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Anonymous wrote:They’re trying to be nice and not make you feel bad for missing out on children. There are great things about being a DINK, enjoy it, but it’s not much deeper than people trying to be polite and encouraging.

This is so bizarre to me. If she's just responding to a question about her summer vacation plans, why are people "feeling bad for her" and "politely trying to make her feel better?"

Someone's vacation plans would never make me think I needed to cheer them up because their life differs from mine.

Sometimes people are weird. I think it's weird that OP thought so hard about this random interaction with a coworker (and I guess one other family friend with a disabled kid) that they came to this website to write about a "trend" of people (which is actually one person) telling them "they did it right."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re trying to be nice and not make you feel bad for missing out on children. There are great things about being a DINK, enjoy it, but it’s not much deeper than people trying to be polite and encouraging.

This is so bizarre to me. If she's just responding to a question about her summer vacation plans, why are people "feeling bad for her" and "politely trying to make her feel better?"

Someone's vacation plans would never make me think I needed to cheer them up because their life differs from mine.

Yes, I feel bad for the couples (plural!) I know who talk about their childless vacations to Disney and Harry Potter World.

I feel bad for the people who know you but don't know you're a nasty person judging them for things as trivial as their vacation plans.

But I'm sure those closer to you, like your nuclear family, know what you're really like. Maybe your spouse posts about what it's like being married to you in the Relationships forum of DCUM, and maybe your kids will post for support in the Family Relationships forum in about 10-15 years.

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Anonymous wrote:If you don’t have kids, why are you on a parenting forum?

Take a peek outside your bubble and you will see that many of these fora (eg, travel, finances, fashion, restaurants, home repair, entertainment ) apply to even non-procreating humans!

So you found "DC Urban Moms and Dads" and wondered what these family oriented people were wearing and doing for family vacations? Still doesn't seem logical.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is highly unlikely they regret having kids. They are just being nice and showing respect for your choice.

But OP was talking about her vacation plans, not her reproductive choices. So why would they respond to vacation talk with her reproductive status in mind? Doesn't seem respectful.

Sounds ultra-conservative.

Probably because the talking about vacation plans came across as bragging.

Anonymous wrote:If you don’t have kids, why are you on a parenting forum?

Take a peek outside your bubble and you will see that many of these fora (eg, travel, finances, fashion, restaurants, home repair, entertainment ) apply to even non-procreating humans!

Anonymous wrote:If you don’t have kids, why are you on a parenting forum?

If you have an issue with that, you'll need to take it up with the administrator of the website. This website comes up in Google search results. And perhaps you've never looked at the forum index, but there are plenty of subforums that don't have parenting as the topic.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re trying to be nice and not make you feel bad for missing out on children. There are great things about being a DINK, enjoy it, but it’s not much deeper than people trying to be polite and encouraging.

This is so bizarre to me. If she's just responding to a question about her summer vacation plans, why are people "feeling bad for her" and "politely trying to make her feel better?"

Someone's vacation plans would never make me think I needed to cheer them up because their life differs from mine.

Yes, I feel bad for the couples (plural!) I know who talk about their childless vacations to Disney and Harry Potter World.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Childfree women are usually happier than parents when young and less happy when old.

That’s actually not reflected in the sociological research. Single childfree women are happier overall at all adult life stages.

This sounds like a lot of self selection going on. Single AND childfree doesn't sound like someone with a healthy outlook on life requiring normal amounts of human interaction and socializing.

Have you heard of friends? Family? Co-workers? Neighbors?

Do the DCUM wives who post on the relationship forum sound very happy to you?

You don't sound happy. Which group are you in? And no, the lonely woman with no SO or kids only has her cats. She's the crazy cat lady. Her coworkers aren't her family.

Anonymous wrote:It is highly unlikely they regret having kids. They are just being nice and showing respect for your choice.

But OP was talking about her vacation plans, not her reproductive choices. So why would they respond to vacation talk with her reproductive status in mind? Doesn't seem respectful.

Sounds ultra-conservative.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Childfree women are usually happier than parents when young and less happy when old.

That’s actually not reflected in the sociological research. Single childfree women are happier overall at all adult life stages.

This sounds like a lot of self selection going on. Single AND childfree doesn't sound like someone with a healthy outlook on life requiring normal amounts of human interaction and socializing.

Have you heard of friends? Family? Co-workers? Neighbors?

Do the DCUM wives who post on the relationship forum sound very happy to you?

Anonymous wrote:They’re trying to be nice and not make you feel bad for missing out on children. There are great things about being a DINK, enjoy it, but it’s not much deeper than people trying to be polite and encouraging.

This is so bizarre to me. If she's just responding to a question about her summer vacation plans, why are people "feeling bad for her" and "politely trying to make her feel better?"

Someone's vacation plans would never make me think I needed to cheer them up because their life differs from mine.

Anonymous wrote:It is highly unlikely they regret having kids. They are just being nice and showing respect for your choice.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Childfree women are usually happier than parents when young and less happy when old.

That’s actually not reflected in the sociological research. Single childfree women are happier overall at all adult life stages.

This sounds like a lot of self selection going on. Single AND childfree doesn't sound like someone with a healthy outlook on life requiring normal amounts of human interaction and socializing.

It is highly unlikely they regret having kids. They are just being nice and showing respect for your choice.

They’re trying to be nice and not make you feel bad for missing out on children. There are great things about being a DINK, enjoy it, but it’s not much deeper than people trying to be polite and encouraging.