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Anonymous wrote:It's the only place I have ever lived where every single SAHM has to tell you what her job was before she had kids. We call them the "used to be's". Everyone always has to tell you that she used to be a lawyer within five or ten minutes of meeting her. Who cares? You're not a lawyer now, are you?

This is not my experience.

But I can understand why they do this. The DC area is the only place I have lived where everyone asks you what you do for a living. So answering that you are a SAHM probably discombobulates the questioner. Hence they feel the need to say what they did before being a mom.

Not a fan of the career-obsessed culture here.

I agree. People also look down on SAHMs more here than the do other places I've lived. I work, but I've heard other parents say the most derisive things about women who don't and I think it's so weird. I'm not surprised a lot of SAHMs are defensive and feel the need to let people know they are educated or have done serious work in the past.

Once my husband and I noted to another couple that we are not super ambitious career-wise (we are middle management and a few years back we realized we didn't really have aspirations beyond that and are okay just staying at this level until retirement and then pursuing bigger passions in retirement). Their response made it seem like we'd just told them we used heroine casually on the weekends. It was especially weird because it's not like they were career superstars. They are midlevel government attorneys. But just saying out loud that we are not pushing to rise up or make more money in our careers at this point felt controversial. So weird.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's the only place I have ever lived where every single SAHM has to tell you what her job was before she had kids. We call them the "used to be's". Everyone always has to tell you that she used to be a lawyer within five or ten minutes of meeting her. Who cares? You're not a lawyer now, are you?

Yes, she is a lawyer who is not currently practicing law. You don't stop being a lawyer.

A lot of them were never practicing lawyers to begin with, some never sat for the bar exam. But either way, underscoring this to a person you just met teases out you're insecure, superficial, and credential and status obsessed.

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Anonymous wrote:People come to dc to make something of themselves. As it’s been said before it’s Hollywood for ugly people. If you can’t do something for them they’re not interested in you and once you can’t help them anymore they are done with you. There are no real friends here. That’s where the rudeness is coming from.

Then there are those of us who have lived here for generations. We’re not rude — unless it’s in response to egregious rudeness. We have lifelong friends — which are not usually transactional, although we help each other as friends do. For the most part though, transients aren’t interested in us. Transients and some transplants tend to interact with other transients and transplants — and then vent about rudeness and loneliness and transactional relationships. You get what you give.

So well said. Totally agree with this.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People come to dc to make something of themselves. As it’s been said before it’s Hollywood for ugly people. If you can’t do something for them they’re not interested in you and once you can’t help them anymore they are done with you. There are no real friends here. That’s where the rudeness is coming from.

Then there are those of us who have lived here for generations. We’re not rude — unless it’s in response to egregious rudeness. We have lifelong friends — which are not usually transactional, although we help each other as friends do. For the most part though, transients aren’t interested in us. Transients and some transplants tend to interact with other transients and transplants — and then vent about rudeness and loneliness and transactional relationships. You get what you give.

As someone that grew up here and then returned after grad school, I agree with this assessment.

Anonymous wrote:It's the only place I have ever lived where every single SAHM has to tell you what her job was before she had kids. We call them the "used to be's". Everyone always has to tell you that she used to be a lawyer within five or ten minutes of meeting her. Who cares? You're not a lawyer now, are you?

lol, such a funny observation. And if their undergrad was at some degree mill, they're quick to name drop where their prestigious graduate degree is from. Lot of people running away from their middle class roots.

Anonymous wrote:It’s some kind of weird insecurity. I know exactly what you are talking about.

Flyover state rubes who feel like they've "made it" abandoning their cowtown family for some consulting or low-level fed fake meaningless laptop job. And others who are insecure about being in D.C. instead of the perceived to be more cosmopolitan New York, (Boston?), LA, SF... London, Paris, etc.

Anonymous wrote:People come to dc to make something of themselves. As it’s been said before it’s Hollywood for ugly people. If you can’t do something for them they’re not interested in you and once you can’t help them anymore they are done with you. There are no real friends here. That’s where the rudeness is coming from.

Then there are those of us who have lived here for generations. We’re not rude — unless it’s in response to egregious rudeness. We have lifelong friends — which are not usually transactional, although we help each other as friends do. For the most part though, transients aren’t interested in us. Transients and some transplants tend to interact with other transients and transplants — and then vent about rudeness and loneliness and transactional relationships. You get what you give.

Anonymous wrote:It's the only place I have ever lived where every single SAHM has to tell you what her job was before she had kids. We call them the "used to be's". Everyone always has to tell you that she used to be a lawyer within five or ten minutes of meeting her. Who cares? You're not a lawyer now, are you?

This is not my experience.

But I can understand why they do this. The DC area is the only place I have lived where everyone asks you what you do for a living. So answering that you are a SAHM probably discombobulates the questioner. Hence they feel the need to say what they did before being a mom.

Not a fan of the career-obsessed culture here.

Anonymous wrote:agreed - NYers are nicer and that's saying something..

NYer here and I agree.

agreed - NYers are nicer and that's saying something..

People come to dc to make something of themselves. As it’s been said before it’s Hollywood for ugly people. If you can’t do something for them they’re not interested in you and once you can’t help them anymore they are done with you. There are no real friends here. That’s where the rudeness is coming from.

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Anonymous wrote:The people living in and around the greater D.C. area are the worst people on the planet!

Which is why as a maga Latina I looked for my boyfriend in Texas

Please try to use the non-offensive term:

Latinx.

TIA !

Haha whatever. You are in no way a Latino/a trying to push your woke rules on us smh.

100000000000000%

No where else on earth matched this level of insane rudeness. No where else.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people living in and around the greater D.C. area are the worst people on the planet!

Which is why as a maga Latina I looked for my boyfriend in Texas

Please try to use the non-offensive term:

Latinx.

TIA !

Anonymous wrote:The people living in and around the greater D.C. area are the worst people on the planet!

Which is why as a maga Latina I looked for my boyfriend in Texas