Anonymous wrote:Funny anecdote: In the mid 80s sometime, when I was ~ 10 and on the chubby side (and definitely loved less because of it), my mom went on a huge diet with a nutritionist/coach and urged me to follow the rules too. One afternoon I was going to get my after-school snack and was about to eat one of my favorites, which was stoned wheat crackers with cream cheese spread on top. She urged me to make a healthier choice. I said great, how about a banana? She said no, bananas are fattening. I said how about some grapes? She said no, too much sugar. I said screw it, I'll take the crackers and cream cheese. So even then, some people knew that bananas and grapes weren't the top choices.

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Anonymous wrote:She describes her daughter as always big, including being an 8 pound baby who ate every drop of her bottle.

I thought that was a weird description too. I mean, my dd who was 8lb 14oz, is now a 5ft tall, 110lb 19 year old-not sure what OP's dd birthweight has to do with anything?

And the part about having dd 'diagnosed' as obese, makes it sound like she was making a big deal about dd's weight to doctors. While I do agree that activity and healthy diet are the best way to maintain a healthy weight, it's odd that OP is so fixated on certain things.

OP explicitly described it as the other way around. She said that, until the doctor made a big deal about her DD's weight, she didn't realize.

This is a touchy subject and so many PP's are reading whatever they can into OP's posts in order to attack her. We've got a long way to go.

Read the OP's first paragraph. She said the dr diagnosed it-dd didn't drive herself to the dr, so the mother must have brought her and brought up her weight to dr.

It's not uncommon for parents to bring their children to the doctor, for well visits and sick visits.

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Please try to keep up. OP made it clear that she had not been concerned about her child's weight until the doctor brought it up. She did not bring her child to the doctor to bring up weight.

You keep up. OP 'literally' like in the first paragraph, talked about how BIG her baby had been and how much she liked her bottle! Obviously, the weight thing just didn't come up at some random dr appt.

Funny anecdote: In the mid 80s sometime, when I was ~ 10 and on the chubby side (and definitely loved less because of it), my mom went on a huge diet with a nutritionist/coach and urged me to follow the rules too. One afternoon I was going to get my after-school snack and was about to eat one of my favorites, which was stoned wheat crackers with cream cheese spread on top. She urged me to make a healthier choice. I said great, how about a banana? She said no, bananas are fattening. I said how about some grapes? She said no, too much sugar. I said screw it, I'll take the crackers and cream cheese. So even then, some people knew that bananas and grapes weren't the top choices.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think that is great.

I am just wondering why 90 minutes of exercise a day meant signing her up and driving her around to 2 sports. Why can't she bike, play games outside with friends, go to the playground, walk the dog, or walk with parents, etc...

I guess I am nervous as I grew up playing all day with friends and now it seems like you need to register your kids for things and take them - to get them to "play or exercise." Is it really this bad. My K student is my oldest and we do playdates, bike and playground, but I am really looking forward to sending her out to play without me soon. We see neighborhood kids playing basketball, street hockey, biking, etc... Is that not a thing anymore in most areas?

I am not OP but when my kid play outside, most of it is pretend play and it is not super active. Some sports are more active than others. Baseball is a lot of standing around and waiting. Soccer is running a lot.

Also something to keep in mind is that different sports are working different muscle groups and strengths/balance. They are not interchangeable. Little kids should not just do one sport year round. They should do a variety of things for physical reasons that will help them as they grow. They will be a better athlete when they are teens/college age if they do a variety of sports when they are young and not just focus on one.

Most kids' sports are not every day (and they shouldn't be for young kids) so I can see why OP needed two sports and she would also need to fill in with other stuff outside of those to get to 90 min per day. So she was probably doing the things you are thinking of - biking, scootering, roller blading, etc and then also doing two sports. It would still be hard to get to 90 min of active play a day. I can see why OP needed to be focused on that number and that she had to do two sport sign ups to get to that number.

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Anonymous wrote:She describes her daughter as always big, including being an 8 pound baby who ate every drop of her bottle.

I thought that was a weird description too. I mean, my dd who was 8lb 14oz, is now a 5ft tall, 110lb 19 year old-not sure what OP's dd birthweight has to do with anything?

And the part about having dd 'diagnosed' as obese, makes it sound like she was making a big deal about dd's weight to doctors. While I do agree that activity and healthy diet are the best way to maintain a healthy weight, it's odd that OP is so fixated on certain things.

OP explicitly described it as the other way around. She said that, until the doctor made a big deal about her DD's weight, she didn't realize.

This is a touchy subject and so many PP's are reading whatever they can into OP's posts in order to attack her. We've got a long way to go.

Read the OP's first paragraph. She said the dr diagnosed it-dd didn't drive herself to the dr, so the mother must have brought her and brought up her weight to dr.

It's not uncommon for parents to bring their children to the doctor, for well visits and sick visits.

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Please try to keep up. OP made it clear that she had not been concerned about her child's weight until the doctor brought it up. She did not bring her child to the doctor to bring up weight.

OP, I think that is great.

I am just wondering why 90 minutes of exercise a day meant signing her up and driving her around to 2 sports. Why can't she bike, play games outside with friends, go to the playground, walk the dog, or walk with parents, etc...

I guess I am nervous as I grew up playing all day with friends and now it seems like you need to register your kids for things and take them - to get them to "play or exercise." Is it really this bad. My K student is my oldest and we do playdates, bike and playground, but I am really looking forward to sending her out to play without me soon. We see neighborhood kids playing basketball, street hockey, biking, etc... Is that not a thing anymore in most areas?

Op Thank you for sharing. I am looking for ways to help my kids maintain a healthy weight and the evidence based approach is very helpful (and not necessarily intuitive to me).