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Anonymous wrote:I would consider an expensive serving bowl, Tiffany maybe. If they hate it, they can put it away and never look at it.

Young people do not want this stuff! Stop with the useless decorative pieces they have no room for.

Give money towards their honeymoon or a gift certificate to a restaurant they want to go yo and can’t afford. You could also get them an experience or meal where there honeymoon will be.

Right??? “They can always put it away and not look at it”. Put it away WHERE? Young couples getting married right now do not have the luxury of an affordable housing market. They probably have like one closet and 1200 square feet.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL gave me a book of all their family recipes in it. I don't even cook but I cherish it!

How nice for you. I re-gifted to my DH the one his mother gave me. Their HIS family recipes, not mine. I've got my own family recipes and I'm not interested in theirs with a few exceptions. If the recipes are important then DH can learn to make them.

Of course your DH can learn to make them, but it might be nice if you learned to make things that make your DH happy and it would be nice if he learned to cook things that make you happy. Food is my love language. I like taking care of people by making things they like to eat. I'm also not a baker, and my DH bakes really, really well. He bakes for me all the time.

They don't need family recipes to do that. Better to gift them a subscription to Cook's Illustrated and they can do it together.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL gave me a book of all their family recipes in it. I don't even cook but I cherish it!

How nice for you. I re-gifted to my DH the one his mother gave me. Their HIS family recipes, not mine. I've got my own family recipes and I'm not interested in theirs with a few exceptions. If the recipes are important then DH can learn to make them.

OP again…she has asked me to write some recipes and I bought her a box to keep the cards in and cards that she picked out . Also, my son is an excellent cook and has his own set of cookbooks , but my future DIL has requested that I write out some recipes for some family meals that my son likes. Her mother and I (we are good friends) have two different cards so she will know whose family they are from .

NP. That’s very nice. Family recipes shared upon request are great. The assumption to give family recipes to the woman marrying in instead of the man from the family is what some people do not like. And then I’ve also seen people ask for family recipes only to be told no by their MILs. Some people want recipes, some don’t; some share, some won’t.

+1 Gifting these unasked is pretty presumptuous.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL gave me a book of all their family recipes in it. I don't even cook but I cherish it!

How nice for you. I re-gifted to my DH the one his mother gave me. Their HIS family recipes, not mine. I've got my own family recipes and I'm not interested in theirs with a few exceptions. If the recipes are important then DH can learn to make them.

I don’t think you understand the gift. There’s no requirement that you use the recipes. It’s symbolic of the notion that there’s no longer His and Hers family recipes. The bride and groom are forming a union that creates a new family. Now his grandma’s recipes are part of your family recipes and your mom’s recipes are part of his family recipes. A MIL giving this to her DIL is a way of saying we’re family now. You’re not just my son’s wife, you’re my DIL.

I would only give this gift to someone who already cooks/bakes.

Had the 2 sets of parents worked together to make a single set, I'd agree with you. This just smacks of 'now you can make my precious boy his favorite foods and maintain our traditions'.

I’m 34 so not a boomer but you can get their wedding invitation engraved on a silver plate at really nice jewelry stores and I think that’s awesome. Alternatively how about their invitation framed in a beautiful frame.
Or, a portrait of their first house on canvas. Can get this on Etsy.

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Anonymous wrote:Get her a hori hori knife for the garden. I wish I'd had one growing up on the farm. Our garden alone was over an acre. When my mom used mine, she had me order 4 more!

https://www.amazon.com/Hokuru-Hori-Knife-Landscaping-Sharpening/dp/B07WNDQVH2/ref=sr_1_11?keywords=hori+hori&qid=1688411025&sr=8-11

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Very cool! Get one with the protective gloves.

Gloves are a good complement but I suggest some florescent spray paint to paint the handle. That way, when you set it down on the ground to pull something out, you don't ever have to hunt for it. It's easily seen!

Omg brilliant. I spend so many minutes searching my garden for my spade and knife!!!

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL gave me a book of all their family recipes in it. I don't even cook but I cherish it!

How nice for you. I re-gifted to my DH the one his mother gave me. Their HIS family recipes, not mine. I've got my own family recipes and I'm not interested in theirs with a few exceptions. If the recipes are important then DH can learn to make them.

Of course your DH can learn to make them, but it might be nice if you learned to make things that make your DH happy and it would be nice if he learned to cook things that make you happy. Food is my love language. I like taking care of people by making things they like to eat. I'm also not a baker, and my DH bakes really, really well. He bakes for me all the time.

A crystal vase from Tiffany’s.

https://www.tiffany.com/accessories/decor/tiffany-pearl-cut-vase-68988675/

But you MUST pronounce it “vaahhhze.”

Most ideas here are awful and dates. The worst would be a $2k piece of art or flashy purse she will feel embarrassed to display/wear. You’re lucky she loves gardening since that’s an easy entry to something useful, beautiful and wanted.

I would do a simple but exquisite small-to-medium sized Italian-made terracotta pot from Bergs ($200ish). Buy online or at Terrain. Then add the small tools PP suggested and a generous gift card to a great nursery. If she has a favorite flower I would do an online specialty nursery. Peony’s Envy for peonies, for example. And a note about how much you value her and love that you share a passion for plants.

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A pretty Le Creuset with family recipe cards inside

My mother in law loves this kind of stuff. I do not and would have hated this. I have much simpler taste and never wanted quilts, crystal, plaques etc. while it would be gracious, it would have gone and did go in the back of the closet.

slush fund.

Anonymous wrote:I think she would love some beautiful crystal or decorative items for the home. They would be treasured - I always give them as gifts and the recipients love them!

No they really don’t. People go not want crystal anymore.

Anonymous wrote:I would consider an expensive serving bowl, Tiffany maybe. If they hate it, they can put it away and never look at it.

Young people do not want this stuff! Stop with the useless decorative pieces they have no room for.

Give money towards their honeymoon or a gift certificate to a restaurant they want to go yo and can’t afford. You could also get them an experience or meal where there honeymoon will be.

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I mean any quilt. They look old fashioned. I do not live in a country home in Kentucky that was built in 1842. I don't believe in "country chic".

A little off topic but you really should check out some quilting competitions. Although they typically have a 'traditional' category. There are some real artists in the quilting world. They aren't making your granny's cabin quilt! Some of these would be heirlooms that I'd absolutely get behind!

https://blog.sulky.com/2018-houston-quilt-festival-winners/

https://quiltcon.com/quiltcon-2017-winners/

https://www.quilts.com/quilt-festival/judged-show-winners/

Love some of these ! I always liked the look of a quilt on a large wall but didn’t like the country themes that were typical. It’s nice to see some more modern designs

Gold bars

Or

Bonds