Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."
You're delusional but if you're happy then that's OK!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."
You're delusional but if you're happy then that's OK!
Anonymous wrote:I am a woman in her 50s who gets a lot of offers from men in their 20s and 30s. I look a lot younger than my age, most people assume I am in my early 30s. So if a man in his 50s thinks I am attractive, he isn't thinking "wow, what an attractive 50 something."
Anonymous wrote:
I'll concede that .01% of women in their 40's would date a 61 yr old man without any of those reasons, but more than likely, that man has to be extra special. Again, as you noted, there are a dearth of eligible older people to date, on both sides. So when women have to expand that age pool, it's because they are getting desperate. It is a lot easier for older men because physical attributes aren't *as* important to women as they are to men. Plus it just seems there are more eligible women than men.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.
I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?
40 year old woman here and I was just thinking the same thing. 61 is too old for me. My limit would be about 53, but preferably 40-45.
I am 47 female, and I would not date a 60+ year old unless he looked much younger, around 50 (maybe). My DH is in his early 50's, but looks a bit younger. He's got a bit of a belly but other than that is in pretty good shape. I am a size 4 and am about the same weight as when I got married in my early 30's.
The only way a 60+ yr old man can get a 40 yr old woman is:
1. he has lots and lots of money
2. he is very fit and looks much younger than 60
3. the woman is very very desperate
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This thread is truly nasty even for DCUM standards. Seething with bitterness.
It's pretty much right in line with DCUM nasty standards. and as usual, most of the nasty is coming from the women in this thread.
I have a great loving relationship with a woman 15 years younger than me. We have a lot of the same life experiences in common that are hard for others to understand if they haven't lived it. She isn't crazy or desperate and could easily date any number of men closer to her age, or even younger. She is attractive, fit, and not surprisingly, she gets a lot of offers.
If this weren't such a nasty place, maybe one or two woman might say, I'm happy for you both that you found each other and enjoy such a great relationship. But this isn't the place for that. Even those who say they are happily married, most of them, somehow feel very threatened by the idea of men dating younger. Some of the guys get it, but this is more of a a board for women to vent their unhappiness and bitterness and project it on to the men why feel are responsible for it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't find Katie or Gillian exceptionally attractive. Well-maintained but no more.
One nice thing about the aging process is that ugly people get to have the last laugh. Whatever natural beauty existed when you were young is irrelevant when you are in your 50s. After a certain age, looks are mostly about being "well-maintained." In fact, "rugged" faces tend to age better than "pretty" faces. Someone who was plain when they were young can be the Belle of the Ball when they are older (the over 50s ball) simply because their better-looking peers have mostly hit the wall by then.
Anonymous wrote:We're in our fifties. If I drop dead, I don't care if he finds himself a 30 or 40 year old, as long as she's a good person and kind to our kids.
Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.
Anonymous wrote:Short answer to original question is not very often. Some attraction is related to attitude, and confidence, and older women have that more than younger women. But younger women have tighter, leaner, firmer bodies. Just a fact... [/quote
Most people, men and women, even in their 20s and 30s are not fit but fat - just not attractive - as has been discussed over and over on DCUM. Overweight and/or obese is the norm in the USA but young and fat is preferable to old and fat.
Anonymous wrote:This thread is truly nasty even for DCUM standards. Seething with bitterness.