Anonymous
12/23/2020 08:36
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
There's a woman like this in my neighborhood. I thought she just hated me for a couple years until my husband met her. He immediately recognized that she was pretty far on the spectrum (possibly because he has a closer relative with Asperger's). Somehow that never occurred to me before he mentioned it.
Sounds like she lacks social skills for whatever reason.
Sounds like she lacks social skills for whatever reason.
Anonymous
12/22/2020 23:53
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Op- anyone justifying this weirdo you texted is just as bizarre as she is.
Anonymous
12/22/2020 23:20
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Op, once its safe to do so, I hope you have large parties around the fire pit and don't invite her to a single one.
Anonymous
12/22/2020 16:06
Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:I know a woman who does stuff like this and the wording is so similar I seriously wonder if it's the same woman. I know several people who have been mortified by this same woman because, like you, they thought they were just being friendly and normal and she has zero manners and is always super busy and seems to think everyone wants to be her very best friend and monopolize all her time.
Anyway, OP, you are fine. What she said was super rude and weird. It would be different if you had reached out and said, "We really enjoy hanging out with your family and would really like to be better friends with you!" and she'd replied this way. That would still be rude, but at least it would be a direct answer to a question you'd actually asked. She is way in her head on this and could have just said, "Sounds fun but we've just got too much going on right now! Hopefully we'll see you after the holidays when the boys get together!" It means the same thing as what she said but doesn't assume you are desperate for her company.
Anyway, ignore. Maybe just wait to see if your son asks to hang out with hers and if so limit invite to the boys. It's too bad she has no social skills.
I think this is a good assessment and OP I don't think you need to be mortified by this. Asking someone to hang out once over a fire pit is not you asking her to be your life long friend. Does she generally think very highly of herself? I can't otherwise understand why you would respond with such a "final" response to an innocuous invite
Anonymous
12/22/2020 14:14
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Harsh to say, but you were never friends so I'd just leave it and move on. I went to grad school with a HS friend of mine. She was a few years ahead of me. We had been close in HS. I had not heard from her during summer break and contacted her to see how she was. I told her that I'd not heard from her and what was going on. Her response, I had nothing to say to you so didn't call. It was harsh but a pretty straight forward way of telling me that we weren't pals. I did not respond and we didn't speak thereafter.
Sometimes, people don't want to be your friend and it's ok. Move on and hang out with those that do.
Sometimes, people don't want to be your friend and it's ok. Move on and hang out with those that do.
Anonymous
12/22/2020 14:05
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Sounds like borderline personality disorder. Extreme fear of closeness causes a person to fear rejection so badly that they reject others preemptively. She is afraid you will see through her somehow. Just do not reply or attempt to engage and do not be intimidated into letting your feelings get involved.
Mental health professional here. You can’t assume BPD based on this info.
She does sound like a b!tch though!
NP. She does not sound like a bitch to me. She sounds like she does not have time for more social interactions. She was being honest. She does not want to have to decline multiple invitations. I actually find it refreshing. Some women truly do not have time to do one more thing between work and kids. Give her a break.
Anonymous
12/22/2020 14:03
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
She's busy. Don't take it personally.
Anonymous
12/15/2020 13:40
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
... I also asked a couple of other friends
so word spreads
so word spreads
Anonymous
12/15/2020 12:55
Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP!
So, I let this go for a few days until the total awkwardness on my part melted off. I also asked a couple of other friends who thought it was weird but who know her and have hung out with her, so...
I ended up sending a breezy (remember the Breezy friends episode?) text: "Ha, OK. Take good care and hope to see you around."
THEN she replied with four Emoji hearts. I'm basically...done. Yeah. Weird. Ugh. I hate being an adult.
What could she have replied that wouldn’t have ticked you off, though?
Not op, but you can't be serious. You don't know how to tactfully reply to an invite?
NP. I think PP means the heart emoji response, not the original reply to the invite.
Anonymous
12/15/2020 12:49
Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP!
So, I let this go for a few days until the total awkwardness on my part melted off. I also asked a couple of other friends who thought it was weird but who know her and have hung out with her, so...
I ended up sending a breezy (remember the Breezy friends episode?) text: "Ha, OK. Take good care and hope to see you around."
THEN she replied with four Emoji hearts. I'm basically...done. Yeah. Weird. Ugh. I hate being an adult.
What could she have replied that wouldn’t have ticked you off, though?
Yeah. The problem is OP is too easily ticked off.
How is your social skills class going?
Anonymous
12/14/2020 19:32
Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP!
So, I let this go for a few days until the total awkwardness on my part melted off. I also asked a couple of other friends who thought it was weird but who know her and have hung out with her, so...
I ended up sending a breezy (remember the Breezy friends episode?) text: "Ha, OK. Take good care and hope to see you around."
THEN she replied with four Emoji hearts. I'm basically...done. Yeah. Weird. Ugh. I hate being an adult.
What could she have replied that wouldn’t have ticked you off, though?
Not op, but you can't be serious. You don't know how to tactfully reply to an invite?
Anonymous
12/14/2020 19:26
Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP!
So, I let this go for a few days until the total awkwardness on my part melted off. I also asked a couple of other friends who thought it was weird but who know her and have hung out with her, so...
I ended up sending a breezy (remember the Breezy friends episode?) text: "Ha, OK. Take good care and hope to see you around."
THEN she replied with four Emoji hearts. I'm basically...done. Yeah. Weird. Ugh. I hate being an adult.
What could she have replied that wouldn’t have ticked you off, though?
Anonymous
12/14/2020 18:01
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
You let her off way too easy OP.
Anonymous
12/14/2020 16:26
Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Good assessment Op, she’s an insincere weirdo. Glad you moved on, and eventually were able to laugh it off. Sounds healthy.
Anonymous
12/14/2020 16:17
Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
(And thanks for everyone's suggestions and support, which made me feel less pathetic.)