Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't, but my friend just did.

same - 3 ex-wives, 2 daughters in late teens, early 20s

Just the family dynamic complications would send me running. All those people you didn't choose who are a part of your future kids' family.

I would absolutely not marry someone who was previously married three times. Such a silly question.

New poster and not going to read this many pages.

Just came to say: The man your friend is seeing may not be fully disclosing all his relationships--or even all his marriages. I know someone who is on marriage 5 but whose wife only knows about three of the marriages before her. One of the exes still does very occasional contract work for the DH and he doesn't want wife 5 to know that he and contractor were married for a couple of years a few decades back. BTW, I am sure there's nothing going on between him and the ex--he's crazy about 5 and the ex has moved on too. He just doesn't think the long-ago marriage of maybe six years, and the ongoing occasional contact, are worth telling 5 about, especially years into the marriage with 5. Yes, 5 has met this ex several times so knows she exists but doesn't know he was married to her.

Would that scenario bother your friend and break her trust, OP, or could she live with that kind of thing if she found out later he hadn't listed his full history?

Anonymous wrote:Would you invest in someone who has gone bankrupt three times? Of course not! But then we elected him president!

Not that it matters but the President has not declared personal bankruptcy even one time. However, he did bankrupt a few of his businesses.

Anonymous wrote:Since this thread in 9 years old, chances are the person in question has had another divorce.

No

^LOL and touché

Would you invest in someone who has gone bankrupt three times? Of course not! But then we elected him president!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm that 3X married guy. I have no desire to marry again but it has not deterred the women in my LT relationships from wanting it. Please, do not marry this 3x married guy unless you want to be x #4

Just out of curiosity, what were the reasons for divorce? are they 3 separate reasons?

3 very different reasons. I initiated all 3 divorces.

I got married at 18, divorced at 19. Married at 29, divorced at 37 from an abusive man. Now in therapy figuring out how to fix the things that lead me into bad relationships. I am highly damaged.

I would say no to 3 divorces. I was my ex-husband's 3rd ex-wife. He's been engaged to #4 for awhile, but since he's retired, there are no dependent benefits to convince her to bite the bullet. He claims all 3 exes were to blame, all abusive alcoholics who were nasty women. What he says about his exes is what he's going to say about you when you leave him. I'm only concerned for my daughter. He's going to have at least 2 more ex-wives before he dies.

Take it slow at every turn, don't rush into anything. I know this is an old thread, but I've had a hell of a time being ex-wife #3 since it was first posted.

Anonymous wrote:No

Got it. Cheating. Do you tell your LTR so that they don’t want to marry you? You sound like you understand this about yourself and so that’s good you don’t want to perpetrate on others.

No. Live with, knowing marriage probably shouldn't happen? Sure. Things may work out and then they can consider it. Marry, without living together for years and years? No.

I know a woman who has been married 4 times. Before the 4th marriage she was honest enough to say that she's done more than her fair share to end each marriage and that she knew that people saw her as the common denominator in each divorce. She vowed to try harder this time and from what we've seen she has done just that.

No

Anonymous wrote:I'm that 3X married guy. I have no desire to marry again but it has not deterred the women in my LT relationships from wanting it. Please, do not marry this 3x married guy unless you want to be x #4

Just out of curiosity, what were the reasons for divorce? are they 3 separate reasons?