Anonymous
Post 06/27/2022 19:38     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
Anonymous wrote:“Your daughter is so beautiful! She looks exactly like [SIL]”. I have heard variations on this theme for years from other moms who know my SIL.


I am assuming you don’t think she looks like SIL?
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2022 09:32     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“I bet your husband is so happy he’s finally getting a boy of his own.”

Said to me about our second child, as if our first - an adopted girl- didn’t count because she was a girl and not bio related or that my husband wasn’t thrilled about her. Also, I’m adopted so she insulted both my daughter and me in the same breath.



People are such idiots. I'm sorry you had to hear that BS.


+1

Disgusting.
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2022 09:31     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
Anonymous wrote:“Your daughter is so beautiful! She looks exactly like [SIL]”. I have heard variations on this theme for years from other moms who know my SIL.


Huh?
Anonymous
Post 06/26/2022 18:57     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
Anonymous wrote:I registered my son for religious Ed when he was in first grade. The woman at the church office asked me for my marriage certificate and my kid’s birth certificate. I have her the birth certificate and told her I wasn’t married. She said “Your don is going to be very ashamed of you when he grows up.” I couldn’t believe she said that and I walked out. I called the priest who baptized him at the same church and he registered my son himself and apologized profusely. I never saw that lady in the office again.


OMG, that is horrible!
Anonymous
Post 06/26/2022 18:10     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
I registered my son for religious Ed when he was in first grade. The woman at the church office asked me for my marriage certificate and my kid’s birth certificate. I have her the birth certificate and told her I wasn’t married. She said “Your don is going to be very ashamed of you when he grows up.” I couldn’t believe she said that and I walked out. I called the priest who baptized him at the same church and he registered my son himself and apologized profusely. I never saw that lady in the office again.
Anonymous
Post 06/26/2022 17:29     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
“I didn’t want my kids to have to grow up living in apartments.” -my SIL’s response to me when I congratulated her and her husband on the occasion of buying their first house. We lived in an apartment w our 2 young kids at the time and I had talked w her before about how much we wanted to buy a house but that we were saving $$ and it might be a few years still.

I’m over it now. And I know it’s not that horrible. But it was just not very thoughtful.
Anonymous
Post 06/26/2022 17:26     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
Anonymous wrote:New women my brother is dating at a family cook out: And Karen how many kids do you have?
Me (Karen): well I have two…
Sister in law: she has two, she will say three with a long story but she has two.


This was like maybe, maybe, 4 months after our stillborn daughter. I think it was more like 3 months though. What’s odd is I don’t even hate my sister in law, we get along fine. I think she is on the spectrum and just can’t deal with emotional things and was worried I would make our new family guest uncomfortable. But I was in a moment in my life where I needed to handle and pivot those questions my own way and I found it very offensive and mean. Unfortunately I took this out on my husband and we fought hard about it. But I still still never forget it.


OMG....
Anonymous
Post 06/26/2022 17:24     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
Anonymous wrote:“I bet your husband is so happy he’s finally getting a boy of his own.”

Said to me about our second child, as if our first - an adopted girl- didn’t count because she was a girl and not bio related or that my husband wasn’t thrilled about her. Also, I’m adopted so she insulted both my daughter and me in the same breath.



People are such idiots. I'm sorry you had to hear that BS.
Anonymous
Post 06/26/2022 16:38     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
“Your daughter is so beautiful! She looks exactly like [SIL]”. I have heard variations on this theme for years from other moms who know my SIL.
Anonymous
Post 06/26/2022 13:05     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As we were sitting and holding our first baby who had just died hours before, my MIL told me she predicted this would happen and proceeded to tell me a long version of a story of how she had a dream shortly after we announced it was going to be a girl, about not just one pink baby coffin, but many of them.


Jesus.


+1. I see it is all about her (again). Sorry for your loss, OP.
Anonymous
Post 06/26/2022 12:58     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
I was asked whether my children are my grandchildren.



Me too. And I was only in my 30s!
Anonymous
Post 06/26/2022 03:22     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?

I was asked whether my children are my grandchildren.

Anonymous
Post 06/25/2022 10:04     Subject: What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:1. How much do you charge for nannying since I can see you treat your charge like your own child (it was MY child, our skin color just doesn't match).

2. "ha ha ha, if she doesn't behave I guess you can always send her back". (in front of my adopted child)


I was told this too and yet we are both white.


So you understand how frustrating this must be when a mom has to face this all the time. 4 out of 5 times I am out with my child someone assumes I am the nanny because of my race. DD is old enough now to understand what it means. It sucks.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2022 09:50     Subject: What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
Anonymous wrote:“I can’t imagine doing xyz with what you’re going through”

Said because my little one has some special needs. I mean, I go to more therapies, but I stay at home and I’m crazy in love with him. I’m not going “through” anything.


you should hear what people say to my face when they realize my daughter has Down syndrome! Any mom of children with spacial needs hears these things. Way way too many to list them all here.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2022 09:27     Subject: Re:What’s the worst thing another mother ever said to you?
Anonymous wrote:“I bet your husband is so happy he’s finally getting a boy of his own.”

Said to me about our second child, as if our first - an adopted girl- didn’t count because she was a girl and not bio related or that my husband wasn’t thrilled about her. Also, I’m adopted so she insulted both my daughter and me in the same breath.



And she insulted both YOUR mom and dad too! Ugh. We adopted our 3 kids too and it is amazing what people will say.

I prefer my pets over people most of the time.