Anonymous
Post 09/11/2018 15:55     Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:We had a very lively debate at Christmas dinner after it came out that my husband and I fold and put away our own clothes. We each do our fair share of laundry, but I probably do it more because I work a part time schedule. But once it comes out of the dryer, we each take care of our own stuff. It has never even occurred to me to put his clothes away. He's a grown man and is perfectly capable of doing this himself.

All of the other wives were astonished and apparently always fold and put away their husband's clothes. None of the husbands ever put their wives' clothes away. FWIW, the other couples were 10+ years older than my husband and I. (DH and I are late 30's/early 40's)

Are we the outliers or are there other couples like us?


In our relationship, DW and I fold clothes based on availability. I usually get home before she does, so if I see clothes that need to be folded and put away, I fold and put away the clothes. My DW does not fold and put away my clothes because I am particular about how I fold my clothes and she does it differently. Therefore, I just fold my own stuff. But, she does the laundry because she doesn't like how I do it.
Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 23:11     Subject: Re:Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
DH has been on laundry duty since I got pregnant, about a year and a half ago. lol
Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 22:54     Subject: Re:Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
No I don’t. I did that when we first got married 10+ years ago but the douche bag complained about how it was done so I stopped. One less chore. Lol

Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 16:17     Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
DH washes, I fold, we each put away our own clothes. All clothes go in the wash together.
Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 15:15     Subject: Re:Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can I just comment on the "teaching kids to do laundry" nonsense? I'm 51. I've been married for 29 years. I've been mom for 27 years. All five of my kids are grown. I did all the laundry in our home, to include folding and putting it away. The summer before my kids left for college, I showed them how to do laundry. Maybe my children are just especially brilliant??? But they picked up this skill very quickly. If your kids need more than about 15 minutes to learn to do laundry, they should probably reconsider leaving home. This is not a skill that requires much time to master.


I taught my ten year old to do her laundry last year. I wouldn't trust her to treat special clothing, but she can manage her standard wardrobe. College age? lol


+1

My 10yo does her own laundry half of the time. My 8yo is an active participant.


I started doing my own laundry when I was 9 years old too. My mother helped me for a bit, but then I was on my own. So if I needed a clean sports uniform, I needed to wash it myself. Or I wore it stinky. You learn quickly.

PP, I can't believe you waited until they were leaving for college! I saw kids getting tutorials in the dorm laundry and couldn't believe it since I'd always done my own.

Smartest move my mom made was retiring from laundry.
Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 14:44     Subject: Re:Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can I just comment on the "teaching kids to do laundry" nonsense? I'm 51. I've been married for 29 years. I've been mom for 27 years. All five of my kids are grown. I did all the laundry in our home, to include folding and putting it away. The summer before my kids left for college, I showed them how to do laundry. Maybe my children are just especially brilliant??? But they picked up this skill very quickly. If your kids need more than about 15 minutes to learn to do laundry, they should probably reconsider leaving home. This is not a skill that requires much time to master.


I taught my ten year old to do her laundry last year. I wouldn't trust her to treat special clothing, but she can manage her standard wardrobe. College age? lol


My 11 yr old son does his own laundry. His clothes goes directly into the washing machine after being worn instead of the hamper. Once full, he runs the machine. OK, he doesn't separate and everything gets washed in "warm" but who cares? He puts the stuff into the dryer, folds and puts his clothes away. He has his own washing machine and dryer in his part of the house. We designed our house this way to deal with their own laundry.

My DH puts his worn clothing into our washing machine. I do it along with mine.
Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 13:57     Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:I married a military guy. They know how to do their own laundry, and he just happens to do the rest of the family's too!



Hahahaha so true. If I ever need something ironed, I ask DH because he's so stinking picky about it.

DH works from home so he moves all the laundry through the washer/dryer and the boys and I do all the folding ... we just sit on the bed and watch Netflix while we do it. I put the kids' and my clothes away most of the time. Sometimes the kids do their own. DH does all of his own laundry though sometimes I'll fold it for him.

We do other chore splits to depending on just how things work out. He did most of the cooking while I was working long hours. Now that I'm back to more reasonable hours, I'm doing most of the cooking during the week but he does most of the cleanup after dinner. The kids put the dishes away.

Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 13:40     Subject: Re:Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:Can I just comment on the "teaching kids to do laundry" nonsense? I'm 51. I've been married for 29 years. I've been mom for 27 years. All five of my kids are grown. I did all the laundry in our home, to include folding and putting it away. The summer before my kids left for college, I showed them how to do laundry. Maybe my children are just especially brilliant??? But they picked up this skill very quickly. If your kids need more than about 15 minutes to learn to do laundry, they should probably reconsider leaving home. This is not a skill that requires much time to master.



So then in OP's case: Why lift a finger if Mommy or Wifey is around!?!

Such gratitude.
Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 13:38     Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:no. i'll do th laundry and dry it but then he gets it in a basket to fold and put away. he's a pig so he doesn't and it ends up dumped on the floor in the corner by his pigsty dresser when someone needs the basket again.
I thank his mother for his zero common sense or ability to organize/clean/put things away. His other stuff gets dumped in the trash routinely.


Let's stop blaming the mothers of sons who are like this. Why don't you blame the DH at some point? Perhaps the mom tried but the kid never listened? If you blame the mom make sure if you have kids and they do something like this that you blame yourself.


I would blame myself if any of my kids weren’t capable of doing their own laundry and putting it away.


I'd blame his PARENTS - both Mommy and Daddy for his lack of life skills as an adult.


I can only control my own parenting. Are you assuming I’m a mom?

I wasn't assuming anything. Notice I said "blame yourself" so that could mean either mom OR dad. I'm the pp. I think at some point the person who is messy needs to take responsibility. Not the mom and not the dad. How long to do parents get the blame and why do assume the moms ( majority of them) did not try to get their kids to shape up?


PP, let's get real. Most moms get the blame for the kids. I don't think at a certain point that should happen.


I'd assume that poster was agreeing with you. Boy did you overreact....
Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 12:54     Subject: Re:Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can I just comment on the "teaching kids to do laundry" nonsense? I'm 51. I've been married for 29 years. I've been mom for 27 years. All five of my kids are grown. I did all the laundry in our home, to include folding and putting it away. The summer before my kids left for college, I showed them how to do laundry. Maybe my children are just especially brilliant??? But they picked up this skill very quickly. If your kids need more than about 15 minutes to learn to do laundry, they should probably reconsider leaving home. This is not a skill that requires much time to master.


I taught my ten year old to do her laundry last year. I wouldn't trust her to treat special clothing, but she can manage her standard wardrobe. College age? lol


+1

My 10yo does her own laundry half of the time. My 8yo is an active participant.
Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 12:40     Subject: Re:Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:Can I just comment on the "teaching kids to do laundry" nonsense? I'm 51. I've been married for 29 years. I've been mom for 27 years. All five of my kids are grown. I did all the laundry in our home, to include folding and putting it away. The summer before my kids left for college, I showed them how to do laundry. Maybe my children are just especially brilliant??? But they picked up this skill very quickly. If your kids need more than about 15 minutes to learn to do laundry, they should probably reconsider leaving home. This is not a skill that requires much time to master.


I taught my ten year old to do her laundry last year. I wouldn't trust her to treat special clothing, but she can manage her standard wardrobe. College age? lol
Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 12:30     Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
We both do some washing, whoever is washing folds, and we put our own stuff away. I don't know what his system is for his dresser, and he doesn't realize I have one for mine, so stuff would be in the wrong spot otherwise. Not unusual for me to set a separate basket aside for his folded stuff if I'm doing all the laundry on a Saturday or something -- I'll put away my stuff and sheets/towels, and leave the basket full of folded clothes on his side of the bed.

He does the same for me when he does laundry, it's not a political statement.
Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 12:29     Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes. He washes and puts away all of my dirty dishes.

Also, everyone knows you get to watch TV while you fold the laundry. More laundry = more TV. Don't be dumb, ladies.


Amen to that! A main reason I volunteer for laundry duty (DH does dishes).


Haha, yes! I am DH and I LOVE folding clothes (taking my time) in front of the TV
Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 12:27     Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
DH does laundry for the whole house but I do all food management for the whole house (shopping, prep, cleaning). It feels pretty equal.
Anonymous
Post 09/10/2018 11:55     Subject: Wives, do you fold and put away your husband's laundry?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. He washes and puts away all of my dirty dishes.

Also, everyone knows you get to watch TV while you fold the laundry. More laundry = more TV. Don't be dumb, ladies.


Amen to that! A main reason I volunteer for laundry duty (DH does dishes).