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Anonymous wrote:We have two kids together. He’s 38. Basically, the marriage isn’t working. He’s lied for the past five years, I don’t think I’ll move past it, but what keeps me from wanting to leave is the thought of him starting a new family at 40 with some late 20-something because now he has money.
It’s petty, but so were a his really stupid lies.

So you want to leave him because he has been dishonest. But before you leave him, you want him to get a vasectomy. Then you plan to kick him to the curb. That sounds pretty dishonest on your part.

Pot calling the kettle black.

Anonymous wrote:We have two kids together. He’s 38. Basically, the marriage isn’t working. He’s lied for the past five years, I don’t think I’ll move past it, but what keeps me from wanting to leave is the thought of him starting a new family at 40 with some late 20-something because now he has money.
It’s petty, but so were a his really stupid lies.

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Anonymous wrote:Wife is on the fence about having a 3rd child. Husband says he really would love 3rd and that sways her. But he was planning on divorcing the whole time & serves her papers at 6 months pregnant. That's totes cool, right?

I have trouble believing that a man would deliberately want to increase his child support payments like this..

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Anonymous wrote:OP has to think about her children. If you think it's in their best interest to encourage him to get a vasectomy, do it.

If OP were actually thinking about her kids, she would not have had more children than she can support all by herself.

Pay attention, Ladies. DCUM has been especially enlightening about male attitudes this week.

Any nudes you send him, he will share with his buddies.
Men marry for sex.
Be able to support any kids he fathers with you all on your own.

Keep ‘em coming, guys. This is going to spare a lot of women.

And this thread also shows how many females view men and quite frankly it's terrifying.

Pay attention men:

You are a walking wallet. Any woman you marry will make sure you pay her way for the rest of your working life. Of course cough cough it's for the children.

As a man you cannot have any say over her fertility or her body however she will feel like she can have a say over yours.

Forget honesty, you will be manipulated and lied to for her to achieve the result best suited for HER.

You actually don’t know how child support works, do you?

It stops at 18 in the vast majority of cases. 21 in a few states and DC. Unless your kids with that ex-wife are a decade or more apart in age, CS is going to be a short obligation on your part and a brief benefit for her and the kids.

It is also typically a low sum unless you are a multi-millionaire (and we know YOU and most of your audience aren’t) so hardly enough to fully support the exwife and kids.

And unless you stopped having at kids at age 50, paying even 18 years of child support won’t be for the rest of your working life. Let’s be honest that you were never going to be able to retire early anyway.

Funny, so many assumptions you make. I'm female and will be retiring before 68 years old. From money I made FYI.

As a female I am a little horrified at some of the thought processes on this thread. There are some really low females posting here. Really really low.

Some appalling women. Don't any of you have sons?

1 son, 1 daughter. And I’m OP. It’s not like I’m trying to take something from him, he doesn’t want more children. He has been given two children, I’ve been pretty generous IMO. I gave him so much. Why is it too much to ask that he give me this security?

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Anonymous wrote:Wife is on the fence about having a 3rd child. Husband says he really would love 3rd and that sways her. But he was planning on divorcing the whole time & serves her papers at 6 months pregnant. That's totes cool, right?

I have trouble believing that a man would deliberately want to increase his child support payments like this..

Anonymous wrote:Wife is on the fence about having a 3rd child. Husband says he really would love 3rd and that sways her. But he was planning on divorcing the whole time & serves her papers at 6 months pregnant. That's totes cool, right?

Anonymous wrote:I have a V. I'd love to trick a woman into thinking she is tricking me into getting herself pregnant by not taking her BC and having all the crazy sex she can with me to "accidentally" get pregnant, but it never happens. Or she does, but not by me but tries to tell me it's mine. Yeah, that's Fd up I know.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if your STBX marries another woman and has children with her, they would also have to put up with you and your children. It's a pain for them also. See the thread by the stepmom who bitched about having dinner with the first wife (mom to the stepkids). And if kids with second wife are also his kids, so what makes you think yours are more special? Just because they're 'original'?

This is all the more reason to get the vasectomy.

Anyone who views their older children as a pain that they have to deal with should not be having any additional children. Consider it a societal good to actively prevent that.

Anonymous wrote:OP, if your STBX marries another woman and has children with her, they would also have to put up with you and your children. It's a pain for them also. See the thread by the stepmom who bitched about having dinner with the first wife (mom to the stepkids). And if kids with second wife are also his kids, so what makes you think yours are more special? Just because they're 'original'?

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Anonymous wrote:For a lot of second wives, it’s an equalizer baby. I’m a second wife. So are many of my friends. They jump through hoops to try to have a couple of kids if the first wife has kids. One told me I was a fool to not squeeze in at least one kid with DH. What fool takes money out of their stepkids’ mouths to be on equal footing with his ex?

Someone who wants their own child?

They have their own kids with their first husband.

Women are very clear on how other women think, which is why op is (smartly) preparing herself by tricking the the stbx into getting fixed. Same way the second wife would try to trap the husband with an equalizer baby. Both women are deceptive, meanwhile the man is the one being played. Secure your bag, op

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Anonymous wrote:For a lot of second wives, it’s an equalizer baby. I’m a second wife. So are many of my friends. They jump through hoops to try to have a couple of kids if the first wife has kids. One told me I was a fool to not squeeze in at least one kid with DH. What fool takes money out of their stepkids’ mouths to be on equal footing with his ex?

Someone who wants their own child?

They have their own kids with their first husband.