Got called a nigger while in Virginia Beach. Was walking with my DH and someone yelled it while driving by.

Didn't bother me too much because they were too coward to get out of the car and say it.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH and I were sitting in a restaurant one night and these two drunk losers were sitting at the table next to us. Midway through the meal one guy leaned over and tapped me on the shoulder and said, "you're about, what, 135?" And then they both laughed hysterically. I was a size 8-10 at the time, which I thought was just fine, but this really gutted me. So humiliating.

and DH did what??????????????????????????

He couldn't hear the comment over all the noise (we were at Orleans House in Rosslyn) and had no idea what was going on. I rushed out and had tears in my eyes by the time we got to the car. I told him what happened and he ranted the whole way home about what d-bags they were. He had me laughing eventually but it didn't take the sting out of it much, to be honest.

Wow, I haven't thought about it in such detail in quite some time. Still makes me feel terrible.

I seriously have no idea what was so insulting about this. Weird, kinda rude, but I can't figure out what's insulting. So what if they were trying to guess your weight? Just how incredibly insecure are/were you?

Added to the fact that you still feel terrible about it, it's just really strange.

Anonymous wrote:While at a football game, a guy said to his friend "tell that <n-word> beer man to get up here". Then, they turn to me and said "hey buddy, want a beer?"

I am a black man.

Oh, wow.

Aaawwwwkward!

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Anonymous wrote:My DH told his ex-wife that a cat was a better mother and beyond an egg and a uterus, her contribution to their children was unremarkable. He also told her that she should be thanking me for being willing to step up and become the mother the kids had always deserved.

All this about a week after we got custody of my stepkids. She really is a terrible mother. She sees the kids an average of one time a year for two or three days. The kids were 4 and 6 when we gained custody. They are 21 and 18 now and have almost no relationship with their biological mother. Still, those words haunt me because I know they had to devastate her.

and you feel good about being married to someone who would say this?

I responded to this same thing earlier - It was a very, very long time ago. She had been neglecting the kids and it was said right after he found out. I think it is probably the most insulting thing I have ever heard anyone say. I do "feel good" about being married to him because I understand why he said it. Imagine how you would feel if you found out someone had been harming your children. They were very little at the time - 4 and 6. Remember, he was awarded legal and physical custody. Judges very rarely award sole custody and it's even rarer for it to be given to a father. Think a little bit about what that means.....

I do feel badly that she was hurt by it. Despite the fact that it's true, it must have been a horrible thing to hear.

I have no idea what the others are onto, but I would be EXTREMELY proud of your husband. Not only did he gain custody of his kids, he married a woman who became a mother to them and he recognized how wonderful you are. Personally, I don't care how their mother felt about hearing the truth; I think he was right to say it. Why? Because the children were being hurt and her feelings don't matter in this situation. You married a good man. A damn good man. And vice-versa. Thank you for being a mom, and not a step-mom.

Just garden variety insults as some previous posters.

It is fascinating to read what offends people though.

Anonymous wrote:When my parents got divorced, my dad's sister said to my mom (her SIL): "Maybe you should take up jogging." As in, my brother divorced you because you are fat. I have never looked at my aunt the same way.

Er... she may have said it because exercise is a good way to handle stress. I'd think again about what your aunt may have meant.

My boss told me that breastfeeding was offensive.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH and I were sitting in a restaurant one night and these two drunk losers were sitting at the table next to us. Midway through the meal one guy leaned over and tapped me on the shoulder and said, "you're about, what, 135?" And then they both laughed hysterically. I was a size 8-10 at the time, which I thought was just fine, but this really gutted me. So humiliating.

and DH did what??????????????????????????

I don't get it. Where you 135 or not?

Is 135 supposed to be fat? or thin?

exactly! I don't get it.

I wouldn't feel like I need to add my agreement here, except that the poster said later it STILL upsets her to think about. PP, I also doubt they were saying you were fat, if that is what bothered you. It is bizarre, but I would interpret it as sexist assholes who are just checking out your body. They probably pride themselves on being able to guess a woman's weight or something. I would think they're telling you just to make you aware of the detail with which they were inspecting your body. It's just garden-variety sexual harrassment by assholes. The problem is 100% with them, no reflection on you in any way.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH and I were sitting in a restaurant one night and these two drunk losers were sitting at the table next to us. Midway through the meal one guy leaned over and tapped me on the shoulder and said, "you're about, what, 135?" And then they both laughed hysterically. I was a size 8-10 at the time, which I thought was just fine, but this really gutted me. So humiliating.

and DH did what??????????????????????????

I don't get it. Where you 135 or not?

Is 135 supposed to be fat? or thin?

exactly! I don't get it.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH and I were sitting in a restaurant one night and these two drunk losers were sitting at the table next to us. Midway through the meal one guy leaned over and tapped me on the shoulder and said, "you're about, what, 135?" And then they both laughed hysterically. I was a size 8-10 at the time, which I thought was just fine, but this really gutted me. So humiliating.

and DH did what??????????????????????????

I don't get it. Where you 135 or not?

I wouldn't find that insulting at all. Weird maybe but certainly not insulting. 135 is just a normal weight....why would that "gut" you?

F* dyke and variations on that. Had a beer can thrown out the window of a moving car at us.

The best was when one very angry older woman told me and my now-wife that "God intended us to be with men and women"--we cracked up--didn't know bisexuality was the one true way.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH and I were sitting in a restaurant one night and these two drunk losers were sitting at the table next to us. Midway through the meal one guy leaned over and tapped me on the shoulder and said, "you're about, what, 135?" And then they both laughed hysterically. I was a size 8-10 at the time, which I thought was just fine, but this really gutted me. So humiliating.

and DH did what??????????????????????????

I don't get it. Where you 135 or not?

Is 135 supposed to be fat? or thin?

Anonymous wrote:Knew a tomboy who dressed and looked like a guy, short hair and all. Someone who had just met her and her mom said, "Oh it's so nice to meet you. This must be your son." Silence... Fast forward to the college years and the former tomboy was now a girly girl, wearing tons of makeup, dresses and tight clothing to reveal her figure.

I hope her transformation wasn't connected to such comments. She must have been used to it. I have a long-haired son who is mistaken by almost everyone for a girl. After a year or two of this, I told him I'm not going to correct people anymore because I'm tired of it and that if he minds, he should speak up himself (with "I'm a boy!") He doesn't speak up. And he certainly doesn't care enough that he gets his hair cut. I still speak up for him when I realize that the person is going to be embarrassed later (ie, if it's someone we'll see again), but I don't correct every check-out clerk or waiter who asks the kids "what would you ladies like?" fwiw, I don't think mistaking someone for the opposite gender is an insult if it's an honest mistake. (though I can see it might be painful.)

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Anonymous wrote:My DH and I were sitting in a restaurant one night and these two drunk losers were sitting at the table next to us. Midway through the meal one guy leaned over and tapped me on the shoulder and said, "you're about, what, 135?" And then they both laughed hysterically. I was a size 8-10 at the time, which I thought was just fine, but this really gutted me. So humiliating.

and DH did what??????????????????????????

I don't get it. Where you 135 or not?