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Anonymous wrote:She can find someone else but will have to relax her standards. An older guy with money who doesn't want any more kids would be perfect for someone who doesn't want to work.

An older guy who has kids and has raised them is not likely to want to spend time financing a wife with little kids.

If the sex is good there are many older men who will.

Yeah, I am observing a similar situation. Will my very wealthy BIL marry his girlfriend who is half his age with 3 kids under the age of ten? By the time BIL is in his 60ties, the kids will be in their teens. BIL has never been married and the main reason is because he never wanted kids. His GF is very pretty but most men her age in their twenties shy away from a mom with three small kids.

Ya think the sex good enough for him to deal with three teenagers who are not his when BIL is in his sixties?

I have a friend who was Mr. Single Guy until he met a single mom with five kids when he was 40. He married her, became Mr. Family Man, and raised the kids as his own. The children are all adults now and some of them have started their own families. Everyone in the family seems to have turned out well.

Tamara's son on RHOC just married a lady with 3 kids, and then he had a baby with her. He cant be older than his early 30s, if that. He barely knew her, and he had no kids of his own. I think they met online. They both appear to be on the special end of the spectrum in terms of mental facilities, so take this data point with a grain of salt.

But there are men who will take in a load of kids that aren't theirs, and love them/raise them as their own. Some men love the family aspect of it, especially if they didn't have that growing up.

Anonymous wrote:They're not even divorced yet and he has a girlfriend? Any self-respecting woman would never go for that. Tell her to take her time and focus on taking care of her children. They both sound selfish. She needs to give up her dream of being a SAHM for a while.

He's been putting up with her immature bs for god knows how long. I say more power to him--get out there and have fun.

Most women I know who divorced with young children remarried. Not just my social circle, but the moms of my students. W school.

And most of these women married "up" financially and appearance from their exes. I definitely did.

It wasn't hard. Don't waste time dating on Match, OkCupid, or POF. Get out and meet men IRL. Tell friends and families that you want to remarry, not just have fun or be a unmarried couple for years. Pick one or two non-negotiable a and don't deviate from that list for first dates. Weeded out many guys with no potential of being a good husband. Don't play games. Fish or cut bait. I dropped several potentials because they wanted to have biokids and I'm done childbearing.

Most of the women I know who haven't remarried had teens or college age kids at the time of divorce, never had kids in the first place, or came out as late in life lesbians.

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Anonymous wrote:All of you goons have been hoodwinked by a TROLL.

OP is a bitter man trying to warn women not to divorce shlubby first husbands because he might find someone better, gasp, shock, awe!!

If some young, attractive woman with a good education who has her whole life ahead of her is foolish enough to pick up my fat, lazy, stupid ex, I will befriend them to get a closet look at that trainwreck.

You sound just like my fat, stupid, lazy ex. She was always calling me (projecting) what she actually is.

Maybe she was just being honest.

You should appreciate her honesty even more then. Although, we have to admit, her pronouncements about you were incomplete. I would add "bitter" to her description of you.

Yep. Bit him too.

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Anonymous wrote:All of you goons have been hoodwinked by a TROLL.

OP is a bitter man trying to warn women not to divorce shlubby first husbands because he might find someone better, gasp, shock, awe!!

If some young, attractive woman with a good education who has her whole life ahead of her is foolish enough to pick up my fat, lazy, stupid ex, I will befriend them to get a closet look at that trainwreck.

You sound just like my fat, stupid, lazy ex. She was always calling me (projecting) what she actually is.

Maybe she was just being honest.

You should appreciate her honesty even more then. Although, we have to admit, her pronouncements about you were incomplete. I would add "bitter" to her description of you.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44, married with two young children. If my DH were to die or split, I would have zero interest in getting married again. I have a nice house, financially secure, two children to raise for many years ahead. I would have no desire to risk my finances, complicate my life or introduce a new person into my children's lives. I will of course enjoy male company occasionally on an outpatient basis, but count me out for another marriage, been there, done that.

The fact that no man would want to marry you (and thus risk his finances and complicate his life) has noooooothing to do with your attitude, I'm sure.

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I have a friend who was Mr. Single Guy until he met a single mom with five kids when he was 40. He married her, became Mr. Family Man, and raised the kids as his own. The children are all adults now and some of them have started their own families. Everyone in the family seems to have turned out well.

What a loser

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No problem. She thinks the court will FORCE her husband to support her SAHM dreams in the manner she prefers in the form of alimony and child support. Sad part is, it just might work out that way. Family courts are so stacked against men in divorce, even when it's the woman that wants to divorce. That should be considered in any settlement.

Yep! Men have everything to lose and nothing to gain from marriage. But all the morons who infest this forum and DC would like for you to believe they have nothing to gain from marriage if they can't sit on their asses and do absolutely nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:All of you goons have been hoodwinked by a TROLL.

OP is a bitter man trying to warn women not to divorce shlubby first husbands because he might find someone better, gasp, shock, awe!!

If some young, attractive woman with a good education who has her whole life ahead of her is foolish enough to pick up my fat, lazy, stupid ex, I will befriend them to get a closet look at that trainwreck.

You sound just like my fat, stupid, lazy ex. She was always calling me (projecting) what she actually is.

Maybe she was just being honest.

That would have been a first for her.

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Anonymous wrote:All of you goons have been hoodwinked by a TROLL.

OP is a bitter man trying to warn women not to divorce shlubby first husbands because he might find someone better, gasp, shock, awe!!

If some young, attractive woman with a good education who has her whole life ahead of her is foolish enough to pick up my fat, lazy, stupid ex, I will befriend them to get a closet look at that trainwreck.

You sound just like my fat, stupid, lazy ex. She was always calling me (projecting) what she actually is.

Maybe she was just being honest.

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Except the mom who is assaulted or killed for running in Langely Park at night will be criticized here for making a poor choice.

I used to go running at night in Langley Park three times a week. Has something happened there? I haven't been over there for a year but it was fine when I left.

You have to read between those not-so-subtle feminist lines ... men are violent, predatory animals and women are never safe from their lascivious ways.

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Anonymous wrote:She can find someone else but will have to relax her standards. An older guy with money who doesn't want any more kids would be perfect for someone who doesn't want to work.

An older guy who has kids and has raised them is not likely to want to spend time financing a wife with little kids.

If the sex is good there are many older men who will.

Yeah, I am observing a similar situation. Will my very wealthy BIL marry his girlfriend who is half his age with 3 kids under the age of ten? By the time BIL is in his 60ties, the kids will be in their teens. BIL has never been married and the main reason is because he never wanted kids. His GF is very pretty but most men her age in their twenties shy away from a mom with three small kids.

Ya think the sex good enough for him to deal with three teenagers who are not his when BIL is in his sixties?

I have a friend who was Mr. Single Guy until he met a single mom with five kids when he was 40. He married her, became Mr. Family Man, and raised the kids as his own. The children are all adults now and some of them have started their own families. Everyone in the family seems to have turned out well.

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Except the mom who is assaulted or killed for running in Langely Park at night will be criticized here for making a poor choice.

I used to go running at night in Langley Park three times a week. Has something happened there? I haven't been over there for a year but it was fine when I left.