I would judge someone who judges someone else's diamond before I'd judge the diamond wearer, no matter how small or no matter how big

Anonymous wrote:Sure, but not quite in the same way. I dont wonder about her husband’s cheapness, but I don’t like the look of a tiny chip of a gemstone solitaire. So I guess that means I’m judging their taste. But I know plenty of people judge my taste and wouldn’t consider wearing my “dated” yellow gold rings.

Somebody can do a spin off thread — what does your engagement ring say about you?

Weird! I’ve seen some really sweet and perfect “tiny chip” e-rings from Cartier and think they’re just lovely and work better with a small stone than the average carat size these days.

Sometimes I feel like mine is so ho-hum, humdrum….high end and extremely classic, but I love fashion and have a big personality, and my e-ring shows none of that. I have friends who went with the classic diamond center stone but unique shapes and settings and I admire that they were involved in the design, made a statement and were confident about displaying their unique taste, even if I don’t always agree with it.

I LOVE jewelry and I always notice a gorgeous old cut with great clarity. Size is nothing.

Anonymous wrote:Not at all. Also, my wealthiest friends all have smaller rings. Most are vintage or family rings but not all. I’m talking friends with very high net worths or big trust funds.

How do you define high net worth?

I draw conclusions but I don’t judge one way or the other. That’s shallow. So I suppose I do judge the people who judge.

As for me, I work a lot with my hands and a large stone or setting would be impractical to the point of stupidity. If you know me, you would know that.

Anonymous wrote:Most of these large rings do not have quality diamonds.

I don't think people understand how much of a difference this makes. I have the best quality diamond you can buy. It doesn't look all that big or ostentatious but it was $25,000 20 years ago. When it's clean it has a crazy sparkle.

These days the game has changed with lab diamonds, but that wasn't an option during our engagement rink shopping.

Just saying the price tag isn't always discernable by size.

Not at all. Also, my wealthiest friends all have smaller rings. Most are vintage or family rings but not all. I’m talking friends with very high net worths or big trust funds.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I’m way too preoccupied looking at which men are wearing their rings. I barely notice women in general.

What do you assume when men aren’t wearing their wedding rings? Just curious because my husband lost his a couple months after we got married and never replaced it. It has been sixteen years. He has toyed with the idea of getting a ring tattoo but he doesn’t like rings.

My husband hasn't worn his for years either and honestly it took me a long time to even notice. So I'm definitely not noticing that on other men.

Neither my husband nor I wear our wedding bands. No engagement ring.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I’m way too preoccupied looking at which men are wearing their rings. I barely notice women in general.

What do you assume when men aren’t wearing their wedding rings? Just curious because my husband lost his a couple months after we got married and never replaced it. It has been sixteen years. He has toyed with the idea of getting a ring tattoo but he doesn’t like rings.

My husband hasn't worn his for years either and honestly it took me a long time to even notice. So I'm definitely not noticing that on other men.

Anonymous wrote:If I see a woman step out of her BMW SUV and she's wearing a tiny diamond, I automatically like her because I figure that she's sentimentally attached to that stone, and also that they made their money themselves and have been together a long time. So she's probably a nice person who has good priorities and knows the value of money.

(I have a small stone but that's because we're still not rich! Love my ring, though.)

My MIL is the wealthiest person I know and has the smallest ring of anyone I know - The one her husband could afford at age 24 coming out of the military. If I were here I would have upgraded a long time ago (but kept the first ring). Though I agree it does speak a lot to her values.

Anonymous wrote:No. I’m way too preoccupied looking at which men are wearing their rings. I barely notice women in general.

What do you assume when men aren’t wearing their wedding rings? Just curious because my husband lost his a couple months after we got married and never replaced it. It has been sixteen years. He has toyed with the idea of getting a ring tattoo but he doesn’t like rings.

Not really just the size, more the style/setting/cut. My dh did great with my ring so I'm pleased w/it.

Anonymous wrote:No. Size of diamond has more to do with how old the groom was at engagement. The big diamonds are usually from the geriatrics.

Couples in their 20s usually buy no bigger than 1 carat.

No. I’m way too preoccupied looking at which men are wearing their rings. I barely notice women in general.

My ring has a big lab grown diamond. Everyone thinks it’s gorgeous. But no, I don’t judge others because I’m not a materialistic person who thinks my worth is reflected in a ring.