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Anonymous wrote:The wealth on this graph at Brown doesn't surprise me. My family friend's son is at Brown. Lots of uber wealthy kids and many kids or nieces/nephews of celebrities. The rich/adjacent celebrity kids not surprisingly hang out together and form cliques based on where they holiday and live or have their second homes.

Yes read earlier in this thread…..rich ppl hang out with each other. It’s easier that way.


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Your first tier is top boarding schools.
Tier down is certain other private/prep schools (along with the kids of CEO /hedge fund/PE/banker parents bc kids want jobs)
Further down is public high school but full pay
Below that is financial aid kids of any amount.
Bottom is FGLI/questbridge etc.

Read about real experiences on Reddit if you doubt it.

One of the most popular icebreakers for new student orientation/dorms is “where do you summer” or where did you vacation post-graduation. Followed by country club geography.

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Neither of my different-ivy kids were asked “where do you summer”. And they are full pay white kids. No one asks things like this unless you have zero self-awareness and reflection skills. They are not athletes and their conversations revolve around what courses are you taking and who do you read in your free time(authors,newspapers etc), what level of math did you complete in high school and what professors do you have for fall

+1 everyone is very 'normal'. I think the Ivies don't attract the really 'flashy' wealth anyways. The kids very much downplay it if they have it and you wouldn't know by how 'normal' they act and appear. Maybe it's an 'old $' thing.

JFK Jr really sought the kid that did not come from wealth. He loved hanging out with him. He didn't like the hangers-ons. He wanted authenticity. The kid had capital because he could surf really well (on a school trip to the RI beaches) and was a bit of a daredevil. JFK Jr wanted to be cool like him. IT was a really interesting read from the kid's point of view. He also talks about going back for Xmas to Jackie O''s NYC apartment with John. Nothing fazed John and didn't care about the wealth thing---more 'the people'.

Yup, those Kennedys were just plain folks. That’s why John Jr. went to Brown & died flying his own plane to Martha’s Vineyard, just like an ordinary average middle class kid. (barf)

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Anonymous wrote:The wealth on this graph at Brown doesn't surprise me. My family friend's son is at Brown. Lots of uber wealthy kids and many kids or nieces/nephews of celebrities. The rich/adjacent celebrity kids not surprisingly hang out together and form cliques based on where they holiday and live or have their second homes.

Yes read earlier in this thread…..rich ppl hang out with each other. It’s easier that way.


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Your first tier is top boarding schools.
Tier down is certain other private/prep schools (along with the kids of CEO /hedge fund/PE/banker parents bc kids want jobs)
Further down is public high school but full pay
Below that is financial aid kids of any amount.
Bottom is FGLI/questbridge etc.

Read about real experiences on Reddit if you doubt it.

One of the most popular icebreakers for new student orientation/dorms is “where do you summer” or where did you vacation post-graduation. Followed by country club geography.

——

Neither of my different-ivy kids were asked “where do you summer”. And they are full pay white kids. No one asks things like this unless you have zero self-awareness and reflection skills. They are not athletes and their conversations revolve around what courses are you taking and who do you read in your free time(authors,newspapers etc), what level of math did you complete in high school and what professors do you have for fall

+1 everyone is very 'normal'. I think the Ivies don't attract the really 'flashy' wealth anyways. The kids very much downplay it if they have it and you wouldn't know by how 'normal' they act and appear. Maybe it's an 'old $' thing.

JFK Jr really sought the kid that did not come from wealth. He loved hanging out with him. He didn't like the hangers-ons. He wanted authenticity. The kid had capital because he could surf really well (on a school trip to the RI beaches) and was a bit of a daredevil. JFK Jr wanted to be cool like him. IT was a really interesting read from the kid's point of view. He also talks about going back for Xmas to Jackie O''s NYC apartment with John. Nothing fazed John and didn't care about the wealth thing---more 'the people'.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS just saw some friends from HS who go to Princeton, Duke and Dartmouth. He reports that all three (boys) say that the only people they hang with are either legacies or athletes.

All three are legacies.

I don’t find this at all surprising as kids from similar backgrounds tend to hang together but it’s also so disappointing and telling about those schools.

FWIW, my son goes to a big public and yes, his friends are mostly white but not mostly legacies or athletes.

I’m a teacher, and guess what I’ve noticed after all these years??? Kids tend to group with those they have things in common with. Indian kids always sit together and group together. Even when I’ve noticed other kids try to invite them to sit with them, etc. My point is, who cares? Why are you focused on white people of a particular background. Really way more telling of you than them.

Oh come the fkkk on. They are hanging with kids whose parents went there too—and they know this? This sounds so phony. Give me a break. I have a Freshmen at an Ivy (no hook, no legacy) and he has a big mix of friends already—club teammates from a ton of different backgrounds (from one that footed the bill for all new gear to those he buys food on road trips), kids he met at orientation (from struggling to wealthy), kid that is 5th generation, dorm roommate -different ethnicity UMC, public hs Mc kids, a Dutch and Swedish friend. He’s never in his room and it runs the gamut. He hasn’t come home to visit and won’t until Thanksgiving.

It’s what you make of it.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS just saw some friends from HS who go to Princeton, Duke and Dartmouth. He reports that all three (boys) say that the only people they hang with are either legacies or athletes.

All three are legacies.

I don’t find this at all surprising as kids from similar backgrounds tend to hang together but it’s also so disappointing and telling about those schools.

FWIW, my son goes to a big public and yes, his friends are mostly white but not mostly legacies or athletes.

I’m a teacher, and guess what I’ve noticed after all these years??? Kids tend to group with those they have things in common with. Indian kids always sit together and group together. Even when I’ve noticed other kids try to invite them to sit with them, etc. My point is, who cares? Why are you focused on white people of a particular background. Really way more telling of you than them.

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Anonymous wrote:True money kids ( $100 million+) mostly keep to themselves, but there aren't that many of them, even at ivies.

True in my experience. It's not MIT and Stanford for these kids. It's SMU, TCU, Alabama, and similar. The top schools would require work and talent, which is not happening.

- lived in Pebble Beach for a decade

There's a lot of those but you still do get your Jared Kushners, Malia Obamas, etc at Harvard.

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OP is trolling for something. I went to Harvard and was not wealthy. To this day I don't know who in my class was wealthy. It's not like "Love Story". If you want to be bitter like OP, for some strange reason, go ahead. But be aware how you are feeding into someone's inexperienced stereotypes

So you probably went in the 80s or 90s. Things are different now. The rich kids today really do stick together. At quite a few schools, its not a shared experience anymore. It's a shame. Smart kids really need to choose their colleges carefully these days.

False. My kids are there now. They have no clue who is wealthy. Students ARE careful not to be flashy. OP is basing this entire thread on what she thinks three private school kids said to her DS. Talk about stirring the pot and you all fell for it!

X1000 this whole thread is filled with stereotypes that do not represent current ivy/elite schools

And at this point, and certainly going forward with the elimination of legacy admissions, how many rich white kids will there really be? I was on an Ivy campus last week and it was very diverse. Even the white kids didn't look like the New England preps of the old days.

Agree, though there are plenty of rich white non-legacies to choose from. My white kids who are not legacies but are brilliant and are rich are at two different ivies, not from New England prep either. Their white friends at theirs or different ivies are not legacies either. Legacies are already much more rare at these schools. They do have hispanic and asian legacy friends. We make 600k household though we are quiet about it and do not have a second home or fancy cars, and are easily full pay. Sure there are some uber rich whites at ivies who are flashy about it but that is not common. There are also rich asians, poor whites, rich africans ...on and on. Racial diversity and socioeconomic diversity is about as maxed as it can be at these schools, now that SFFA case is done. The Ivies all brag about over half on financial aid: some are truly poor with parents paying $0, and others upper middle class making 200k who manage to get a little need-based aid. The ivies also brag about over 50% non-white. These schools are at their goals of racial and SES diversity and got there in the last 3-4 cycles. They will easily be able to stay there. There is not only a complete lack of white-rich-majority at these schools, there is neither a white nor a rich majority taken separately! Anyone who has kids at ivies currently understands this empirically from being on campus at move-in, family weekends, poster sessions etc.

TL;DR: Any parent who is looking at ivies, do not fall for the drama of these posts! ALL kinds are at ivies; the common denominator is smart, ambitious, and able to juggle a lot of things. That kid from any background will fit well in at ivies.

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Anonymous wrote:True money kids ( $100 million+) mostly keep to themselves, but there aren't that many of them, even at ivies.

True in my experience. It's not MIT and Stanford for these kids. It's SMU, TCU, Alabama, and similar. The top schools would require work and talent, which is not happening.

- lived in Pebble Beach for a decade

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Anonymous wrote:True money kids ( $100 million+) mostly keep to themselves, but there aren't that many of them, even at ivies.

True in my experience. It's not MIT and Stanford for these kids. It's SMU, TCU, Alabama, and similar. The top schools would require work and talent, which is not happening.

- lived in Pebble Beach for a decade

Anonymous wrote:True money kids ( $100 million+) mostly keep to themselves, but there aren't that many of them, even at ivies.

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OP is trolling for something. I went to Harvard and was not wealthy. To this day I don't know who in my class was wealthy. It's not like "Love Story". If you want to be bitter like OP, for some strange reason, go ahead. But be aware how you are feeding into someone's inexperienced stereotypes

So you probably went in the 80s or 90s. Things are different now. The rich kids today really do stick together. At quite a few schools, its not a shared experience anymore. It's a shame. Smart kids really need to choose their colleges carefully these days.

False. My kids are there now. They have no clue who is wealthy. Students ARE careful not to be flashy. OP is basing this entire thread on what she thinks three private school kids said to her DS. Talk about stirring the pot and you all fell for it!

X1000 this whole thread is filled with stereotypes that do not represent current ivy/elite schools

And at this point, and certainly going forward with the elimination of legacy admissions, how many rich white kids will there really be? I was on an Ivy campus last week and it was very diverse. Even the white kids didn't look like the New England preps of the old days.

Agree, though there are plenty of rich white non-legacies to choose from. My white kids who are not legacies but are brilliant and are rich are at two different ivies, not from New England prep either. Their white friends at theirs or different ivies are not legacies either. Legacies are already much more rare at these schools. They do have hispanic and asian legacy friends. We make 600k household though we are quiet about it and do not have a second home or fancy cars, and are easily full pay. Sure there are some uber rich whites at ivies who are flashy about it but that is not common. There are also rich asians, poor whites, rich africans ...on and on. Racial diversity and socioeconomic diversity is about as maxed as it can be at these schools, now that SFFA case is done. The Ivies all brag about over half on financial aid: some are truly poor with parents paying $0, and others upper middle class making 200k who manage to get a little need-based aid. The ivies also brag about over 50% non-white. These schools are at their goals of racial and SES diversity and got there in the last 3-4 cycles. They will easily be able to stay there. There is not only a complete lack of white-rich-majority at these schools, there is neither a white nor a rich majority taken separately! Anyone who has kids at ivies currently understands this empirically from being on campus at move-in, family weekends, poster sessions etc.

TL;DR: Any parent who is looking at ivies, do not fall for the drama of these posts! ALL kinds are at ivies; the common denominator is smart, ambitious, and able to juggle a lot of things. That kid from any background will fit well in at ivies.

no offense but your level is rich is not the elite level. not closet. 600k is not law partner level, and those people are only bumping up to elite level. It's not in same world and finance, tech money.

Anonymous wrote:My intelligent, nice, artsy, eloquent, athletic but not recruited, and studious kid finds friends from all kinds of backgrounds.

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Anonymous wrote:Most top colleges are like this. The richest students, across incomes, hang out with one another. The athletes, usually white outside of mainstream sports, hang out with one another. The Middle Class figure it out. The fgli hang out with the fgli.

Yup. This is why I roll my eyes when posters here think that going to a top school is going to open the world of the top .01%.

The super rich only hang out with each other.

Source: middle class person who went to a top Ivy.

Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg and Larry Page say hello!

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OP is trolling for something. I went to Harvard and was not wealthy. To this day I don't know who in my class was wealthy. It's not like "Love Story". If you want to be bitter like OP, for some strange reason, go ahead. But be aware how you are feeding into someone's inexperienced stereotypes

So you probably went in the 80s or 90s. Things are different now. The rich kids today really do stick together. At quite a few schools, its not a shared experience anymore. It's a shame. Smart kids really need to choose their colleges carefully these days.

False. My kids are there now. They have no clue who is wealthy. Students ARE careful not to be flashy. OP is basing this entire thread on what she thinks three private school kids said to her DS. Talk about stirring the pot and you all fell for it!

X1000 this whole thread is filled with stereotypes that do not represent current ivy/elite schools

And at this point, and certainly going forward with the elimination of legacy admissions, how many rich white kids will there really be? I was on an Ivy campus last week and it was very diverse. Even the white kids didn't look like the New England preps of the old days.

Agree, though there are plenty of rich white non-legacies to choose from. My white kids who are not legacies but are brilliant and are rich are at two different ivies, not from New England prep either. Their white friends at theirs or different ivies are not legacies either. Legacies are already much more rare at these schools. They do have hispanic and asian legacy friends. We make 600k household though we are quiet about it and do not have a second home or fancy cars, and are easily full pay. Sure there are some uber rich whites at ivies who are flashy about it but that is not common. There are also rich asians, poor whites, rich africans ...on and on. Racial diversity and socioeconomic diversity is about as maxed as it can be at these schools, now that SFFA case is done. The Ivies all brag about over half on financial aid: some are truly poor with parents paying $0, and others upper middle class making 200k who manage to get a little need-based aid. The ivies also brag about over 50% non-white. These schools are at their goals of racial and SES diversity and got there in the last 3-4 cycles. They will easily be able to stay there. There is not only a complete lack of white-rich-majority at these schools, there is neither a white nor a rich majority taken separately! Anyone who has kids at ivies currently understands this empirically from being on campus at move-in, family weekends, poster sessions etc.

TL;DR: Any parent who is looking at ivies, do not fall for the drama of these posts! ALL kinds are at ivies; the common denominator is smart, ambitious, and able to juggle a lot of things. That kid from any background will fit well in at ivies.