60s with a kid in middle school. Why even bother thinking about what if? You can't turn back to the clock. Only the future is ahead.

48 with a first grader. Still trying for a second NW DC

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Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.

You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).

Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.

Clearly age has not granted you any wisdom or maturity. Or decency. Or kindness. Please go back to bothering your children and grandchildren in your free time.

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Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.

You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).

Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.

I don’t even you, I wouldn’t have given up my 20s and 30s traveling for anything. Now, I’m enjoying raising my kids. I’m glad you were happy with your way, and I’m happy with mine. You realize there are different (and equally good ways) of doing things. It’s not binary.

Exactly, I am on the path I have chosen. I am not envious of others who have chosen another path. What is the point of that? I am happy, I don't need to prove that to anyone.

Anonymous wrote:Why do these threads always end up with a woman who had kids early fighting with a woman who had kids later in life? If you are happy with your decision good for you. But why tear down other women for living different lives than you? You mean old hags.

Yep, happy people don't tear down other people or feel the need to win, bitter people do that. Women should do what works for them, its not one size fits all in life.

I had kids at 34 but my mom started having symptoms of Alzheimer's at age 67 and was diagnosed a few years later when my kids were 6.

Why do these threads always end up with a woman who had kids early fighting with a woman who had kids later in life? If you are happy with your decision good for you. But why tear down other women for living different lives than you? You mean old hags.

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Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.

You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).

Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.

Dear God, when I am as old as the poster above, please grant me the wisdom and serenity to not be bragging about how good my choices were when I was young. Give me the emotional intelligence to be above the petty infighting of young moms. And give me the perspective and open mindedness to understand that different people make different choices, and I am in no position to judge.

Oh and PLEASE, dear God, give me better things to do with my time when I am old and worn than to be snarky and mean to young people on message boards.

I don’t think this thread has very many on it who are “young” given its title. Sorry ladies but the truth is being a rich 50 something grandma is better than a 50 something mom to an elementary school kid. I win every time!

To me you sound crazy-maybe time to get screened for early dementia! Obviously not everyone have the same paths in life and didn’t have the opportunity to have kids in their 20s. Why do you think you “win”. So odd.

Personally I wouldn’t want to be a 50 something mom to elementary aged kids but neither do I want to be a grandma in my 50s either.

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Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.

You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).

Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.

Dear God, when I am as old as the poster above, please grant me the wisdom and serenity to not be bragging about how good my choices were when I was young. Give me the emotional intelligence to be above the petty infighting of young moms. And give me the perspective and open mindedness to understand that different people make different choices, and I am in no position to judge.

Oh and PLEASE, dear God, give me better things to do with my time when I am old and worn than to be snarky and mean to young people on message boards.

I don’t think this thread has very many on it who are “young” given its title. Sorry ladies but the truth is being a rich 50 something grandma is better than a 50 something mom to an elementary school kid. I win every time!

To me you sound crazy-maybe time to get screened for early dementia! Obviously not everyone have the same paths in life and didn’t have the opportunity to have kids in their 20s. Why do you think you “win”. So odd.

42 with a 3 year old and 6 year old. So I'll be 50 with a 6th grader, I think. At 50, my sister has two who just graduated from college. Super jealous.

Things I did instead of having kids in my 20s or 30s:

Fulbright fellowship
Worked many interesting jobs in Europe including teaching at a university and an international organization in Geneva
Learned to speak a foreign language truly fluently
Earned a masters and PhD
Published a book that won two national awards
Dated widely and figured out what I need from a partner for a successful relationship ( no divorce in my kids’ future)

If I had to do it all over again the only thing I would change is to move through graduate school a bit faster than I did.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.

You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).

Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.

Dear God, when I am as old as the poster above, please grant me the wisdom and serenity to not be bragging about how good my choices were when I was young. Give me the emotional intelligence to be above the petty infighting of young moms. And give me the perspective and open mindedness to understand that different people make different choices, and I am in no position to judge.

Oh and PLEASE, dear God, give me better things to do with my time when I am old and worn than to be snarky and mean to young people on message boards.

I don’t think this thread has very many on it who are “young” given its title. Sorry ladies but the truth is being a rich 50 something grandma is better than a 50 something mom to an elementary school kid. I win every time!

You are an empty nester arguing on the internet? Maybe use your free time to go travel?

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Anonymous wrote:We had all four of our kids before they turned 30, still managed to fit in grad school, made good money, gave them a great upbringing -- and were empty nesters before turning 50. We retired a couple years later and are now hands on grandparents of elementary school kids in our late 50s -- hands on when we're not traveling, that is.

I can't imagine having little kids in yours 50s. It's not natural.

You are old and part of a different era (thank goodness).

Ha ha if you only knew. Jealous much? We all know that, all things being equal, this is definitely the better way to go for all concerned. Everyone we know who did it differently now envies us. Looking back, we know we were lucky – but also smart.

I don’t even you, I wouldn’t have given up my 20s and 30s traveling for anything. Now, I’m enjoying raising my kids. I’m glad you were happy with your way, and I’m happy with mine. You realize there are different (and equally good ways) of doing things. It’s not binary.

47 with a 4th grader.

You sound pretty immature for a "grandma."