I had only one sexual partner - my ex husband- and before we divorced my gynecologist confirmed HPV. My ex vehemently denied cheating. My doctor felt I had contracted it sexually. I had not slept with anyone else other than DH. I still wonder if he passed it to me.

My friend actually got trich without sexual contact she worked in a low income neighborhood and shook a client's hand after he used the bathroom. She and her husband had been together since childhood...she said thank God we have the trusting relationship we do and there was no question in his mind that I had gotten this from another sexual partner

I’m sorry OP. I think he’s cheating. FWIW,ducm helped me realize almost 9 years ago that my DH who I thought was getting a massage was seeing a prostitute. I’ve been there and sending you strength.

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP. He vehemently denied anything. Which means....is it really possible I have had this STI for that long? The OB I spoke with said he thought it was highly unlikely I've had it that long. I'm going to get more opinions....in the meantime, I guess the towel/toilet seat holds?! I truly don't know what to think or what to do.

Ask him to get tested for whatever you have as well as a full STD panel and share the results with you. (As you will with him.). Healthwise, it doesn't matter whether he is telling the truth or not. You both should be tested, treated and then tested again. No sex until after treatment, and if you do decide to continue to have sex, use condoms
always and continue to get tested every few months.

Meanwhile, now is the time to keep your eyes wide
open - look at computer history, bank and cell phone records, make sure what he says and what he does line up, etc.

It's sort of interesting that he vehemently denied it but did not turn it around and ask if you were cheating on him. That would be my first thought if my partner came to me saying he had an STD and accusing me of cheating when I knew I hadn't.

Get a PI for piece of mind.

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP. He vehemently denied anything. Which means....is it really possible I have had this STI for that long? The OB I spoke with said he thought it was highly unlikely I've had it that long. I'm going to get more opinions....in the meantime, I guess the towel/toilet seat holds?! I truly don't know what to think or what to do.

You are being gaslit.

He could be lying but maybe not. There is non-sexual transmission of trich.

"an extensive literature search showed that nonsexual transmission of trichomonas can occur through fomites like towels and toilet seats and from swimming pools."

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4553853/#:~:text=This%20disease%20is%20more%20common,seats%20and%20from%20swimming%20pools.

Also read this:
The prevalence of trichomoniasis was 40% among women who denied sexual activity, whereas in the other cities the prevalence ranged between 2.9% and 7.7%

https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/trichomoniasis

Also in the above link:

"Without treatment, trichomoniasis can continue for months, or even years."

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP. He vehemently denied anything. Which means....is it really possible I have had this STI for that long? The OB I spoke with said he thought it was highly unlikely I've had it that long. I'm going to get more opinions....in the meantime, I guess the towel/toilet seat holds?! I truly don't know what to think or what to do.

I mean … you know he’s lying right?

The STD is trich.

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Anonymous wrote:I found out my now XH had cheated when I got a bacterial infection. I’d had a suspicion and he admitted it once confronted. I’d never ever had a BV before. My doctor indicated that it’s not uncommon for married women to catch their husbands cheating that way. Something about a change that your body can detect.

I’m sorry OP. Start compiling your financial information and talk to a lawyer (talk to several, he won’t be able to use the ones you talk to) before you let on that you know. Hopefully the std can be cleared with antibiotics.

Same, I got my first ever UTI and then first BV 6 months later. I'm embarrassed to say it never clicked (I thought something changed after having kids) but a year later I found out he was cheating during that time. It is so disgusting and violating. I'm really sorry OP.

BV is not an STD

Also a UTI is not an STD

No, but both can happen when someone introduces a new partner’s germs. Gross.

Also BV isn’t considered an STD yet. There are still a lot of unknowns surrounding transmission and source of infection.

BV is not a STI or STD. Nor is a UTI. You can be a virgin and get them. People are really ignorant about this stuff apparently.

I can't read through these pages. If it is HPV, my doctor said you could have it for 20 years have have it not show up until then. It is very slow growing. She said there is no way of knowing if it is recent or decades old. HPV is not a reason to jump to conclusions. Herpes can even be latent for years.

Others like syphillis, gonoreheaa, and chlamydia can indicate cheating. Not HPV or even herpes.

Let me be more clear...kidding on toilet seat/towel. there is no way that is actually a thing...

I have no idea how likely the toilet thing is, but I will say as a man that I've used plenty of toilet seats and never use toilet seat covers. Men in general aren't using them from what I've seen. I travel a lot for work and the bathrooms in the airport get pretty heavy use -- often a line for the stalls -- so in 30 minutes that seat has seen a lot of asses!

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP. He vehemently denied anything. Which means....is it really possible I have had this STI for that long? The OB I spoke with said he thought it was highly unlikely I've had it that long. I'm going to get more opinions....in the meantime, I guess the towel/toilet seat holds?! I truly don't know what to think or what to do.

Giiiiirlll......

I'm OP. He vehemently denied anything. Which means....is it really possible I have had this STI for that long? The OB I spoke with said he thought it was highly unlikely I've had it that long. I'm going to get more opinions....in the meantime, I guess the towel/toilet seat holds?! I truly don't know what to think or what to do.