Anonymous
Post 01/02/2018 11:36     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP talked up Santa pancakes all week and the 4 year old was excited about them so OP, in the warped twisted way narcissists have, made the Santa pancakes a bizarre test of fealty and love. The four year old didn't respond to OP's Santa pancakes the way OP insisted she should, so she was punished. This is what malignant narcissists do; they take innocuous things like BREAKFAST and turn them into emotional minefields that family members have no hope of navigating because they don't even know what the test is.

OP used those stupid f*cking Santa pancakes to wage emotional warfare on her child on Christmas morning. Everyone who conflates this episode with their normal family routine of breaking to eat during Christmas morning reveals they have no experience with manipulative people. OP wanted her kid to kiss her feet for those pancakes she had talked up all week and when the kid showed a preference for the presents OP lost her shit because she doesn't know how kids and normal people work. It became a slap in the face to her.

Beta husband pleading with her to "show some forgiveness today" says it all.


This. NP here and I agree with this assessment

+1 This thread is a good test to determine narcissism.. if you sympathize more with OP, you probably are narcissistic. Something to reflect on in the new year.
Anonymous
Post 12/31/2017 22:20     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Christmas only comes once a year!!!!

So you should have eased up and let your child open all his presents first, then eat whenever he got hungry.

Trust me, letting him open a few gifts then interrupting that to eat breakfast is pretty mean to do for a kid that age.

He likely only said that about your pancakes because he was upset at you.....not that your hotcakes were really awful.

Then you sent him to his room before he could open the rest of his presents??!

You should have let him finish opening his gifts, then let him eat when he was hungry.
It’s only one day out of the year!

He definitely should not have said what he did about your cooking.
He should be forced to apologize for his unacceptable comments.

But sending him to his room on Christmas morning w/out letting him open the remainder of his goodies is just mean.

Sorry.
Not trying to be a snark.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2017 17:08     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Why are you eating pancakes anyway? Sugar is bad for your baby. Make smarter choices.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2017 19:35     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I didn't read the whole thread but I would have told her Santa doesn't bring anything next Christmas for children who are rude, especially rude on Christmas. And I would remind her through the year.


Genius move. Even the dumbest of four year olds, being told this on Christmas morning, would be like "bitch he ALREADY BROUGHT the presents."

Kids DGAF about Santa in April, July .


Maybe yours don't. Mine live in fear.


Your kids are just dumb then .
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2017 19:33     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:I didn't read the whole thread but I would have told her Santa doesn't bring anything next Christmas for children who are rude, especially rude on Christmas. And I would remind her through the year.


A four year old won't understand no presents next Christmas because its too far away. I'd tell her the presents he brought this year can be taken away.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2017 19:30     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:I was heavily pregnant last Christmas too and just over it. Cut yourself some slack... It's ok to be pissy, let your husband handle these situations and eat your pancakes. Double helping for baby hugs and good wishes for a safe delivery.


+1
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2017 19:27     Subject: Re:4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Had they been my pancakes, I would have wholeheartedly agreed with her
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2017 19:19     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I didn't read the whole thread but I would have told her Santa doesn't bring anything next Christmas for children who are rude, especially rude on Christmas. And I would remind her through the year.


Genius move. Even the dumbest of four year olds, being told this on Christmas morning, would be like "bitch he ALREADY BROUGHT the presents."

Kids DGAF about Santa in April, July .


Also, if your kid is using the b word, particularly to its mother, it doesn't have a very good mother.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2017 19:17     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I didn't read the whole thread but I would have told her Santa doesn't bring anything next Christmas for children who are rude, especially rude on Christmas. And I would remind her through the year.


Genius move. Even the dumbest of four year olds, being told this on Christmas morning, would be like "bitch he ALREADY BROUGHT the presents."

Kids DGAF about Santa in April, July .


Maybe yours don't. Mine live in fear.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2017 18:49     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:I didn't read the whole thread but I would have told her Santa doesn't bring anything next Christmas for children who are rude, especially rude on Christmas. And I would remind her through the year.


Genius move. Even the dumbest of four year olds, being told this on Christmas morning, would be like "bitch he ALREADY BROUGHT the presents."

Kids DGAF about Santa in April, July .
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2017 18:33     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
I didn't read the whole thread but I would have told her Santa doesn't bring anything next Christmas for children who are rude, especially rude on Christmas. And I would remind her through the year.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2017 18:18     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
What a bunch of fruit loops. The paddy wagon is coming for all of you!
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2017 15:46     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:OP talked up Santa pancakes all week and the 4 year old was excited about them so OP, in the warped twisted way narcissists have, made the Santa pancakes a bizarre test of fealty and love. The four year old didn't respond to OP's Santa pancakes the way OP insisted she should, so she was punished. This is what malignant narcissists do; they take innocuous things like BREAKFAST and turn them into emotional minefields that family members have no hope of navigating because they don't even know what the test is.

OP used those stupid f*cking Santa pancakes to wage emotional warfare on her child on Christmas morning. Everyone who conflates this episode with their normal family routine of breaking to eat during Christmas morning reveals they have no experience with manipulative people. OP wanted her kid to kiss her feet for those pancakes she had talked up all week and when the kid showed a preference for the presents OP lost her shit because she doesn't know how kids and normal people work. It became a slap in the face to her.

Beta husband pleading with her to "show some forgiveness today" says it all.


This. NP here and I agree with this assessment
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2017 14:56     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
Anonymous wrote:Hah. OP here, and I was NOT sock puppeting. I'm also not fat (unless you think being pregnant counts). And I'm hardly abusive or manipulative to my DD. I did wait all morning to eat, we don't often get to have meals together and I think of holidays as a time to do that. I truly didn't realize that that isn't common for Christmas. And I really don't care what any of you say, DD was totally in the wrong for calling the breakfast disgusting. And santa pancakes are just mini pancakes with whip cream and strawberries and powdered sugar on them. She had that and fruit on her plate, hardly anything difficult to down quickly. But definitely messy enough to keep in the kitchen. DH also supported me in getting her into the kitchen to eat.

And those of you saying I could have waited five minutes, DD was opening each present and wanting to take them out of the box to play with them. It would have taken hours! And you can happily ask Jeff if I'm sockpuppetting. I'm appalled by the number of parents who are okay with their children speaking like that. Four year olds know better. Sure, next year I may make breakfast more "mobile" but my not doing taht this year does not make me horrid. Those of you piling on should be ashamed of yourselves.



The pattern I see here is being overly critical and punitive, to others probably because you are that way to yourself. OP I know you are pregnant but this voice probably goes in your head all the time, pregnant or not. I want you to think back to how your parents criticized you and how you felt. Do you want to kill your child's spirit in the same way? Her having done something undesirable isn't a reason for you to lash out. Just figure out where your real anger needs to be directed -- against the criticism you probably received all your life -- and let it out so you can do better.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2017 14:44     Subject: 4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting
I was heavily pregnant last Christmas too and just over it. Cut yourself some slack... It's ok to be pissy, let your husband handle these situations and eat your pancakes. Double helping for baby hugs and good wishes for a safe delivery.