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Anonymous wrote:The difference between Penn and Harvard is that at Harvard everyone says they go to school “in Boston” because they want you to believe they’re humble, whereas at Penn, people are crass enough to allow themselves to be seen to care about being mixed up with Penn State.

lol no! We say school “in Boston” because people act weird if we mention Harvard. Like the nail salons suddenly charge extra, parents with kids in school start getting obnoxious with their questions about how to get in, parents with older kids who did not get into Harvard get insecure and start bragging about their kids,….IYKYK it’s a PITA.

Anonymous wrote:My child’s first choice school is Penn. I had mentioned that it would be a reach for him and that usually 1 kid gets in from our school. At some point, I realized that they thought I was referring to Penn State. When I mentioned UPenn was an Ivy League school, they seemed confused. These are Americans. Do people really not know the difference????

Anonymous wrote:Maybe colleges should come up with more unique names. It's on THEM if there are two colleges in every state with similar names.

I have no idea which Penn is which, which Ohio is which, which "state name" is which, and I don't care to know. It's just not interesting to me at all, unless my child attends!

- parent of adult kids and teens.

Anonymous wrote:Happens all the time. Pretty sure some people do it on purpose. You can call Penn UPenn but that doesn’t always help. DS is student at Penn (not Penn State).

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Anonymous wrote:My child’s first choice school is Penn. I had mentioned that it would be a reach for him and that usually 1 kid gets in from our school. At some point, I realized that they thought I was referring to Penn State. When I mentioned UPenn was an Ivy League school, they seemed confused. These are Americans. Do people really not know the difference????

Who are you having this conversation with?

My kid would be so horrified if I talked about his personal business this way.

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Anonymous wrote:The difference between Penn and Harvard is that at Harvard everyone says they go to school “in Boston” because they want you to believe they’re humble, whereas at Penn, people are crass enough to allow themselves to be seen to care about being mixed up with Penn State.

lol no! We say school “in Boston” because people act weird if we mention Harvard. Like the nail salons suddenly charge extra, parents with kids in school start getting obnoxious with their questions about how to get in, parents with older kids who did not get into Harvard get insecure and start bragging about their kids,….IYKYK it’s a PITA.

This is spot on. It's so strange how people think this is braggy when it's literally the opposite. We just don't want yet another awkward conversation.

Signed,

someone who went to college "in Connecticut."

I react differently. WT F , why not say Yale or Harvard? Do you feel so superior as to show how humble you are? You have a predicament but you should know who you are taking to when you say or not say these things.

The odd assumption you're making about Yale and Harvard grads (that we feel superior) just illustrates the point we have made. People have had really odd reactions when I have said I have gone to Yale, and this has made me AND the other people listening really uncomfortable. So I have deferred answering the question to avoid that.

And no, this is not a universal reaction by all. But based on the fact that this triggers you so much, I would not expect you to be in the camp that can handle it.

Anonymous wrote:“The narcissisms of small differences.” It’s a Freudian concept. It’s when people who have a lot in common become overly sensitive or obsessive about small differences and engage those differences as more distinguishing than they actually are. Basically, it’s the sense that someone else is not comprehending a distinction, which - to you- clearly indicates that I/DC is more [intelligent, rounded, refined, legacy, wealthy] than you/your DC because I/we [attend, lived in, belong to, have been accepted to] institution X.

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Anonymous wrote:DD attends Loyola Marymount in LA. People get all the Loyolas mixed up even though they are not affiliated. It doesn’t bother us. We just explain.

So funny becuase I know a parent who’s kid is going to Loyola in LA and she was REAL QUICK to school me that their kid was not going to the MD one. They all are very different!

I know a kid who thought they were applying to one Loyola, actually was applying to a different one, fell in love with it and goes there now!

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Anonymous wrote:UPenn seemed a little odd to me decades ago because it was the only Ivy with a state as its name like many state schools. Even today, my mind has to take an extra moment to process which is which whenever one or the other comes up in conversation.

UPenn is often deemed faux Ivy. Their own Wharton undergraduates- where midwits tear each other down by sheer toxicity- look askance at fellow students at other departments.

"often deemed" by whom exactly? Where did you even get this from? Who do you think you're speaking for? I've never heard of anyone calling Penn or any other school a "faux Ivy." And I'm a HYP grad myself.

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Anonymous wrote:i know that difference-but didnt know purdue is in west lafayette...now kid admitted to Purdue Indy as we both thought thats the main campus....uugh

no way

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Anonymous wrote:The difference between Penn and Harvard is that at Harvard everyone says they go to school “in Boston” because they want you to believe they’re humble, whereas at Penn, people are crass enough to allow themselves to be seen to care about being mixed up with Penn State.

lol no! We say school “in Boston” because people act weird if we mention Harvard. Like the nail salons suddenly charge extra, parents with kids in school start getting obnoxious with their questions about how to get in, parents with older kids who did not get into Harvard get insecure and start bragging about their kids,….IYKYK it’s a PITA.

This is spot on. It's so strange how people think this is braggy when it's literally the opposite. We just don't want yet another awkward conversation.

Signed,

someone who went to college "in Connecticut."

I react differently. WT F , why not say Yale or Harvard? Do you feel so superior as to show how humble you are? You have a predicament but you should know who you are taking to when you say or not say these things.

The odd assumption you're making about Yale and Harvard grads (that we feel superior) just illustrates the point we have made. People have had really odd reactions when I have said I have gone to Yale, and this has made me AND the other people listening really uncomfortable. So I have deferred answering the question to avoid that.

And no, this is not a universal reaction by all. But based on the fact that this triggers you so much, I would not expect you to be in the camp that can handle it.

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Anonymous wrote:The difference between Penn and Harvard is that at Harvard everyone says they go to school “in Boston” because they want you to believe they’re humble, whereas at Penn, people are crass enough to allow themselves to be seen to care about being mixed up with Penn State.

lol no! We say school “in Boston” because people act weird if we mention Harvard. Like the nail salons suddenly charge extra, parents with kids in school start getting obnoxious with their questions about how to get in, parents with older kids who did not get into Harvard get insecure and start bragging about their kids,….IYKYK it’s a PITA.

This is spot on. It's so strange how people think this is braggy when it's literally the opposite. We just don't want yet another awkward conversation.

Signed,

someone who went to college "in Connecticut."

I react differently. WT F , why not say Yale or Harvard? Do you feel so superior as to show how humble you are? You have a predicament but you should know who you are taking to when you say or not say these things.

The odd assumption you're making about Yale and Harvard grads (that we feel superior) just illustrates the point we have made. People have had really odd reactions when I have said I have gone to Yale, and this has made me AND the other people listening really uncomfortable. So I have deferred answering the question to avoid that.

And no, this is not a universal reaction by all. But based on the fact that this triggers you so much, I would not expect you to be in the camp that can handle it.

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Anonymous wrote:UPenn seemed a little odd to me decades ago because it was the only Ivy with a state as its name like many state schools. Even today, my mind has to take an extra moment to process which is which whenever one or the other comes up in conversation.

UPenn is often deemed faux Ivy. Their own Wharton undergraduates- where midwits tear each other down by sheer toxicity- look askance at fellow students at other departments.

"often deemed" by whom exactly? Where did you even get this from? Who do you think you're speaking for? I've never heard of anyone calling Penn or any other school a "faux Ivy." And I'm a HYP grad myself.

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Anonymous wrote:The difference between Penn and Harvard is that at Harvard everyone says they go to school “in Boston” because they want you to believe they’re humble, whereas at Penn, people are crass enough to allow themselves to be seen to care about being mixed up with Penn State.

lol no! We say school “in Boston” because people act weird if we mention Harvard. Like the nail salons suddenly charge extra, parents with kids in school start getting obnoxious with their questions about how to get in, parents with older kids who did not get into Harvard get insecure and start bragging about their kids,….IYKYK it’s a PITA.

This is spot on. It's so strange how people think this is braggy when it's literally the opposite. We just don't want yet another awkward conversation.

Signed,

someone who went to college "in Connecticut."

I react differently. WT F , why not say Yale or Harvard? Do you feel so superior as to show how humble you are? You have a predicament but you should know who you are taking to when you say or not say these things.