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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got married at 18, had kids at 19 and 24, was a SAHM until I was 30, went to college at 35, graduated at 40, worked full time ever since then, one child got married at 20, my first grandchild was born when I was 42, got divorced at 43 (25 year marriage!), great-grandchildren in my 60s.

It was all my choices, society had nothing to do with it. My own parents married late (ages 31 and 40).

I don't regret one single minute of any of it. Happy life!

You are divorced. That's hardly great, and likely tied to getting married at 18.

Yes, very possibly tied to getting married at 18 (H was 24), both of us changed a lot in 25 years. However, I bet I had as much fun in my 40s as you did in your 20s, maybe more. So you said "hardly great" but I disagree. Not only that but my exH and I are friends and our grown kids suffered zero from the way it went, despite common opinion on DCUM that adult children can't handle such a thing. You might think a successful marriage means married forever, I think married 25 years, raising two great kids and staying friends for life is a pretty successful marriage.

Anonymous wrote:The ability to delay having children, and society’s acceptance of that, has been nothing short of a revolution for women. It’s something that previous generations could only dream of.

+10000000

I got pregnant right away at 34, super easy pregnancy and natural delivery.

Started TTC #2 at 36, but by then my fertility was completely gone. I'm now 42, have done multiple IUIs and IVFs, been TTC on our own for 5 years, zero pregnancies. I wish more than anything that I would have started earlier. I had no idea that I would end up having unexplained secondary infertility.

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Anonymous[b wrote:]It was a different time back then.[/b]

I know. That's what I'm lamenting.

I dont think it dawns in people that they live a finite number of years so postponing having children and grandchildren means those will be both less of your overall time and beyond your prime.

I see the Hispanic families at our schools and the grandparents are 50, great grandparents 70. That’s a whole lot more help around for young and old.

Ha. The city I live in is 75% Hispanic, and I know tons of families that fit your description. The girls are pressured to have kids young, their boyfriends/husbands/baby daddies treat them like absolute garbage and aren’t involved with their kids, grandparents end up doing the bulk of actual parenting, and mom is so stressed out and immature that she screams at her kids all day and pops them on the head for misbehaving.

But hey, at least they get a few extra years of dealing with this crap!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]It was a different time back then.[/b]

I know. That's what I'm lamenting.

I dont think it dawns in people that they live a finite number of years so postponing having children and grandchildren means those will be both less of your overall time and beyond your prime.

I see the Hispanic families at our schools and the grandparents are 50, great grandparents 70. That’s a whole lot more help around for young and old.

Gee, sign me up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]It was a different time back then.[/b]

I know. That's what I'm lamenting.

I dont think it dawns in people that they live a finite number of years so postponing having children and grandchildren means those will be both less of your overall time and beyond your prime.

I see the Hispanic families at our schools and the grandparents are 50, great grandparents 70. That’s a whole lot more help around for young and old.

Mic dropper:

I had a child with significant special needs when I was 29. For this particular condition, there is no correlation with age, genetics, etc.

The illusion of control is exactly that - an illusion. I hope that age and experience provide you with more wisdom and kindness than you have today.

"sad confusion." Oh my.

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Anonymous wrote:Still giggling at the ignorant mic dropper. What a ditz.

I loved how s/he dropped the mic but kept on talking.

Hahahaha

If "nature" didn't want women to have children later in life then menopause would start in the 30s. I got pregnant within 2 months of trying at age 36, 38 and 40.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s one of the huge mistakes of today’s society and I silently shake my head in sad confusion whenever I see a pregnant person in their 40s or late 30s. It’s not right. Our bodies know it’s not right, but science makes it possible.

Well, I know a number of women that got pregnant late 30's/ early 40's without help.

+1 and I am one of them. Pregnant with no help at 35 and 38.

Okay, but those eggs are not your best work. Just saying. You may have had a viable birth, but you would have better kids if you had had them earlier. Mic drop. But I’m sure the ones you have are just adorable!

I hope you have a good chiropractor! It must be painful shaking your head at so many perfectly content pregnant women.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s one of the huge mistakes of today’s society and I silently shake my head in sad confusion whenever I see a pregnant person in their 40s or late 30s. It’s not right. Our bodies know it’s not right, but science makes it possible.

Well, I know a number of women that got pregnant late 30's/ early 40's without help.

+1 and I am one of them. Pregnant with no help at 35 and 38.

Okay, but those eggs are not your best work. Just saying. You may have had a viable birth, but you would have better kids if you had had them earlier. Mic drop. But I’m sure the ones you have are just adorable!

LOL, my eggs may have been of better quality in my teens and twenties but I am a better quality mother in my 30s then I ever would have been back then. "Better kids" would not have been the result if I had them when I wasn't ready. And none of the statistics will convince me otherwise!

Anonymous wrote:Still giggling at the ignorant mic dropper. What a ditz.

I loved how s/he dropped the mic but kept on talking.

Anonymous wrote:Still giggling at the ignorant mic dropper. What a ditz.

*self proclaimed mic dropper

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