Anonymous
Post 09/29/2015 11:53     Subject: Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Anonymous wrote:Of some relevance - from the New York Magazine:
http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/09/impossible-to-talk-honestly-about-weight.html

"It's Impossible to Talk Honestly about Weight"


This is why getting older is great. 20 years ago I was slender; 10 years ago I was normal weight; now I am overweight but not so much that it's a health risk and I don't beat myself up about it.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2015 10:11     Subject: Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Of some relevance - from the New York Magazine:
http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/09/impossible-to-talk-honestly-about-weight.html

"It's Impossible to Talk Honestly about Weight"
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2015 09:38     Subject: Re:Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:We are 5 months post-partum...

No. WE aren't.

5 months... REALLY?


OP appreciate the fact that you are being honest. The last thing you should be doing to this beautiful woman is bring her self esteem down. Women's bodies take a hit during pregnancy and it takes at least 1-2 years to start getting back to normal. In many ways she has sacrificed herself so you both can enjoy a child & build a family. Love her for who she is , unconditionally and it will motivate her to be her best.


Ummmmm....no, it does not.


It depends on the mother's age. Did you have a child after age 40?


Very few women have children after the age of 40. I knew two women that did, my stepsister and a friend that used to be an Olympic skier. They bounced back from their pregnancy pretty quickly.




Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 22:03     Subject: Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is that the haters who want all us fatties to exercise more are probably the same bitchy ladies who make fun of us when we do go to the gym, the ones who won't move over and make room in yoga class, the ones who pile up three sets of weights in the ab class and then sneer and say that all the equipment id taken. At least that has been my experience.


Sounds like a terrible gym. Yuk. But then I generally hate gyms. We spend all day inside working on machines so when it's time to take care of our bodies we go inside somewhere else and work on a machine?? Crazy.

Start running. Get fresh air, steer clear of the haters, get time to yourself, and do it all without membership fees.

Heavier runners at road races get lots of love. Runners know how hard it is at any weight and tend to cheer one another on rather than tearing each other down.

Hit the road and free yourself from the machines!

Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 21:11     Subject: Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure there is really anything to do - this is mostly just venting.

We are 5 months post-partum and while DW was actually dropping weight for a while (breast feeding was helping) but she's still close to her birth weight and has started gaining again. The maternity pants came back out. The ice cream diet hasn't slowed down at all. I love her, and we're actually having sex again, and I still think she's got a beautiful face, but the fat is starting to be a problem. She was never a skinny person and I'm OK with that, but instead of leveraging the breast feeding weight loss advantage, she's just chowing down. The pregnancy was complicated so we didn't have sex then (bummed me out because I have a little pregnancy fetish), and now I'm not sure we will get back in the groove because I'm just not really attracted. She's nearly a foot shorter than I am but has like 20 lb advantage on me. I love her and our family, but I just don't think I can gin up a fat fetish.


I think it's fine to gripe on an Internet forum, but please also consider that there's a lot of stuff going on with her body and you probably don't know half of it. I'm 3.5 months postpartum and here are some of mine that my husband doesn't know about: I pee with impact exercise (jumping jacks, running, etc); I think I have a prolapse, so my lady bits often just feel weird, and I now sweat profusely (I'm assuming hormones?). Your wife could be dealing with plenty that you don't know about. You should just give it time, especially if she's breastfeeding. I dropped half my pregnancy weight right away with my first, but it took 5-6 months for the other half to go away (and I ended up being under my prepregnancy weight by 8-9 months out).

Oh, and Many of the posters this far in to the thread seem to be assholes. Don't become like that.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 17:40     Subject: Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is that the haters who want all us fatties to exercise more are probably the same bitchy ladies who make fun of us when we do go to the gym, the ones who won't move over and make room in yoga class, the ones who pile up three sets of weights in the ab class and then sneer and say that all the equipment id taken. At least that has been my experience.


You are making this up in your head. I've lost 50lbs and have had strangers come up to me at the gym saying I'm an inspiration. And it is primarily the regulars who are already fit. I just had a woman the other day that I haven't seen in months the other day come up to me and tell me with complete sincerity that I look amazing. The gym people have been nothing, but encouraging. You are describing the reel that plays in your head.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 17:35     Subject: Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If all these obesity defenders would just admit that if they spent 10% of the time exercising as they currently do on social media and the internet, they would be fine, at least it would indicate they are not completely delusional.


It's easier to be on the internet during working hours than run 2 miles without your boss noticing. You can't seriously be this stupid.


You're supposed to be "working" during "working hours," dear.

You can't seriously be this stupid.


I guess you've never had an office job, and don't understand about legally mandated breaks and incidental internet use? Do you think professionals who work many more than 40 hours a week don't get to post during the workday? You can't seriously be this ignorant - your husband or your parents or somebody who works to support you can explain all this.


Right, and of course, all of the above forces YOU to stuff your face with junk food during those breaks, before and after work, and every other chance you get, and never do any meaningful exercise.

Are you one of those people who is always bringing in cakes, cookies, and candies to work; or scarfing them down when someone else brings them in to a work function; or you always go out to have fattening food at lunch time rather than brown bagging something healthy? Are you the person who has a stash of Snickers bars in your bottom desk drawer for your "afternoon pick me up"?

Put the fork down, dear. It starts with putting the fork down.


Oh my god, if I knew someone had a desk drawer full of Snickers I would think they were a fucking genius. I've just been keeping my secret whiskey there, LIKE AN IDIOT.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 17:30     Subject: Re:Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Sh*ts escalating really quickly for a Monday
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 17:27     Subject: Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If all these obesity defenders would just admit that if they spent 10% of the time exercising as they currently do on social media and the internet, they would be fine, at least it would indicate they are not completely delusional.


It's easier to be on the internet during working hours than run 2 miles without your boss noticing. You can't seriously be this stupid.


You're supposed to be "working" during "working hours," dear.

You can't seriously be this stupid.


I guess you've never had an office job, and don't understand about legally mandated breaks and incidental internet use? Do you think professionals who work many more than 40 hours a week don't get to post during the workday? You can't seriously be this ignorant - your husband or your parents or somebody who works to support you can explain all this.


Right, and of course, all of the above forces YOU to stuff your face with junk food during those breaks, before and after work, and every other chance you get, and never do any meaningful exercise.

Are you one of those people who is always bringing in cakes, cookies, and candies to work; or scarfing them down when someone else brings them in to a work function; or you always go out to have fattening food at lunch time rather than brown bagging something healthy? Are you the person who has a stash of Snickers bars in your bottom desk drawer for your "afternoon pick me up"?

Put the fork down, dear. It starts with putting the fork down.


You are an evil person.


If it's evil to tell people not to eat themselves to death, it must be good to tell them to eat themselves to death.

Please eat yourself to death.


Wow, because overweight people have no idea they are overweight until you tell them!

It's not your place.

Let me say that again.

It's NOT YOUR PLACE.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 16:51     Subject: Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
The funny thing is that the haters who want all us fatties to exercise more are probably the same bitchy ladies who make fun of us when we do go to the gym, the ones who won't move over and make room in yoga class, the ones who pile up three sets of weights in the ab class and then sneer and say that all the equipment id taken. At least that has been my experience.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 15:47     Subject: Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If all these obesity defenders would just admit that if they spent 10% of the time exercising as they currently do on social media and the internet, they would be fine, at least it would indicate they are not completely delusional.


It's easier to be on the internet during working hours than run 2 miles without your boss noticing. You can't seriously be this stupid.


You're supposed to be "working" during "working hours," dear.

You can't seriously be this stupid.


I guess you've never had an office job, and don't understand about legally mandated breaks and incidental internet use? Do you think professionals who work many more than 40 hours a week don't get to post during the workday? You can't seriously be this ignorant - your husband or your parents or somebody who works to support you can explain all this.


Right, and of course, all of the above forces YOU to stuff your face with junk food during those breaks, before and after work, and every other chance you get, and never do any meaningful exercise.

Are you one of those people who is always bringing in cakes, cookies, and candies to work; or scarfing them down when someone else brings them in to a work function; or you always go out to have fattening food at lunch time rather than brown bagging something healthy? Are you the person who has a stash of Snickers bars in your bottom desk drawer for your "afternoon pick me up"?

Put the fork down, dear. It starts with putting the fork down.


Hit and run bitch. Figured.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 15:28     Subject: Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
I haven't read past page 8 so sorry if this is no longer the subject at hand.

But my husband put on more than 50 pounds in the last few years, too. He obviously didn't give birth, but it sounds like he has some similar sorts of things going on - a naturally largeish body type, a big appetite, not much interest in exercise.

And I'm just going to say that trust me, the heavier spouse resents the fuck out of it when the thinner spouse offers lots of tips and whatnot for losing weight.

They know they are overweight. They know you know they are overweight. They know they shouldn't eat that ice cream. They don't need you telling them.

Try to go for walks together, to eat healthy food at home, all of that. And also try to ease the fuck up. Because as shitty as you feel about them being overweight, it's worse for them.

Also, vent away. That's what anonymous boards are for.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 15:26     Subject: Re:Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We are 5 months post-partum...

No. WE aren't.

5 months... REALLY?


OP appreciate the fact that you are being honest. The last thing you should be doing to this beautiful woman is bring her self esteem down. Women's bodies take a hit during pregnancy and it takes at least 1-2 years to start getting back to normal. In many ways she has sacrificed herself so you both can enjoy a child & build a family. Love her for who she is , unconditionally and it will motivate her to be her best.


No it doesn't take 1-2 years. It only does in America where people have very poor diets.


It must be nice to live in a place like Okinawa, where people don't have all that much money, but lots of time to walk and prepare very simple meals with the same basic ingredients, day after day. Not.


Please. Most Americans have plenty of time to exercise and/or prepare meals. The problem is messed up priorities - my friends who bitch about not having enough time to do healthy things somehow have enough time to watch tv, primp/put on makeup, or drink.


I don't watch TV. I work, I make dinner, I exercise. I eat too much, that's why I'm overweight.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 15:25     Subject: Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If all these obesity defenders would just admit that if they spent 10% of the time exercising as they currently do on social media and the internet, they would be fine, at least it would indicate they are not completely delusional.


It's easier to be on the internet during working hours than run 2 miles without your boss noticing. You can't seriously be this stupid.


You're supposed to be "working" during "working hours," dear.

You can't seriously be this stupid.


I guess you've never had an office job, and don't understand about legally mandated breaks and incidental internet use? Do you think professionals who work many more than 40 hours a week don't get to post during the workday? You can't seriously be this ignorant - your husband or your parents or somebody who works to support you can explain all this.


Right, and of course, all of the above forces YOU to stuff your face with junk food during those breaks, before and after work, and every other chance you get, and never do any meaningful exercise.

Are you one of those people who is always bringing in cakes, cookies, and candies to work; or scarfing them down when someone else brings them in to a work function; or you always go out to have fattening food at lunch time rather than brown bagging something healthy? Are you the person who has a stash of Snickers bars in your bottom desk drawer for your "afternoon pick me up"?

Put the fork down, dear. It starts with putting the fork down.


I sincerely hope your husband is screwing a woman 50 pounds heavier than you are.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 14:57     Subject: Love my wife, but she's getting seriously fat....
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If all these obesity defenders would just admit that if they spent 10% of the time exercising as they currently do on social media and the internet, they would be fine, at least it would indicate they are not completely delusional.


It's easier to be on the internet during working hours than run 2 miles without your boss noticing. You can't seriously be this stupid.


You're supposed to be "working" during "working hours," dear.

You can't seriously be this stupid.


I guess you've never had an office job, and don't understand about legally mandated breaks and incidental internet use? Do you think professionals who work many more than 40 hours a week don't get to post during the workday? You can't seriously be this ignorant - your husband or your parents or somebody who works to support you can explain all this.


Right, and of course, all of the above forces YOU to stuff your face with junk food during those breaks, before and after work, and every other chance you get, and never do any meaningful exercise.

Are you one of those people who is always bringing in cakes, cookies, and candies to work; or scarfing them down when someone else brings them in to a work function; or you always go out to have fattening food at lunch time rather than brown bagging something healthy? Are you the person who has a stash of Snickers bars in your bottom desk drawer for your "afternoon pick me up"?

Put the fork down, dear. It starts with putting the fork down.


Me? Yeah, I eat too many carbs, but I have a great workout program, thanks. I'm only 20 pounds overweight, which for a 50 year old woman working full time and raising teenagers isn't so bad.