Anonymous
04/10/2024 15:37
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In my case, AP was very active in church ministry. So I emailed her pastor. This made me very happy.
Hypocrite
Thats rich! Church people always preaching but never following their own message. What was the outcome?
This is why you should worship JESUS and not the sinners who accept the gift of salvation and forgiveness offered by Jesus taking on OUR punishment for OUR sins.
We are all broken people.
Even the church-goers.
Sermon not needed. Go away.
But maybe it was needed considering some people oddly seem to hold a higher standard for those who are “church people” than for those who aren’t.
I can assure you God makes it very clear in scripture that there is no such distinction and we are all sinners who are deserving of punishment. That is called Justice. And we worship a just God who is also so loving that He sent His only son to take the punishment for all of us so that we can be forgiven…..pardoned….undeservingly.
Maybe YOU already knew that, OP. And in that case, of course you didn’t “need” to read that message—so you are welcome to keep scrolling.
The reason we hold a higher standard for church people is because they’re always shouting ant everyone how much moral superiority they have over non believers. It’s really as simple as that and if you missed that this is an undeniable trend for churchgoers, well. Idk what to tell you.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 15:04
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If there are kids involved, you don't do anything. Plain and simple. Good people don't blow up another kid's life. It makes you pretty much as bad.
Which are the "good people" here? and Who is blowing up their life? The innocent wronged spouse is in any way responsible for what happens when a married person chooses to cheat. Don't want to blow up your life? Don't cheat. Seems pretty easy!
The innocent spouse is innocent until they take an action of their own. Then they own a piece of the outcome.
To be clear there are lots of outcomes OP might prefer to avoid, not just damage to actually innocent children.
Telling someone their spouse is cheating does not have any impact on children. What the spouse chooses to do with that information is their choice.
Take some responsibility for your own actions and stop blaming two innocent spouses sharing their hurt with each other.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:59
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If there are kids involved, you don't do anything. Plain and simple. Good people don't blow up another kid's life. It makes you pretty much as bad.
Which are the "good people" here? and Who is blowing up their life? The innocent wronged spouse is in any way responsible for what happens when a married person chooses to cheat. Don't want to blow up your life? Don't cheat. Seems pretty easy!
The innocent spouse is innocent until they take an action of their own. Then they own a piece of the outcome.
To be clear there are lots of outcomes OP might prefer to avoid, not just damage to actually innocent children.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:54
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If there are kids involved, you don't do anything. Plain and simple. Good people don't blow up another kid's life. It makes you pretty much as bad.
Which are the "good people" here? and Who is blowing up their life? The innocent wronged spouse is in any way responsible for what happens when a married person chooses to cheat. Don't want to blow up your life? Don't cheat. Seems pretty easy!
There is no such thing as a "good person" or a "bad person", much to the chagrin of jilted people. I'm sorry. Life is messy and awful. But don't hurt kids unnecessarily.
The cheater is hurting the children. The cheater is doing breaking-up-family behaviors. Don't want to hurt your children? Don't cheat.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:53
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If there are kids involved, you don't do anything. Plain and simple. Good people don't blow up another kid's life. It makes you pretty much as bad.
Which are the "good people" here? and Who is blowing up their life? The innocent wronged spouse is in any way responsible for what happens when a married person chooses to cheat. Don't want to blow up your life? Don't cheat. Seems pretty easy!
There is no such thing as a "good person" or a "bad person", much to the chagrin of jilted people. I'm sorry. Life is messy and awful. But don't hurt kids unnecessarily.
How is honesty hurting kids unnecessarily? Telling the spouse has nothing to do with children. It has to do with another adult. What they do with that knowledge is their own business.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:50
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If there are kids involved, you don't do anything. Plain and simple. Good people don't blow up another kid's life. It makes you pretty much as bad.
Which are the "good people" here? and Who is blowing up their life? The innocent wronged spouse is in any way responsible for what happens when a married person chooses to cheat. Don't want to blow up your life? Don't cheat. Seems pretty easy!
There is no such thing as a "good person" or a "bad person", much to the chagrin of jilted people. I'm sorry. Life is messy and awful. But don't hurt kids unnecessarily.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:49
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If there are kids involved, you don't do anything. Plain and simple. Good people don't blow up another kid's life. It makes you pretty much as bad.
The AP was integral to blowing up my life…and she knowingly did it for years. Hers doesn’t get a free pass. No way in hell.
Does she have kids?
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:21
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:If there are kids involved, you don't do anything. Plain and simple. Good people don't blow up another kid's life. It makes you pretty much as bad.
Which are the "good people" here? and Who is blowing up their life? The innocent wronged spouse is in any way responsible for what happens when a married person chooses to cheat. Don't want to blow up your life? Don't cheat. Seems pretty easy!
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:19
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In my case, AP was very active in church ministry. So I emailed her pastor. This made me very happy.
Hypocrite
Thats rich! Church people always preaching but never following their own message. What was the outcome?
She went into “counseling” with the pastor, otherwise I don’t know. I divorced my cheater, haven’t heard about her since.
Good riddance to him!
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:18
Subject: Re:Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Bottom-line: I wouldn't count on some stranger that I hurt in the most awfully traumatic way to keep my secrets. If you don't want your family and kids to find out that you live a disgusting, deceitful second life and are an unempathetic, lying cheat: don't cheat.
This. It works for so many situations. If you don’t want people to find out that you’re a miserable POS, don’t be one. It is not my job to cover for someone who is actively hurting me and others.
And maybe if someone out them—it will put an end to it so they don’t go on to hurt yet another wife/mother/husband/kids. The AP I outed was on her fourth affair, left a trail of broken families because she wasn’t caught or stopped and her husband didn’t know about the first 3.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:16
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If there are kids involved, you don't do anything. Plain and simple. Good people don't blow up another kid's life. It makes you pretty much as bad.
The AP was integral to blowing up my life…and she knowingly did it for years. Hers doesn’t get a free pass. No way in hell.
Yeah. I’ll care about her kids and family in the same about she cares about mine: none.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:15
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If there are kids involved, you don't do anything. Plain and simple. Good people don't blow up another kid's life. It makes you pretty much as bad.
The AP was integral to blowing up my life…and she knowingly did it for years. Hers doesn’t get a free pass. No way in hell.
+1 it all starts with the cheaters. There would be zero issues with outsiders if they did not start banging others.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:14
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:If there are kids involved, you don't do anything. Plain and simple. Good people don't blow up another kid's life. It makes you pretty much as bad.
The AP was integral to blowing up my life…and she knowingly did it for years. Hers doesn’t get a free pass. No way in hell.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:13
Subject: Re:Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Bottom-line: I wouldn't count on some stranger that I hurt in the most awfully traumatic way to keep my secrets. If you don't want your family and kids to find out that you live a disgusting, deceitful second life and are an unempathetic, lying cheat: don't cheat.
This. It works for so many situations. If you don’t want people to find out that you’re a miserable POS, don’t be one. It is not my job to cover for someone who is actively hurting me and others.
Anonymous
04/10/2024 14:12
Subject: Would you tell DH’s AP’s husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In my case, AP was very active in church ministry. So I emailed her pastor. This made me very happy.
Hypocrite
Thats rich! Church people always preaching but never following their own message. What was the outcome?
This is why you should worship JESUS and not the sinners who accept the gift of salvation and forgiveness offered by Jesus taking on OUR punishment for OUR sins.
We are all broken people.
Even the church-goers.
Sermon not needed. Go away.
But maybe it was needed considering some people oddly seem to hold a higher standard for those who are “church people” than for those who aren’t.
I can assure you God makes it very clear in scripture that there is no such distinction and we are all sinners who are deserving of punishment. That is called Justice. And we worship a just God who is also so loving that He sent His only son to take the punishment for all of us so that we can be forgiven…..pardoned….undeservingly.
Maybe YOU already knew that, OP. And in that case, of course you didn’t “need” to read that message—so you are welcome to keep scrolling.