Why do you care and feel the need to go if you aren't that close to the couple? If you were close to the couple, I don't think you'd have an issue with not bringing your children. I left DS at home when my sister got married in Mexico in a small destination wedding where I was the maid of honor with a no kids request. My MIL watched DS for the weekend. I didn't even think twice.

I get these requests from time to time from old college friends, and it just isn't worth it to arrange everything to be there. I am a huge reply no to out of town weddings and just send a simple gift - much cheaper than flights/hotels/etc. And you still show you care by sending a little something.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm really confused here - you people can afford to fly your kids out by plane but can't budget for 1-2 nights with a babysitter?

Just leave the kids at home and treat it is a date night weekend...unless you don't have those, in which case don't go.

I could afford it; I'm just not about to spend my limited money and vacation/weekend time on the wedding of someone who doesn't actually consider my family to be family.

See it like that if you want. That's your choice. Some people choose to be insulted and wounded and offended. I guess you're that type.

+1

You people who like to take everything personally crack me up, and I'm glad I'm not one of you. What an exhausting way to live.

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These people can't make it through a commute home without bearing the weight of a hundred perceived slights against them, their family, and their dignity.

This cracked me up! Thanks for the laugh.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, not even a gift, unless it’s a nicely framed 8x10 of your beautiful children!

What is the matter with you?

NP. That's what they call a joke.

I'd like to think so but given a few of these responses I'm not so sure.

I don't think anyone would send a picture as the people with "no kids wedding" would most likely be offended. If they can't figure out how to include families they will not be able to deal with the joke.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, not even a gift, unless it’s a nicely framed 8x10 of your beautiful children!

What is the matter with you?

NP. That's what they call a joke.

I'd like to think so but given a few of these responses I'm not so sure.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm really confused here - you people can afford to fly your kids out by plane but can't budget for 1-2 nights with a babysitter?

Just leave the kids at home and treat it is a date night weekend...unless you don't have those, in which case don't go.

I could afford it; I'm just not about to spend my limited money and vacation/weekend time on the wedding of someone who doesn't actually consider my family to be family.

See it like that if you want. That's your choice. Some people choose to be insulted and wounded and offended. I guess you're that type.

+1

You people who like to take everything personally crack me up, and I'm glad I'm not one of you. What an exhausting way to live.

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These people can't make it through a commute home without bearing the weight of a hundred perceived slights against them, their family, and their dignity.

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Anonymous wrote:My cousin had a no kids wedding when my DS was 5 months old. We wouldn't leave him, and we stayed home. NBD, and 17 years later cousin and I are still friends...

I brought a breastfeeding infant along to a wedding that had a "no kids" invite. We didn't have any repercussions. If the baby had caused a fuss, I would have taken her right out. Of course, there were children there anyway, the flower girls.

Why do you feel you were specially entitled to disobey the couple’s wishes? Obviously flower girls are a different story than your random baby. I’m sure you got the side eye from people; you’re incredibly, incredibly rude.

+1. Just because no one publicly called you out or asked up to leave doesn't mean that your disrespect behavior wasn't noted. You should have either declined or pumped some bottles and left your baby with a caregiver.

I actually disagree with this. I don't consider a breastfeeding infant (if it is a true infant, not a 2 yo extended breastfeeder) to be included in the "no children prohibition." They don't take up a seat, and the bride and groom aren't required to pay for their attendance. They are likely less disruptive at the reception, and possibly at the ceremony (and easy to remove, provided the mother has a modicum of good sense and sits in the back). And they are functionally inseparable from a mother in a way all of these "I would *never* leave my kids with a babysitter in a hotel!" ninnies pretend to be.

I'd definitely have checked with someone before bringing the infant, PP (in not doing so, you were rude), but from my perspective, if I was throwing a child-free wedding I wouldn't have any issue with a breastfeeding infant. But, reasonable minds can differ.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, not even a gift, unless it’s a nicely framed 8x10 of your beautiful children!

What is the matter with you?

Seriously. Sometimes I wish this forum wasn't anonymous so I would know who to avoid. You are insufferable.

NP. It's easy to avoid people like you: no sense of humor is very noticeable.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, not even a gift, unless it’s a nicely framed 8x10 of your beautiful children!

What is the matter with you?

NP. That's what they call a joke.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, not even a gift, unless it’s a nicely framed 8x10 of your beautiful children!

What is the matter with you?

Seriously. Sometimes I wish this forum wasn't anonymous so I would know who to avoid. You are insufferable.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm really confused here - you people can afford to fly your kids out by plane but can't budget for 1-2 nights with a babysitter?

Just leave the kids at home and treat it is a date night weekend...unless you don't have those, in which case don't go.

I could afford it; I'm just not about to spend my limited money and vacation/weekend time on the wedding of someone who doesn't actually consider my family to be family.

See it like that if you want. That's your choice. Some people choose to be insulted and wounded and offended. I guess you're that type.

+1

You people who like to take everything personally crack me up, and I'm glad I'm not one of you. What an exhausting way to live.

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing wrong with having a no kids wedding.

But you would have to be a very close friend or a sibling in order for me to attend.

Okay, great!

There is nothing wrong with having a no kids wedding.

But you would have to be a very close friend or a sibling in order for me to attend.

Anonymous wrote:Your cousin and her bf sound like dipshits. There is nothing wrong with not being able to afford a nice wedding, but trying to have a nice wedding at the expense of children not attending is pathetic. HELL NO

Who said this was about cost? Children aren't welcome everywhere, and that's okay.

Anonymous wrote:Nope, not even a gift, unless it’s a nicely framed 8x10 of your beautiful children!

What is the matter with you?

Nope, not even a gift, unless it’s a nicely framed 8x10 of your beautiful children!