Anonymous
09/04/2023 09:51
Subject: "I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is this an OK standard to have?
My fiance told me he would never date a woman with divorced parents. He said it normalizes divorce, they grow up in a home where marriage is temporary, and in a lot of cases they no longer have a father. I think I agree with him, but it seems kind of mean to dismiss people based on their parents' actions.
It is a fine standard, OP.
Sad how many people won’t validate your consideration of that possibility.
All your feelings are valid and worthwhile, OP!! Don’t let others talk down to you.
Plus, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Why bother with the “damaged goods” men who are the product of divorce. You deserve better.
When your world view is inventing nonsensical reasons to hate people, the sea dries up quickly.
My grandmother divorced her loser husband who wasn't rich enough for her. She spent 60 years bitter and alone (and with even less money) while waiting for someone worthy of her affection.
Anonymous
09/04/2023 09:10
Subject: "I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What happens if your or his parents get divorced while you are married?
I guess they have to get divorced too. LOL. Seriously, can't wait to hear the answers to this.
OP: My mom is dead, his dad is dead. Can't divorce dead people lol
I would never marry anyone who had a dead parent. They just gave up on life! Clearly they’re not a committed kind of person.
/s
Anonymous
09/04/2023 08:12
Subject: Re:"I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
Anonymous wrote:With 50% marriages ending in divorce, you cut your dating pool by half with this approach. If after age 35, you effectively cut it by 70-80%
Nah. That statistic includes the same person getting divorced over and over again. Also if you control for income and education level it’s lower too.
Anonymous
09/04/2023 07:28
Subject: "I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
You know what would be funny, if he married someone who’s patents got a gray divorce… serve the judging snowflake right.
Anonymous
09/03/2023 23:59
Subject: "I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
It's been over 2 years, how's your marriage working out op?
Anonymous
09/03/2023 23:59
Subject: "I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is this an OK standard to have?
My fiance told me he would never date a woman with divorced parents. He said it normalizes divorce, they grow up in a home where marriage is temporary, and in a lot of cases they no longer have a father. I think I agree with him, but it seems kind of mean to dismiss people based on their parents' actions.
It is a fine standard, OP.
Sad how many people won’t validate your consideration of that possibility.
All your feelings are valid and worthwhile, OP!! Don’t let others talk down to you.
Plus, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Why bother with the “damaged goods” men who are the product of divorce. You deserve better.
Chat GPt word salad
Anonymous
09/03/2023 22:50
Subject: "I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
Anonymous wrote:Is this an OK standard to have?
My fiance told me he would never date a woman with divorced parents. He said it normalizes divorce, they grow up in a home where marriage is temporary, and in a lot of cases they no longer have a father. I think I agree with him, but it seems kind of mean to dismiss people based on their parents' actions.
It is a fine standard, OP.
Sad how many people won’t validate your consideration of that possibility.
All your feelings are valid and worthwhile, OP!! Don’t let others talk down to you.
Plus, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Why bother with the “damaged goods” men who are the product of divorce. You deserve better.
Anonymous
09/03/2023 22:28
Subject: Re:"I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
With 50% marriages ending in divorce, you cut your dating pool by half with this approach. If after age 35, you effectively cut it by 70-80%
Anonymous
09/03/2023 22:25
Subject: "I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
I find this comical. Not all marriages are healthy. I respect couples more who realize they are not a good fit than miserable married couple who stay together for all the wrong reasons and hate each other.
Anonymous
09/03/2023 21:49
Subject: Re:"I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
I don’t even have the energy to reply to this nonsense. And it’s nonsense.
Anonymous
09/03/2023 20:41
Subject: "I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This thread does not apply to black people. They’re just screwed, again. Less than 30% marry. Last I checked.
So —- all those black men and women that came from broken homes? Damaged goods. Do not marry. Especially if parent is fat.
I could punch DCUM in the gut right now, but it’s too early.
Obama and lebron, especially Lebron, doesn’t get enough credit for managing to enter into and have a nuclear family
Obama ok - he’s a huxtable type but bron really made it out the hood and for all intents and purposes seems to be Superdad
The world had to wait for Lebron to turn like 34 before he was fully a serious family man. He had two of his kids with Savannah 10 years before he actually married her. He is exception that proves the rule, perhaps, that most products of a never-formed home do not have such a happy ending.
Anonymous
09/03/2023 20:09
Subject: "I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
I dislike absolutisms all around - what a waste to exclude people. I also think it changes when you meet someone compelling who fits in that box - you suddenly drop them? Meh.
Anonymous
09/03/2023 20:07
Subject: Re:"I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
Anonymous wrote:^ and so if someone comes from a broken home it’s a red flag.
But of course you should get to know family and family dynamics of a potential marriage partner too. Was the father authoritarian with little respect for women? Was the mom a nagging lazy person that expected man to earn all the $?
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LOL. Your last sentence is disrespectful to sah mothers. I think you sound like a loser.
Anonymous
09/03/2023 20:03
Subject: "I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My dad's parents divorced when he was 13. He and my mom have been happily married for over 40 years. Your parents' relationship failures do not define you.
This is a weird resurrection of a zombie thread.
It could be being resurrected because I have heard of more men and women both making this a dealbreaker
Anonymous
09/03/2023 20:02
Subject: "I won't date someone whose parents are divorced"
Anonymous wrote:This thread does not apply to black people. They’re just screwed, again. Less than 30% marry. Last I checked.
So —- all those black men and women that came from broken homes? Damaged goods. Do not marry. Especially if parent is fat.
I could punch DCUM in the gut right now, but it’s too early.
Obama and lebron, especially Lebron, doesn’t get enough credit for managing to enter into and have a nuclear family
Obama ok - he’s a huxtable type but bron really made it out the hood and for all intents and purposes seems to be Superdad