race but because of his self conscious posturing.

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Anonymous wrote:That walking out of the graduation thing that Jen seemed to think was so cool and funny really confirmed to me that she is the kind of mom that laughs at her bratty kids yet seems to want to get away from them as much as possible. That behavior really showed some of the dreaded "privilege" that she and her followers love to identify in the rest of us. I think it wouldn't be hard to find quite a few high school kids who would think it very hip to skip graduation. But there are also quite a few parents who would step in and tell the kid to get out on that stage and walk. Because of self respect, respect for your family who got you there, respect for a rite of passage that will have meaning down the road, and respect for your classmates, some of whom may actually appreciate the diploma they receive.

the walking right out of graduation was an a-hole move. i wish every school would put into place something that discourages that type of crappy behavior. i know some schools are able to keep the kids in the seats, and some completely are not.

Anonymous wrote:That walking out of the graduation thing that Jen seemed to think was so cool and funny really confirmed to me that she is the kind of mom that laughs at her bratty kids yet seems to want to get away from them as much as possible. That behavior really showed some of the dreaded "privilege" that she and her followers love to identify in the rest of us. I think it wouldn't be hard to find quite a few high school kids who would think it very hip to skip graduation. But there are also quite a few parents who would step in and tell the kid to get out on that stage and walk. Because of self respect, respect for your family who got you there, respect for a rite of passage that will have meaning down the road, and respect for your classmates, some of whom may actually appreciate the diploma they receive.