Anonymous wrote:Omg this whole thread to find out this was some stupid lover’s quarrel. “They” wasn’t the only issue. Use an apostrophe—friend’s! No one cares about your spat. Boring!

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I detest singular they. It doesn’t work. It is a communication fail. It is absolutely a different story if you are talking about a singular person with whom you are intimate. I don’t care one bit the gender, but using “they” doesn’t work.

Okay. And this is how non binary individuals often refer to themselves —as they/them.

Anonymous wrote:Reminds me of when I had moved into a place, fairly low income neighborhood, during grad school and neighbor's kids came over to introduce themselves. The 10 year old went straight to my fridge and opened up the freezer door. I was so shocked. When I was a kid other people's fridges were completely alien territory--the rare occasion I saw inside one of them the contents seemed weird to me! I had no idea kids might be brought up where this was ok.

A couple of months later they came over to borrow butter because they were making rice krispie bars. Sure, I said. Then they asked to borrow Rice Krispies and marshmallows. Their mom (single, but she married while I lived there and within a year was sending the kids over to call 911 when she and new husband were fighting, moved away not long after) clearly was not up to the task of raising kids.

Anonymous wrote:This is why I detest singular they. It doesn’t work. It is a communication fail. It is absolutely a different story if you are talking about a singular person with whom you are intimate. I don’t care one bit the gender, but using “they” doesn’t work.

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Anonymous wrote:OP again. It’s been a few days. I’ve been busy. You all are hilarious and wound-way-too-tight. Yes, we are (were maybe) in an intimate relationship. We were in the same bed and they were asleep. I thought I could be comfortable there and the response I got indicated a different level of relationship than I thought we had. It was my second time spending the night although I’ve been there numerous other times. We’ve actually known each other for decades. We dated exclusively earlier in our lives.

Maybe I turned the thermostat down 2 degrees and not 3. Either-way, the reaction felt over the top to me and judgmental. They mentioned something about the thermostat and I said I changed it not thinking it would cause the rest of our time together to be ruined. I surely would not have uttered a word if I thought they would snap back at me and then keep going on and on about it like I had committed a criminal act. Seriously now. If it were my home and someone who has seen me naked and more who I’ve known for decades adjusted my thermostat I could have cared less.

Yeah this seems like kind of an over the top reaction from someone having a relationship with you. Hope it works out and doesn't end over a thermostat. Or maybe this is a sign that it should end.

This changes my reaction. But you used the plural 'friends' and 'they' so what else are we commenters supposed to think? The normal judgments can be thrown out an open window.

I’m human. Was upset when I posted. Intended to say friends not plural. I’m referring to they to not indicate gender. I was visiting and sleeping w a sole intimate partner not multiple people. Thanks

Anonymous wrote:OP again. It’s been a few days. I’ve been busy. You all are hilarious and wound-way-too-tight. Yes, we are (were maybe) in an intimate relationship. We were in the same bed and they were asleep. I thought I could be comfortable there and the response I got indicated a different level of relationship than I thought we had. It was my second time spending the night although I’ve been there numerous other times. We’ve actually known each other for decades. We dated exclusively earlier in our lives.

Maybe I turned the thermostat down 2 degrees and not 3. Either-way, the reaction felt over the top to me and judgmental. They mentioned something about the thermostat and I said I changed it not thinking it would cause the rest of our time together to be ruined. I surely would not have uttered a word if I thought they would snap back at me and then keep going on and on about it like I had committed a criminal act. Seriously now. If it were my home and someone who has seen me naked and more who I’ve known for decades adjusted my thermostat I could have cared less.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so now we know OP and (insert pronoun) are intimate. My question is what happened before going to sleep? (besides the obvious.) More to this story. Homeowner is pissed off about something and thermostat was a convenient way to start a fight.

Two menopausal lesbians on the spectrum?

Anonymous wrote:Super rude. Open the window