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Anonymous wrote:Im not sure what you mean by “normal weight”. I’m 5’5 and 115 pounds. I’m 55 years old. Other than when I was pregnant, I’ve been the same weight since high school. 115 is normal for me. I eat a ton. I’m just very active. I’ll never be heavier than this. My husband seems ok with it given the obesity too often seen in women my age.

Presumably "normal weight" as in the normal weight range as designated by the government. You would probably be underweight, aka not that range

Considering OP mentions stomach fat I assume she means America "Normal" or overweight. The pp you are replying to is not underweight.

Apple body types store fat in the stomach regardless of their body fat percentage. It has nothing to do with being overweight. 5'5 at 115 would be underweight or very close to it as defined by the government

+1 I am an apple. When I was 135 lbs, and 5’9”, people would ask if I was pregnant. An apple can have a tummy and still be w/ in Federal weight limits for a healthy weight.

I don’t know. I’m naturally quite thin and always have been, and DH has always seemed attracted to me, has never mentioned weight at all. I guess I am what some of you are calling “skinny” at 5’6 and 118-120, but I’ve gotten tons of male attention my whole life. I do not look bony or “like a teenage boy” or whatever else has been said. I am very small boned and have delicate feminine features, shapely legs, a round bubble butt, small but perky breasts, hourglass waist-to-hips proportions. Thin does not mean shapeless, beautiful bodies come in all shapes and sizes. Stop being so critical.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband can not keep his hands off of me when I’m 10-15lbs over the weight I prefer (still normal healthy BMI just bigger than what I like aesthetically). I also get checked out and hit on by other men more.

There are exceptions to this but, in general, most red blooded men are noticing your bigger boobs/butt over anything else when you are a normal weight vs skinny.

But you have the bigger gut and face and arms to go along with it?

Yes. That’s why it’s not my ideal weight and I am thinner.

My point is that I think most men (not all) are less critical of these things than women are. Also, keep in mind that we are discussing weight within the normal BMI range. It’s been my experience that men tend to focus more on boobs than arms when a woman is a normal, healthy weight.

I agree that most men like boobs and ass on a woman within the range of normal BMI or body fat percentages. Maybe more at the higher end of normal. OP is actually well within the range of healthy at 23% body fat. I think the triggered people are in the actual overweight or obese range. Those people are not attractive to most men and a drain on society’s healthcare system.

Yeah, I just did the BMI calculator and it looks like my BMI is 20 but I get more male attention at a BMI of around 22. So neither is close to overweight. I think all of this is dependent on height, body shape, etc but, youre definitely right that too much weight and it would not be a good look.

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Anonymous wrote:My "normal" weight is skinny. My DH prefers me happy over unhappy.

Sounds like a mentally balanced and normal DH compared to the weird ones who want their wife to stay fat for them.

Hmmm are a lot of people saying this or are you being a drama queen?

I do fully support the attitude above poster’s DH. Your DH should want to see you happy and I’m sure you look best at your normal skinny weig

It’s unfortunate that this thread became just an excuse to bash “gross fat” and “gross skinny” women when the point was just to inquire about individual people’s lived experiences at slightly different weights.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband can not keep his hands off of me when I’m 10-15lbs over the weight I prefer (still normal healthy BMI just bigger than what I like aesthetically). I also get checked out and hit on by other men more.

There are exceptions to this but, in general, most red blooded men are noticing your bigger boobs/butt over anything else when you are a normal weight vs skinny.

But you have the bigger gut and face and arms to go along with it?

Yes. That’s why it’s not my ideal weight and I am thinner.

My point is that I think most men (not all) are less critical of these things than women are. Also, keep in mind that we are discussing weight within the normal BMI range. It’s been my experience that men tend to focus more on boobs than arms when a woman is a normal, healthy weight.

I agree that most men like boobs and ass on a woman within the range of normal BMI or body fat percentages. Maybe more at the higher end of normal. OP is actually well within the range of healthy at 23% body fat. I think the triggered people are in the actual overweight or obese range. Those people are not attractive to most men and a drain on society’s healthcare system.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband can not keep his hands off of me when I’m 10-15lbs over the weight I prefer (still normal healthy BMI just bigger than what I like aesthetically). I also get checked out and hit on by other men more.

There are exceptions to this but, in general, most red blooded men are noticing your bigger boobs/butt over anything else when you are a normal weight vs skinny.

But you have the bigger gut and face and arms to go along with it?

Yes. That’s why it’s not my ideal weight and I am thinner.

My point is that I think most men (not all) are less critical of these things than women are. Also, keep in mind that we are discussing weight within the normal BMI range. It’s been my experience that men tend to focus more on boobs than arms when a woman is a normal, healthy weight.

Anonymous wrote:My "normal" weight is skinny. My DH prefers me happy over unhappy.

Sounds like a mentally balanced and normal DH compared to the weird ones who want their wife to stay fat for them.

My "normal" weight is skinny. My DH prefers me happy over unhappy.

Anonymous wrote:My husband can not keep his hands off of me when I’m 10-15lbs over the weight I prefer (still normal healthy BMI just bigger than what I like aesthetically). I also get checked out and hit on by other men more.

There are exceptions to this but, in general, most red blooded men are noticing your bigger boobs/butt over anything else when you are a normal weight vs skinny.

But you have the bigger gut and face and arms to go along with it?

My husband can not keep his hands off of me when I’m 10-15lbs over the weight I prefer (still normal healthy BMI just bigger than what I like aesthetically). I also get checked out and hit on by other men more.

There are exceptions to this but, in general, most red blooded men are noticing your bigger boobs/butt over anything else when you are a normal weight vs skinny.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has gained 60 pounds since we got married. I have no idea how he feels about the 25 pounds I've gained while birthing his children, working full time and running the household.

He doesn’t care, with that attitude he tuned out a long time ago

And even if he does care, he shouldn’t have a say. Sounds like he let himself go.

Anonymous wrote:My husband has gained 60 pounds since we got married. I have no idea how he feels about the 25 pounds I've gained while birthing his children, working full time and running the household.

He doesn’t care, with that attitude he tuned out a long time ago

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 5’6”. My husband wasn’t really a fan of me being 106 because my chest got smaller, but 136 would be way too much for him.

That’s a normal weight. That’s not a normal husband.

I would have a gut at 136. I’m very small boned and skinny fat at 125.

I’m like this too. Weight looks different on different people. I’m around the same height and the only time I got to around 136 lbs was when I was pregnant full-term and I gave birth to 7 lb plus babies.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 5’6”. My husband wasn’t really a fan of me being 106 because my chest got smaller, but 136 would be way too much for him.

That’s a normal weight. That’s not a normal husband.

I would have a gut at 136. I’m very small boned and skinny fat at 125.

I guess I just think it’s sad that some of you equate eating a burger to going up several sizes. You honestly can eat a burger, pizza, tacos, etc. without resigning yourself to gaining weight. People have such disordered views of eating. Like I enjoy a Five Guys burger, Bojangles chicken, and pizza occasionally and my size has remained steady. It’s like people think it’s either starving anorexia, or binging gluttony. Plenty of us live in the space between.