Anonymous
Post 01/01/2021 00:21     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 3rd-grade DS is friends with another kid - has been since 1st grade. We hang out with the parents in a large group fairly often, maybe once a month or so, and we've had them to our house for dinner and vice-versa (pre-COVID). We really like them.

I texted the Mom to hang out outdoors by our fire pit this weekend. She texted me back, "Hi! Thanks. We really appreciate the invite, but at this stage, we're just not in the market for more new friends right now and don't have the time to juggle it all." I am MORTIFIED. Mortified. Mortified, as if I want the floor to swallow me whole. I feel like someone who asked a kid to dance at the prom and got rejected. I don't even know how to respond. Help????


Maybe you need to stop being so dramatic.


Look who’s found the thread.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2021 00:03     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Not in the market for new friends.

What a strange thing to say.
Anonymous
Post 12/31/2020 22:57     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Maybe it’s Hilaria.
Anonymous
Post 12/31/2020 10:33     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
I’d just let it go and move on without the family. It’s a weird and awkward response and the hearts..bizarre
When your kids get to MS the dynamics will change weekly so just move on without them
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2020 17:39     Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
I think I'd say "our kids have known each other since 1st grade, so we're not "new" friends, but I understand." <creep away and never show your face again>

I hate that kind of people who have to brag how busy they are with so many friends they can't possibly fit in someone "new". Blech. Good riddance.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2020 10:48     Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP!
So, I let this go for a few days until the total awkwardness on my part melted off. I also asked a couple of other friends who thought it was weird but who know her and have hung out with her, so...

I ended up sending a breezy (remember the Breezy friends episode?) text: "Ha, OK. Take good care and hope to see you around."

THEN she replied with four Emoji hearts. I'm basically...done. Yeah. Weird. Ugh. I hate being an adult.


What do you think she meant by the four hearts? Red hearts for love? Yellow hearts for friendship?

That's pretty intense - hearts are to show someone how much you care about them - which is the opposite of her reply to the invitation. Sounds like she's backtracking?


Speaking of being on the spectrum .....
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2020 10:05     Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP!
So, I let this go for a few days until the total awkwardness on my part melted off. I also asked a couple of other friends who thought it was weird but who know her and have hung out with her, so...

I ended up sending a breezy (remember the Breezy friends episode?) text: "Ha, OK. Take good care and hope to see you around."

THEN she replied with four Emoji hearts. I'm basically...done. Yeah. Weird. Ugh. I hate being an adult.


What do you think she meant by the four hearts? Red hearts for love? Yellow hearts for friendship?

That's pretty intense - hearts are to show someone how much you care about them - which is the opposite of her reply to the invitation. Sounds like she's backtracking?
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 21:32     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:There's a woman like this in my neighborhood. I thought she just hated me for a couple years until my husband met her. He immediately recognized that she was pretty far on the spectrum (possibly because he has a closer relative with Asperger's). Somehow that never occurred to me before he mentioned it.

Sounds like she lacks social skills for whatever reason.


OMG. That's a nice story about your husband but again, this has nothing to do with anyone being "on the spectrum". She's just rude. Please stop.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 21:29     Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP!
So, I let this go for a few days until the total awkwardness on my part melted off. I also asked a couple of other friends who thought it was weird but who know her and have hung out with her, so...

I ended up sending a breezy (remember the Breezy friends episode?) text: "Ha, OK. Take good care and hope to see you around."

THEN she replied with four Emoji hearts. I'm basically...done. Yeah. Weird. Ugh. I hate being an adult.


What could she have replied that wouldn’t have ticked you off, though?


Yeah. The problem is OP is too easily ticked off.

How is your social skills class going?


Unfortunately I don't think the person who sent OP the tacky, awkward response is here to answer this question. Since I'm sure that's who you meant it for..
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 21:16     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:I’d send her some kind of whacko gif, passive aggressive or over the top search terms with a wink and thumbs up. Make it as awkward as possible.


+100
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 15:41     Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP!
So, I let this go for a few days until the total awkwardness on my part melted off. I also asked a couple of other friends who thought it was weird but who know her and have hung out with her, so...

I ended up sending a breezy (remember the Breezy friends episode?) text: "Ha, OK. Take good care and hope to see you around."

THEN she replied with four Emoji hearts. I'm basically...done. Yeah. Weird. Ugh. I hate being an adult.


What were you hoping to get from your friends? And what did they give you?


Huh?
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 11:17     Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP!
So, I let this go for a few days until the total awkwardness on my part melted off. I also asked a couple of other friends who thought it was weird but who know her and have hung out with her, so...

I ended up sending a breezy (remember the Breezy friends episode?) text: "Ha, OK. Take good care and hope to see you around."

THEN she replied with four Emoji hearts. I'm basically...done. Yeah. Weird. Ugh. I hate being an adult.


What were you hoping to get from your friends? And what did they give you?
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 11:14     Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Hanging out once a month is not often. It sounds like you need to just let it go. You weren't friends.


Are you the socially awkward mom texted? Once a month is very frequent for close friends, let alone casual friends. People travel, have activities and family events, so dates don’t match up.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 10:04     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like borderline personality disorder. Extreme fear of closeness causes a person to fear rejection so badly that they reject others preemptively. She is afraid you will see through her somehow. Just do not reply or attempt to engage and do not be intimidated into letting your feelings get involved.

Mental health professional here. You can’t assume BPD based on this info.


She does sound like a b!tch though!


NP. She does not sound like a bitch to me. She sounds like she does not have time for more social interactions. She was being honest. She does not want to have to decline multiple invitations. I actually find it refreshing. Some women truly do not have time to do one more thing between work and kids. Give her a break.


There is nothing refreshing or nice about being rude. Can you imagine everyone being 'honest' like that and commenting on every single thing they don't like about you? If the woman doesn't have time she can just say that - "Sorry, we are busy and life has been really hectic these days. Due to the pandemic, we have really closed our circle and are staying put. Hope you are doing well. We miss you and hope to see you on the other side of this"..or something like this. English isn't my first language so I am sure she could have come up with something nicer than this. She doesn't really deserve a break. Strop patronizing such people. It's not that hard to be civil.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2020 08:44     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Op, once its safe to do so, I hope you have large parties around the fire pit and don't invite her to a single one.


You know she won’t care, right? She rejected OP first.