Anonymous
10/29/2025 09:40
Subject: Should I have a second kid at 38 (DH 52), or are we just too old?
Don't do it. Bringing 1 person into this situation never should have happened. Neither one of you aren't interactive much with the first one. Full time nanny? So neither one of you do much parenting. Poor kid.
Not every person wants a sibling. Not every person gets along and has a relationship with their sibling(s)
You are making the situation even more chaotic and dysfunctional.
You already live and exist in dysfunction. You never should have been with this man in the first place.
There shouldn't have been a first.
Also, 38+ people shouldn't become first time parents. They should except the ship has sailed and they weren't on the boat. Having children at your age and older is a form of arrested development.
Not every person wants a sibling. Not every person gets along and has a relationship with their sibling(s)
You are making the situation even more chaotic and dysfunctional.
You already live and exist in dysfunction. You never should have been with this man in the first place.
There shouldn't have been a first.
Also, 38+ people shouldn't become first time parents. They should except the ship has sailed and they weren't on the boat. Having children at your age and older is a form of arrested development.
Anonymous
10/28/2025 09:46
Subject: Re:Should I have a second kid at 38 (DH 52), or are we just too old?
Why are you giving advice to a 4 year old thread?? Sound like a Dear Abby/ Cosmopolitan mag! Too late and too old!Anonymous wrote:I know a colleague, 54, who has two tween kids. He left his 10-years younger wife for a girl a year out of college who started working with us after graduation. She was a rock star employee, and they just bonded and are blissfully happy together. It happens, especially if the wife gets complacent. He says the GF makes him feel alive again after his wife had just been such a downer.
My colleague doesn’t take c**p from the ex. When she tried to set conditions for the kids meeting potential stepparents, he went ahead and introduced them to his girlfriend.
OP, that’s how your husband needs to be. You’re his priority now, you and your own kids. His first family had their chance already, and none of them stepped up to the plate. They took him for granted.
You do that with a wealthy, successful professional, and an attractive talented and captivating woman will come along and do things right with him.
Don’t let your husband go on the market for #3. You’re giving him a hard time, and now he’s meeting a slew of flight attendants. One of them would make an excellent third wife.