Anonymous
12/16/2020 10:06
Subject: Re:dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks. I see. I guess it's more that I don't want to have new/more kids in my orbit. So if the woman doesn't have kids and is happy to become a stepmom to mine without having her own kids, that could work for me and maybe not be as hard to find?
Why would they want to date somebody who has kids?
This. My DH has this delusion that if we broke up, he'd find some good looking young-ish woman (under 35) to be with him. He's 48 and I'm 39. I have told him no young-ish woman wants middle aged dad bod with a toddler and an ex-wife. That's like the LAST thing any single quality woman worth her salt would want. On top of that he's impotent (seriously) so he'd have to find that unicorn woman in her early 30s that neither wants kids and wants to take care of his young child. Smh so delusional
If your DH has money, then yes, he will find one. Actually she will find him.
+1. Am I the only one on here old enough to remember Ann Nicole Smith?
Anonymous
12/16/2020 10:05
Subject: dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
I’m an early 40s man dating in DC after divorce and with kids.
Leaving aside whether OP was honest in describing himself (doubtful but possible), a man who does fit that description would find what he’s looking for. It may take some time but it would happen eventually. It doesn’t matter if you would never date him; there are women out there who would.
Leaving aside whether OP was honest in describing himself (doubtful but possible), a man who does fit that description would find what he’s looking for. It may take some time but it would happen eventually. It doesn’t matter if you would never date him; there are women out there who would.
Anonymous
12/16/2020 09:57
Subject: dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Date women 50+ who don't already have kids OP. If they originally wanted kids they may be really happy to be a step mom, or at least neutral.
If you date younger women or women under 50 (pre menopausal), who don't already have kids, chances are they will at least want to try to have them.
What you're saying makes sense but let's be honest. Why would a 47-year-old freshly divorced guy be looking at old women? 50+? AARP discounts at Olive Garden?
Yes, but his main criteria is someone who has reconciled themselves to not having children. If so, he needs to fine a nice looking women who has already gone through menopause so he won't be entrapped by a "whoops" baby.
And he's already 47 anyhow, it's only 3 years away for him. If he wants a younger woman to marry he better get ready to reproduce.
You haven't paid attention. He's 45 and he has vasectomy so can't have a whoops baby.
Missed that part.
Well, a younger woman won't need him unless he decides to have the vasectomy reversed.
At this point his choice is to find hot incredibly young women, who need money and/or food, who don't want to be tied down by kids, like a sugar daddy arrangement. Or, date a women his age or older, who has given up on trying to have kids.
you have a very narrow view of women's existences, don't you
NP. Okay fine. Maybe there's a woman his age or older who is also looking for a sugar daddy arrangement that OP can partake in!
again, the fact you can only see this in terms of a young woman who wants a sugar daddy, or an older woman who has "given up in trying to have kids," speaks more to your narrow experiences than it does to op's prospects
i'm not saying op is a great catch - but i am saying that many available women aren't just young and looking for a baby or money, or old and dried up spinsters who don't see much point in wanting anything in life since they didn't have kids
Anonymous
12/16/2020 09:56
Subject: Re:dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks. I see. I guess it's more that I don't want to have new/more kids in my orbit. So if the woman doesn't have kids and is happy to become a stepmom to mine without having her own kids, that could work for me and maybe not be as hard to find?
Why would they want to date somebody who has kids?
This. My DH has this delusion that if we broke up, he'd find some good looking young-ish woman (under 35) to be with him. He's 48 and I'm 39. I have told him no young-ish woman wants middle aged dad bod with a toddler and an ex-wife. That's like the LAST thing any single quality woman worth her salt would want. On top of that he's impotent (seriously) so he'd have to find that unicorn woman in her early 30s that neither wants kids and wants to take care of his young child. Smh so delusional
If your DH has money, then yes, he will find one. Actually she will find him.
Anonymous
12/16/2020 09:55
Subject: dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Date women 50+ who don't already have kids OP. If they originally wanted kids they may be really happy to be a step mom, or at least neutral.
If you date younger women or women under 50 (pre menopausal), who don't already have kids, chances are they will at least want to try to have them.
What you're saying makes sense but let's be honest. Why would a 47-year-old freshly divorced guy be looking at old women? 50+? AARP discounts at Olive Garden?
Yes, but his main criteria is someone who has reconciled themselves to not having children. If so, he needs to fine a nice looking women who has already gone through menopause so he won't be entrapped by a "whoops" baby.
And he's already 47 anyhow, it's only 3 years away for him. If he wants a younger woman to marry he better get ready to reproduce.
You haven't paid attention. He's 45 and he has vasectomy so can't have a whoops baby.
Missed that part.
Well, a younger woman won't need him unless he decides to have the vasectomy reversed.
At this point his choice is to find hot incredibly young women, who need money and/or food, who don't want to be tied down by kids, like a sugar daddy arrangement. Or, date a women his age or older, who has given up on trying to have kids.
you have a very narrow view of women's existences, don't you
No. I am a middle aged woman who couldn't have kids.
I would not have dated a divorced dad when I was in my 20s or 39s because my focus was on finding someone to have my own kids with.
Most of my single/ divorced friends, even in their forties, want to find guys to have their own kids with. But, some of my friends who know theycan't have kids would be ok being with someone in OP's situation. Most are in their mid 40s to over 50.
I'm sure there are a few 30s women out there who can't have kids for medical reasons, but OP would need to put in a fair amount of work to find them. But there are plenty of sugar daddy seeking 20 somethings who need money.
believe it or not there are people who are not you and not in your friend group, and who want things other than what you and your friends want
Anonymous
12/16/2020 09:55
Subject: Re:dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
Anonymous wrote:I don't want kids of my own and this is my dream... Falling in love with someone who already has kids so I can enjoy all the kid stuff like recitals, Christmas, science fair projects, bragging about how smart they are, and cute kid sports without any pregnancy or worries about some family genetic stuff rearing its head. Right now I just dote on my nieces and nephew!! I've thought about making an online dating profile that says something like that... 'not going to be having kids of my own but I love kids and would love to be a stepmom' I don't know how to phrase it right. Should I just say it like that???
Please tell me where men like you tend to congregate or how to meet them.
his kids are old though so you won't get any of the cute stuff. You'll just get teenage drama and attitude and expense.
Anonymous
12/16/2020 09:54
Subject: dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
Maybe if you are super rich and fit. And have all your hair.
Otherwise...lol good luck buddy.
Otherwise...lol good luck buddy.
Anonymous
12/16/2020 09:52
Subject: Re:dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:^ so it’s just sex and it has to be at your house? I can’t imagine being your age with kids and ever introducing any 20 something to my friends, family, etc. It’s even more cliche that they still live at home or in a group house. Let me clue you in -your “dates” see you as a meal ticket.
Some men are attractive enough and good enough in bed to find casual sex with younger women without it being a $ thing. If you're in your 20s and not looking for something serious, having a short-term relationship with a guy who is kind, attractive, cooks you dinner, knows what he's doing, is grateful for your presence, and cares enough to take his time and take care of you is not a bad way to spend a few months.
Sure. And to the vast majority of women, they're going to find men in their 20s and 30s the most attractive. And when it comes to a NSA situation, where there is no hope of creating a life together one day, all the other concerns for money and frankly everything else go out the window.
Women can get random, casual sex from about 90% of single men. Why on earth would they pick a 40+ father with nothing to offer? When there are 20 year olds with six packs, huge d***s, and endless stamina?
Just asking, from someone who's had many of the 20 year old FWBs (and a lot of fun!)
Because a man in his 40s isn't yet ravaged by age and is substantially more interesting than an average 20-year old. You know perfectly well that it isn't a huge dick and endless stamina that really pleases women in bed.
Anonymous
12/16/2020 09:41
Subject: dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
Anonymous wrote:You’re 45 and cringing at dating women your own age. Okay, everyone likes youth, I get it.
What are you offering so that someone 10 years younger wants to date you? Not much. You made some weird comments about not wanting to be a sugar daddy. From day one you’re already ruling out sharing your income which is one of the easiest ways men can make the age difference palatable. You’re also ruling out children which are almost universally desired. And on top of that she has to give up all the benefits of a childfree lifestyle because you have children.
So, what exactly are you offering? You say you’re fit and attractive. Okay, I believe you. But realistically a guy her age will be more fit and more attractive than you — AND he won’t have the baggage of an ex wife, kids and being old.
+1. His pool is already narrow. He should focus on 43-50 and kids should not be a factor. A woman in her 30s can do better. I always feel like men look for women like shopping for a piece of furniture. Look for a connection first...much more likely to find it with women his own age due to baggage.
Anonymous
12/16/2020 04:40
Subject: dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
You’re 45 and cringing at dating women your own age. Okay, everyone likes youth, I get it.
What are you offering so that someone 10 years younger wants to date you? Not much. You made some weird comments about not wanting to be a sugar daddy. From day one you’re already ruling out sharing your income which is one of the easiest ways men can make the age difference palatable. You’re also ruling out children which are almost universally desired. And on top of that she has to give up all the benefits of a childfree lifestyle because you have children.
So, what exactly are you offering? You say you’re fit and attractive. Okay, I believe you. But realistically a guy her age will be more fit and more attractive than you — AND he won’t have the baggage of an ex wife, kids and being old.
What are you offering so that someone 10 years younger wants to date you? Not much. You made some weird comments about not wanting to be a sugar daddy. From day one you’re already ruling out sharing your income which is one of the easiest ways men can make the age difference palatable. You’re also ruling out children which are almost universally desired. And on top of that she has to give up all the benefits of a childfree lifestyle because you have children.
So, what exactly are you offering? You say you’re fit and attractive. Okay, I believe you. But realistically a guy her age will be more fit and more attractive than you — AND he won’t have the baggage of an ex wife, kids and being old.
Anonymous
12/16/2020 01:45
Subject: dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
A younger woman willing to accept what you offer may have problems of her own. If you think you have found this unicorn proceed with caution. It may be a donkey in costume.
Anonymous
12/16/2020 01:21
Subject: dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
Anonymous wrote:You have baggage but you want a woman without baggage. Lol
That pretty much sums it up.
Really, the whole thing smacks of OP wanting an accessory with a vagina rather than a real relationship with a fully-formed adult. I totally get not wanting more kids of your own, but it’s a bit rich to rule out women with their own children because you don’t want to be bothered dealing with exactly the same complications you want a partner to deal with from you. If other people with children aren’t worth bothering with, why should anyone find you worth bothering with?
Anonymous
12/16/2020 01:15
Subject: Re:dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
Which crazy woman wants to parent another woman’s kids?
Anonymous
12/16/2020 01:09
Subject: dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You have baggage but you want a woman without baggage. Lol
I know, right?
Divorced dad wants younger good looking woman to date / marry, must not have any kids or interest in them. Ok, then why would she date you?
+2
Anonymous
12/16/2020 00:17
Subject: dad seeking woman who doesn't have and doesn't want kids?
Anonymous wrote:You have baggage but you want a woman without baggage. Lol
I know, right?
Divorced dad wants younger good looking woman to date / marry, must not have any kids or interest in them. Ok, then why would she date you?