Anonymous wrote:Yeah. No strings sex means just sex. Women have a need to have to have it mean something, feel more than just a f@ck that’s why it doesn’t work. Married women on those sites are looking for an exit no matter what they say at the start.

Yes. I’m busy. I work a lot of hours and have a wife, kids and family obligations. Im not looking for anything else.

Yeah. No strings sex means just sex. Women have a need to have to have it mean something, feel more than just a f@ck that’s why it doesn’t work. Married women on those sites are looking for an exit no matter what they say at the start.

Anonymous wrote:^^ Trapped and duped because she asks him if he wants to grab coffee? What kind of man cant handle going out for coffee with someone he otherwise has no problem spending time with?? Ladies, don’t waste a second with a guy like this. Know your worth and don’t crawl around with an emotionally stunted man-baby.

One who doesn’t want to be seen in public because they are both married. He only wants sex, not a relationship with her. 30 min wham bam No strings was the agreement. Now she’s taking risks and wanting to come visit out of the bedroom in public. No dice. She’s the one that changed the arrangement/situation.

^^ Trapped and duped because she asks him if he wants to grab coffee? What kind of man cant handle going out for coffee with someone he otherwise has no problem spending time with?? Ladies, don’t waste a second with a guy like this. Know your worth and don’t crawl around with an emotionally stunted man-baby.

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Anonymous wrote:I found one at work and one at a conference. It's more of a numbers game if you are a man. Be charming and flirty and one in a couple dozen will reciprocate.

Full warning, most women who affair are ready to leave their marriage

Yep and it’s a line you will have to navigate. Aloof enough that they think they have a chance to be w/ you one day. You need to keep saying things like “when the kids are older” , and kick the cam down the road. Eventually you have to cut them loose because they take bigger chances and become a liability. But if you do it right you might be able to keep the sex going for several years without the hassle of trying to find a brand new side piece.

That is the worst advice ever. At least if you're going to cheat tell the AP up front, they are only for sex. If you lead them on they will often tell the wife, or worse show up at your home.
Be a little smart!

From experience, this is ALWAYS what is said at the start of these stupid frickin AM affairs---'just an escape, not looking to leave or blow up my marriage, just for fun!!!' Problem is like that other guy pointed out, for women that cheat no matter what comes out of their mouth when meeting for coffee---that is never the case. They say that until they think it might lead somewhere which is the whole point of being on there in the first place: exit affair. I can't tell you how many people I know that were clear about it being no-strings---and then someone got attached and it was boil bunny time.

women have learned not to say how they really feel. They will swear until the end to remain silent, lol. Until they are pissed or realized they were indeed nothing but toilet paper.

Well, because if they don't, he leaves. They prefer to lie to themselves and him....but start to test the waters by demanding more time, try to meet outside the bedroom for a change, coffee date? That's when he feels trapped, duped and runs for the hills. It's somebody trying to change the ground rules from NSA late in the game.

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Anonymous wrote:I found one at work and one at a conference. It's more of a numbers game if you are a man. Be charming and flirty and one in a couple dozen will reciprocate.

Full warning, most women who affair are ready to leave their marriage

Yep and it’s a line you will have to navigate. Aloof enough that they think they have a chance to be w/ you one day. You need to keep saying things like “when the kids are older” , and kick the cam down the road. Eventually you have to cut them loose because they take bigger chances and become a liability. But if you do it right you might be able to keep the sex going for several years without the hassle of trying to find a brand new side piece.

That is the worst advice ever. At least if you're going to cheat tell the AP up front, they are only for sex. If you lead them on they will often tell the wife, or worse show up at your home.
Be a little smart!

From experience, this is ALWAYS what is said at the start of these stupid frickin AM affairs---'just an escape, not looking to leave or blow up my marriage, just for fun!!!' Problem is like that other guy pointed out, for women that cheat no matter what comes out of their mouth when meeting for coffee---that is never the case. They say that until they think it might lead somewhere which is the whole point of being on there in the first place: exit affair. I can't tell you how many people I know that were clear about it being no-strings---and then someone got attached and it was boil bunny time.

What’s your relationship with this wide swath of cheating men, where you get all this dirt?

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Anonymous wrote:I found one at work and one at a conference. It's more of a numbers game if you are a man. Be charming and flirty and one in a couple dozen will reciprocate.

Full warning, most women who affair are ready to leave their marriage

Yep and it’s a line you will have to navigate. Aloof enough that they think they have a chance to be w/ you one day. You need to keep saying things like “when the kids are older” , and kick the cam down the road. Eventually you have to cut them loose because they take bigger chances and become a liability. But if you do it right you might be able to keep the sex going for several years without the hassle of trying to find a brand new side piece.

That is the worst advice ever. At least if you're going to cheat tell the AP up front, they are only for sex. If you lead them on they will often tell the wife, or worse show up at your home.
Be a little smart!

From experience, this is ALWAYS what is said at the start of these stupid frickin AM affairs---'just an escape, not looking to leave or blow up my marriage, just for fun!!!' Problem is like that other guy pointed out, for women that cheat no matter what comes out of their mouth when meeting for coffee---that is never the case. They say that until they think it might lead somewhere which is the whole point of being on there in the first place: exit affair. I can't tell you how many people I know that were clear about it being no-strings---and then someone got attached and it was boil bunny time.

women have learned not to say how they really feel. They will swear until the end to remain silent, lol. Until they are pissed or realized they were indeed nothing but toilet paper.

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Anonymous wrote:I found one at work and one at a conference. It's more of a numbers game if you are a man. Be charming and flirty and one in a couple dozen will reciprocate.

Full warning, most women who affair are ready to leave their marriage

Yep and it’s a line you will have to navigate. Aloof enough that they think they have a chance to be w/ you one day. You need to keep saying things like “when the kids are older” , and kick the cam down the road. Eventually you have to cut them loose because they take bigger chances and become a liability. But if you do it right you might be able to keep the sex going for several years without the hassle of trying to find a brand new side piece.

That is the worst advice ever. At least if you're going to cheat tell the AP up front, they are only for sex. If you lead them on they will often tell the wife, or worse show up at your home.
Be a little smart!

Nope. When they are married too and especially if they are married and don't work/have income, they will not blow or tell because that would implode their own marriage. They don't intend to implode their marriage until they have secured a parachute for their exit.

Here's the thing with these married people affairs---you cannot predict what anyone else will do, certainly not if one of the spouses finds out--not matter what stupid little pack your two numnuts made---that goes out the door once someone is caught. They will throw you under the bus before you even knew what hit you.

I've seen/heard some ugly situations.

Yes once one of the spouses find out they often tell the other cheated on spouse. Cheaters are the worst.

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Anonymous wrote:I found one at work and one at a conference. It's more of a numbers game if you are a man. Be charming and flirty and one in a couple dozen will reciprocate.

Full warning, most women who affair are ready to leave their marriage

Yep and it’s a line you will have to navigate. Aloof enough that they think they have a chance to be w/ you one day. You need to keep saying things like “when the kids are older” , and kick the cam down the road. Eventually you have to cut them loose because they take bigger chances and become a liability. But if you do it right you might be able to keep the sex going for several years without the hassle of trying to find a brand new side piece.

That is the worst advice ever. At least if you're going to cheat tell the AP up front, they are only for sex. If you lead them on they will often tell the wife, or worse show up at your home.
Be a little smart!

From experience, this is ALWAYS what is said at the start of these stupid frickin AM affairs---'just an escape, not looking to leave or blow up my marriage, just for fun!!!' Problem is like that other guy pointed out, for women that cheat no matter what comes out of their mouth when meeting for coffee---that is never the case. They say that until they think it might lead somewhere which is the whole point of being on there in the first place: exit affair. I can't tell you how many people I know that were clear about it being no-strings---and then someone got attached and it was boil bunny time.

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Anonymous wrote:I found one at work and one at a conference. It's more of a numbers game if you are a man. Be charming and flirty and one in a couple dozen will reciprocate.

Full warning, most women who affair are ready to leave their marriage

Yep and it’s a line you will have to navigate. Aloof enough that they think they have a chance to be w/ you one day. You need to keep saying things like “when the kids are older” , and kick the cam down the road. Eventually you have to cut them loose because they take bigger chances and become a liability. But if you do it right you might be able to keep the sex going for several years without the hassle of trying to find a brand new side piece.

That is the worst advice ever. At least if you're going to cheat tell the AP up front, they are only for sex. If you lead them on they will often tell the wife, or worse show up at your home.
Be a little smart!

Nope. When they are married too and especially if they are married and don't work/have income, they will not blow or tell because that would implode their own marriage. They don't intend to implode their marriage until they have secured a parachute for their exit.

Here's the thing with these married people affairs---you cannot predict what anyone else will do, certainly not if one of the spouses finds out--not matter what stupid little pack your two numnuts made---that goes out the door once someone is caught. They will throw you under the bus before you even knew what hit you.

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Anonymous wrote:I found one at work and one at a conference. It's more of a numbers game if you are a man. Be charming and flirty and one in a couple dozen will reciprocate.

Full warning, most women who affair are ready to leave their marriage

Yep and it’s a line you will have to navigate. Aloof enough that they think they have a chance to be w/ you one day. You need to keep saying things like “when the kids are older” , and kick the cam down the road. Eventually you have to cut them loose because they take bigger chances and become a liability. But if you do it right you might be able to keep the sex going for several years without the hassle of trying to find a brand new side piece.

That is the worst advice ever. At least if you're going to cheat tell the AP up front, they are only for sex. If you lead them on they will often tell the wife, or worse show up at your home.
Be a little smart!

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Anonymous wrote:I found one at work and one at a conference. It's more of a numbers game if you are a man. Be charming and flirty and one in a couple dozen will reciprocate.

Full warning, most women who affair are ready to leave their marriage

Yep and it’s a line you will have to navigate. Aloof enough that they think they have a chance to be w/ you one day. You need to keep saying things like “when the kids are older” , and kick the cam down the road. Eventually you have to cut them loose because they take bigger chances and become a liability. But if you do it right you might be able to keep the sex going for several years without the hassle of trying to find a brand new side piece.

PP you are responding to, I agree about them taking more risks as thing go along. For me, I never said I was leaving my marriage, and in fact I didn't like talking about my wife at all. Wife and I are fine although I miss the sexual part of my marriage. I was very honest with AP that I still had sex with my wife about 1x a month.

My ex-AP got upset a few years in when somehow I let on my wife and I had sex a couple times a week still. She had ceased having sex with her husband and talked negatively about him. Like you, I preferred never to speak of my wife and when I did I never spoke bad or said anything negative. That’s when things definitely started turning in the affair because she realized I was never leaving my wife. I never told her that I ever had any plans to do that, but by hanging around she read way more into the length of time of the affair and I guess she thought she could prove irresistible. I never once envisioned a life with her.

This totally sounds like the "vindicated" wife posting as her husband to convince us and herself that her husband never had feelings for his AP.

This totally sounds like the AP who actually believed a married man had feelings her and wasn't just using her for sex and fun.

I laughed too. Statistics back you up as well!

My friend suspected her DH was having an affair. He was already slowly telling the AP it was over because she was doing hang up calls. And other things to try and break up the marriage.

My friend got all the info on her, and left her a message at work which freaked her out because anyone could have gotten it. Her next step was going to contact other people as well, the AP never bothered them again. She's long done with her husband, but he doesn't know it. Thinks she forgave him, and they have a good marriage but he's only a cash cow at this point. I guess not all cheaters get the last laugh.

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Anonymous wrote:I found one at work and one at a conference. It's more of a numbers game if you are a man. Be charming and flirty and one in a couple dozen will reciprocate.

Full warning, most women who affair are ready to leave their marriage

Yep and it’s a line you will have to navigate. Aloof enough that they think they have a chance to be w/ you one day. You need to keep saying things like “when the kids are older” , and kick the cam down the road. Eventually you have to cut them loose because they take bigger chances and become a liability. But if you do it right you might be able to keep the sex going for several years without the hassle of trying to find a brand new side piece.

PP you are responding to, I agree about them taking more risks as thing go along. For me, I never said I was leaving my marriage, and in fact I didn't like talking about my wife at all. Wife and I are fine although I miss the sexual part of my marriage. I was very honest with AP that I still had sex with my wife about 1x a month.

My ex-AP got upset a few years in when somehow I let on my wife and I had sex a couple times a week still. She had ceased having sex with her husband and talked negatively about him. Like you, I preferred never to speak of my wife and when I did I never spoke bad or said anything negative. That’s when things definitely started turning in the affair because she realized I was never leaving my wife. I never told her that I ever had any plans to do that, but by hanging around she read way more into the length of time of the affair and I guess she thought she could prove irresistible. I never once envisioned a life with her.

This totally sounds like the "vindicated" wife posting as her husband to convince us and herself that her husband never had feelings for his AP.

This totally sounds like the AP who actually believed a married man had feelings her and wasn't just using her for sex and fun.

No, but I'm proud of you for finally trying a different tack.

I’m proud of her too.

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Anonymous wrote:I found one at work and one at a conference. It's more of a numbers game if you are a man. Be charming and flirty and one in a couple dozen will reciprocate.

Full warning, most women who affair are ready to leave their marriage

Yep and it’s a line you will have to navigate. Aloof enough that they think they have a chance to be w/ you one day. You need to keep saying things like “when the kids are older” , and kick the cam down the road. Eventually you have to cut them loose because they take bigger chances and become a liability. But if you do it right you might be able to keep the sex going for several years without the hassle of trying to find a brand new side piece.

PP you are responding to, I agree about them taking more risks as thing go along. For me, I never said I was leaving my marriage, and in fact I didn't like talking about my wife at all. Wife and I are fine although I miss the sexual part of my marriage. I was very honest with AP that I still had sex with my wife about 1x a month.

My ex-AP got upset a few years in when somehow I let on my wife and I had sex a couple times a week still. She had ceased having sex with her husband and talked negatively about him. Like you, I preferred never to speak of my wife and when I did I never spoke bad or said anything negative. That’s when things definitely started turning in the affair because she realized I was never leaving my wife. I never told her that I ever had any plans to do that, but by hanging around she read way more into the length of time of the affair and I guess she thought she could prove irresistible. I never once envisioned a life with her.

This totally sounds like the "vindicated" wife posting as her husband to convince us and herself that her husband never had feelings for his AP.

This totally sounds like the AP who actually believed a married man had feelings her and wasn't just using her for sex and fun.

No, but I'm proud of you for finally trying a different tack.

Anonymous wrote:Try seeking arrangement. Yes, it's a sugardaddy/sugarbaby site, but the men there are decent. Your best option is to find a married man in a similar situation so you both have a big reason to be discreet. There doesn't need to be an exchagne of money -- just the men on there are usually not freaks.

She's too old