Anonymous wrote:They have already shown that they are paranoid about 'particles in the air" Thats going to be very difficult to overcome with young children. Also they have the cabin, so thee is literally no place to go to keep away from these fears.

Anonymous wrote:You sound like my SIL, OP. My children have multiple allergies, including gluten and dairy. My SIL showed up at every single family gathering with a food that my child could not eat. She'd always say, "Oh, Larla can't eat the BUTTER on the green beans?" Everyone else respected my DC's allergies and brought food she could eat. But my SIL always wanted her kids "favorites."

My child could die if she eats certain foods. Everyone in the family understands and respects this, except for SIL., who found it a total PITA to bring an allergen-free food to a family holiday celebration.

My entire family eats GF foods. There are lots that are fine. They are indistinguishable from wheat-based foods: breads, pasta, cookies, cakes, etc.

As a PP said, it's really difficult to feed a child with multiple allergies. Be grateful you only have to feed your children GF foods for a few days. You have it easy, OP. Gratitude is the key to happiness.

My entire family eats GF foods. There are lots that are fine. They are indistinguishable from wheat-based foods: breads, pasta, cookies, cakes, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I wasn't able to get a direct answer from the Celiac Disease Foundation website, but there is indication that a small amount ofcross-contamination each day is safe (and this is one reason why less than 20 ppm as the US labelling standard is safe for considering "gluten-free"):

According to the Center’s website, “research from the Center has shown that 10 milligrams per day of gluten consumption is a safe level for the vast majority of individuals with celiac disease.” The Center’s website goes on to state that 10 milligrams is roughly the equivalent of one-eighth of a teaspoon of flour, or 18 slices of bread with each slice containing 20 ppm of gluten.
Read more at https://celiac.org/celiac-disease/resources/fast-facts-fda-gluten-free-labeling-rule/#d3W1JixfyChsWsrK.99

There is also indication that people with celiac disease have differing levels of sensitivity:

Be assertive: depending on your sensitivity, you may want to let your server or host know how severe your reaction can be. Letting them know will help alleviate some of your stress.
Read more at https://celiac.org/live-gluten-free/gluten-free-lifestyle/tips-and-tricks/#v3REpH04GeuiyWPP.99

If this child is that sensitive and the diagnosis is recent and they have a newborn, the child is too sick to be visiting a remote cabin with other children. This child needs to stay near the hospital. Think of the guilt that OP will be subjected to if her kid puts a grain of food near this severely compromised child. It is just not the right setting.

You don't understand how celiac works.

A celiac reaction isn't something that requires you to be suddenly rushed to a hospital. Gluten can cause short term discomfort, but not hospital level discomfort, but the issue is that it causes long term damage to the vilii in the intestines, which can lead to compromised nutritional status and developmental issues, as well as susceptibility to conditions such as diabetes.

We know very little about OP's nephew's disease status, but it seems likely that the "safe" amount of gluten is less for a smaller body.

But I DO know how PEOPLE work and this is a powder keg.

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If this child is that sensitive and the diagnosis is recent and they have a newborn, the child is too sick to be visiting a remote cabin with other children. This child needs to stay near the hospital. Think of the guilt that OP will be subjected to if her kid puts a grain of food near this severely compromised child. It is just not the right setting.

That's it, really. This isn't really about the food, and no lists of options will help the real issue. Neither will commentary that OP is inadequate if she and her kids can't deal with just changing food for five days, even with the picky eating issue aside.

It's the drama. No, that's understandable and appropriate drama, but it is drama (heightened emotions, high stakes, limited choice, no real flexibility, potential for bad outcomes, heavily invested parties (for understandable reasons), and a newborn baby and just postpartum mom, for chrissake). If this vacation were within a half hour drive of some simple small town restaurants and a grocery, I think it would be perfectly do-able. If the OP could potentially stay at a nearby hotel or two if people needed a break, it would be do-able. If there wasn't a newborn baby necessitating the cabin assignment -- bless its heart and glad it is in the woeld with us -- I think it would be do-able. If the parents and grandmother had dealt with celiac disease before and had a level of assuredness about it, it would be do-able.

As it is, it is technically do-able, but it's a powderkeg, and that's nobody's fault. It just is what it is. One loving response is to change things and have the same warm experiences, just spread out over a longer timeframe with fewer pressures.

There is nothing magical about those five days in that remote place. Other families don't have a summer cabin, and they still love each other and support each other. I can almost guarantee you that if this were my life, trying to force that powderkeg to be a perfect magical moment would lead to more strain in the long run over family relationships. Just not the outcome I'd want. Might work differently for others, but I can see that in my family, the kind, loving, involved, and gentle thing would be to visit a little later and with a little more flexible circumstances.

Ha! And that's not because we can't figure out how to sub out a corn tortilla.

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Anonymous wrote:I wasn't able to get a direct answer from the Celiac Disease Foundation website, but there is indication that a small amount ofcross-contamination each day is safe (and this is one reason why less than 20 ppm as the US labelling standard is safe for considering "gluten-free"):

According to the Center’s website, “research from the Center has shown that 10 milligrams per day of gluten consumption is a safe level for the vast majority of individuals with celiac disease.” The Center’s website goes on to state that 10 milligrams is roughly the equivalent of one-eighth of a teaspoon of flour, or 18 slices of bread with each slice containing 20 ppm of gluten.
Read more at https://celiac.org/celiac-disease/resources/fast-facts-fda-gluten-free-labeling-rule/#d3W1JixfyChsWsrK.99

There is also indication that people with celiac disease have differing levels of sensitivity:

Be assertive: depending on your sensitivity, you may want to let your server or host know how severe your reaction can be. Letting them know will help alleviate some of your stress.
Read more at https://celiac.org/live-gluten-free/gluten-free-lifestyle/tips-and-tricks/#v3REpH04GeuiyWPP.99

If this child is that sensitive and the diagnosis is recent and they have a newborn, the child is too sick to be visiting a remote cabin with other children. This child needs to stay near the hospital. Think of the guilt that OP will be subjected to if her kid puts a grain of food near this severely compromised child. It is just not the right setting.

You don't understand how celiac works.

A celiac reaction isn't something that requires you to be suddenly rushed to a hospital. Gluten can cause short term discomfort, but not hospital level discomfort, but the issue is that it causes long term damage to the vilii in the intestines, which can lead to compromised nutritional status and developmental issues, as well as susceptibility to conditions such as diabetes.

We know very little about OP's nephew's disease status, but it seems likely that the "safe" amount of gluten is less for a smaller body.

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Anonymous wrote:I wasn't able to get a direct answer from the Celiac Disease Foundation website, but there is indication that a small amount ofcross-contamination each day is safe (and this is one reason why less than 20 ppm as the US labelling standard is safe for considering "gluten-free"):

According to the Center’s website, “research from the Center has shown that 10 milligrams per day of gluten consumption is a safe level for the vast majority of individuals with celiac disease.” The Center’s website goes on to state that 10 milligrams is roughly the equivalent of one-eighth of a teaspoon of flour, or 18 slices of bread with each slice containing 20 ppm of gluten.
Read more at https://celiac.org/celiac-disease/resources/fast-facts-fda-gluten-free-labeling-rule/#d3W1JixfyChsWsrK.99

There is also indication that people with celiac disease have differing levels of sensitivity:

Be assertive: depending on your sensitivity, you may want to let your server or host know how severe your reaction can be. Letting them know will help alleviate some of your stress.
Read more at https://celiac.org/live-gluten-free/gluten-free-lifestyle/tips-and-tricks/#v3REpH04GeuiyWPP.99

If this child is that sensitive and the diagnosis is recent and they have a newborn, the child is too sick to be visiting a remote cabin with other children. This child needs to stay near the hospital. Think of the guilt that OP will be subjected to if her kid puts a grain of food near this severely compromised child. It is just not the right setting.

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If this child is that sensitive and the diagnosis is recent and they have a newborn, the child is too sick to be visiting a remote cabin with other children. This child needs to stay near the hospital. Think of the guilt that OP will be subjected to if her kid puts a grain of food near this severely compromised child. It is just not the right setting.

Anonymous wrote:I wasn't able to get a direct answer from the Celiac Disease Foundation website, but there is indication that a small amount ofcross-contamination each day is safe (and this is one reason why less than 20 ppm as the US labelling standard is safe for considering "gluten-free"):

According to the Center’s website, “research from the Center has shown that 10 milligrams per day of gluten consumption is a safe level for the vast majority of individuals with celiac disease.” The Center’s website goes on to state that 10 milligrams is roughly the equivalent of one-eighth of a teaspoon of flour, or 18 slices of bread with each slice containing 20 ppm of gluten.
Read more at https://celiac.org/celiac-disease/resources/fast-facts-fda-gluten-free-labeling-rule/#d3W1JixfyChsWsrK.99

There is also indication that people with celiac disease have differing levels of sensitivity:

Be assertive: depending on your sensitivity, you may want to let your server or host know how severe your reaction can be. Letting them know will help alleviate some of your stress.
Read more at https://celiac.org/live-gluten-free/gluten-free-lifestyle/tips-and-tricks/#v3REpH04GeuiyWPP.99

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Anonymous wrote:OP, this is not what you want to hear but here goes. Why are you allowing your 4 year old to have such a limited diet? Kids learn from their homes. Forget the gluten issue. Fill you home with a variety of good food, and keep presenting it. Your kids will eat more than chicken nuggets soon enough. Unless they have a rare disorder, your children will not starve themselves if you give them different foods on a consistent basis. It would also help if you and your DH ate differently, and served everyone one meal. Don't serve kid meals. Unless, god forbid, you are also eating chicken nuggets. You do realize that the nutritional value of food out of a package is not very high, right?

OP here - people parent differently and I totally disagree with you. My older one used to be like his little brother but little by little he has gotten more open minded and we are encouraging him without forcing him. I believe my LO will too over time, so this is just a battle I choose not to fight at this age, esp. While on 'vacation' when other stressors are present.

You realize the diet your child eats before he (or she) is 5 is the diet that will set them up for life. Most likely - you will a child with life long eating disorders and probably obesity. Be a parent - not a friend.

What? I was the pickiest eater imaginable as a child and pretty much hated everything (and my parents were like a lot of the posters and wouldn't give in, so I learned creative ways of disposing of food). I was the child who'd rather get sick from hunger than eat what I did not want. Now I love everything, including plain brussel sprouts and turnips. I grew out of my pickiness naturally. Or look at it this way - how many organic-everything, healthy eating posters on these boards were fed the typical diet of lunchables and kool aid by their parents in the 1970s?

As to the original topic, this vacation sounds like a trip from hell. People may dispute all they want whether OP should have picky children, but she does at the moment and they won't drastically change in a few weeks. It's one thing to visit a very restricted house where you can go out to eat if it gets too onerous, but stuck in the middle of nowhere with cranky children and a bunch of in-laws? That's punishment, not a vacation.

Oh look, an anecdote. That must negate data.

According to the Center’s website, “research from the Center has shown that 10 milligrams per day of gluten consumption is a safe level for the vast majority of individuals with celiac disease.” The Center’s website goes on to state that 10 milligrams is roughly the equivalent of one-eighth of a teaspoon of flour, or 18 slices of bread with each slice containing 20 ppm of gluten.
Read more at https://celiac.org/celiac-disease/resources/fast-facts-fda-gluten-free-labeling-rule/#d3W1JixfyChsWsrK.99

Be assertive: depending on your sensitivity, you may want to let your server or host know how severe your reaction can be. Letting them know will help alleviate some of your stress.
Read more at https://celiac.org/live-gluten-free/gluten-free-lifestyle/tips-and-tricks/#v3REpH04GeuiyWPP.99

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Anonymous wrote:The mass hysteria over food allergies is just insane. I say this as a mom whose child has a peanut/tree nut allergy. I was hysterical for the first year thinking my kid could die at any moment. Then I really looked at the number of deaths due to food allergies and it is minuscule. The numbers of deaths you find on food allergy websites aren't accurate. More people are dying from insect stings and lightening strikes.
I refuse to believe the 2 year old is so sensitive to gluten that you can't prepare food in the same kitchen if you use paper plates and some Clorox wipes to clean up crumbs. There is no way he could ever go to preschool, the park, a zoo, etc.

Celiac isn't an allergy.

If a person has celiac, they can't process gluten, which is a type of protein found in wheat products. It damages the lining of their intestines causing malabsorption, malnutrition, muscle aches and joint pain, exhaustion, failure to thrive in kids, painful gut cramping, gas, bloating and diarrhea/constipation. Some people with celiac can take a little bit of cross-contamination without too much trouble. Many people with celiac get terrible symptoms from even a minute gluten exposure.

Why would you advocate doing that to a two year old?

Post a link to a peer reviewed medical journal that indicates minute exposure to gluten causes terrible symptoms. If that were the case, a child would have to live in a bubble and never attend school, go to a park or visit a store. There are crumbs and flour dust all over. It is reasonable not to eat bread products in the presence of the 2 year old so he doesn't feel excluded but to not allow a crumb to touch a kitchen counter when the 2 year old is napping is ridiculous.