Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Step MIL lives alone in a mansion and lets her son (not my DH) and his family spread out across 3 rooms (husband and wife in one, baby and toddler each in their own) all with nice beds, even though their kids are in pack and plays that she borrowed next to each bed. Meanwhile my family of three is in a hallway, with my DH and I on a leaking air mattress and our 6 year old in sleeping bag on the bare floor next to it.

Oh, and the floors were just refinished so we had to open all the windows so we don't die of asphyxiation, even though we still might since our heads are just 12 inches from the floor, scratch that, 11 inches, 10, 9... Time to pump up the mattress again. It's going to be a long night.

Why not stay in a hotel?
Why doesn't your BIL share the rooms more fairly?

We cut our three night visit back to one night because of the circumstances. We would have skipped out entirely but hotels were almost an hour away and we didn't know it would be like this until we arrived late in the day. BIL was staying there with family the week before and it probably never occurred to him to change anything. I think SIL was confused and may have started to offer to double up their kids, but MIL interrupted her and said that's how it's going to be.

BIL has always gotten the world handed to him on a silver platter and doesn't think of other people. I'd heard from other relatives that MIL enabled him (her birth son) and gave my DH (her step son) jack, especially after their father passed away. Just never witnessed it to this extreme. So glad to be out of there.

Good for you for leaving!

^^PP, why don't you say something? They are obviously taking advantage of you and you are letting them do it.

I'm staying with my sister who has 3 kids under 5, and she and her husband keep disappearing, leaving us with all the kids. I don't mind every so often, but I came up here to visit her, and it would be nice to actually see her at some point. She doesn't come downstairs until after 10am (her baby sleeps in, but the older 2 are up by 7) then disappears for a 2 hour nap with her husband in the middle of the day without telling us. Yesterday both she and her husband left us with everyone for an hour so they could 'go pick up some dry cleaning.' No idea why that is a two-person job.

I'd be more sympathetic if the baby wasn't sleeping through the night, or she didn't have a full time nanny and get regular date nights and weekends away. Meanwhile, DH and I haven't had a date night in 6 months and are spending our limited vacation as the fill in nanny. I like my nieces and nephew, but If I clean her kitchen one more time I'm going to loose it.

Anonymous wrote:ILs have rule about no food upstairs. After our last visit they called us to say that they were disappointed to find an empty chip bag in the bathroom garbage. That we should know the rules. SIL said it wasn't her family's so it must be ours. (It wasn't)

FIL can't have a discussion with me, whatever I say he says the opposite and digs in. I end up walking away a lot.

Eating potato chips in a bedroom IS kind of gross. I understand where they are coming from.

ILs have rule about no food upstairs. After our last visit they called us to say that they were disappointed to find an empty chip bag in the bathroom garbage. That we should know the rules. SIL said it wasn't her family's so it must be ours. (It wasn't)

FIL can't have a discussion with me, whatever I say he says the opposite and digs in. I end up walking away a lot.

Anonymous wrote:We are staying at home. nothing strange about it at all

Thanks for this dull and worthless post.

Any more funny stories to share?

We are staying at home. nothing strange about it at all

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Step MIL lives alone in a mansion and lets her son (not my DH) and his family spread out across 3 rooms (husband and wife in one, baby and toddler each in their own) all with nice beds, even though their kids are in pack and plays that she borrowed next to each bed. Meanwhile my family of three is in a hallway, with my DH and I on a leaking air mattress and our 6 year old in sleeping bag on the bare floor next to it.

Oh, and the floors were just refinished so we had to open all the windows so we don't die of asphyxiation, even though we still might since our heads are just 12 inches from the floor, scratch that, 11 inches, 10, 9... Time to pump up the mattress again. It's going to be a long night.

Why not stay in a hotel?
Why doesn't your BIL share the rooms more fairly?

We cut our three night visit back to one night because of the circumstances. We would have skipped out entirely but hotels were almost an hour away and we didn't know it would be like this until we arrived late in the day. BIL was staying there with family the week before and it probably never occurred to him to change anything. I think SIL was confused and may have started to offer to double up their kids, but MIL interrupted her and said that's how it's going to be.

BIL has always gotten the world handed to him on a silver platter and doesn't think of other people. I'd heard from other relatives that MIL enabled him (her birth son) and gave my DH (her step son) jack, especially after their father passed away. Just never witnessed it to this extreme. So glad to be out of there.

To the PP posting from the ER, I hope you're ok!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Squeegee your own damn shower. I'm a guest, not your maid.

NP but I wouldn't squeegee it either. They should use RainX. I also don't scrub their grout for them during my trips either.

My own mother used to ask me to do this too when I visited. So weird.

Also we used to stay at a beach house once in a while but stopped going because the owner had a serious list of rules. You can't touch this, you cant turn that on. You have to strip your bed linens and wash, dry and fold them before you leave. You had to fully wipe down all counters, vacuum the floor and dust. Like I'm sorry, but I'm on vacation. Don't rent out your space and ask me to do all the work when I'm done so you don't have too.

I'm confused by this. If it's an air bnb or vroom I always clean up before we go and ask that others do the same for my properties. Is this so much to ask? I thought it was normal protocol.

Yes, that's too much to ask.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Squeegee your own damn shower. I'm a guest, not your maid.

NP but I wouldn't squeegee it either. They should use RainX. I also don't scrub their grout for them during my trips either.

My own mother used to ask me to do this too when I visited. So weird.

Also we used to stay at a beach house once in a while but stopped going because the owner had a serious list of rules. You can't touch this, you cant turn that on. You have to strip your bed linens and wash, dry and fold them before you leave. You had to fully wipe down all counters, vacuum the floor and dust. Like I'm sorry, but I'm on vacation. Don't rent out your space and ask me to do all the work when I'm done so you don't have too.

I'm confused by this. If it's an air bnb or vroom I always clean up before we go and ask that others do the same for my properties. Is this so much to ask? I thought it was normal protocol.

Not air bnb or vroom, just a typical rental beach house through a rental website. And yes dusting and vacuuming is too much to ask if I am paying you to stay there. Do you dust and vacuum in hotel rooms?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Squeegee your own damn shower. I'm a guest, not your maid.

NP but I wouldn't squeegee it either. They should use RainX. I also don't scrub their grout for them during my trips either.

My own mother used to ask me to do this too when I visited. So weird.

Also we used to stay at a beach house once in a while but stopped going because the owner had a serious list of rules. You can't touch this, you cant turn that on. You have to strip your bed linens and wash, dry and fold them before you leave. You had to fully wipe down all counters, vacuum the floor and dust. Like I'm sorry, but I'm on vacation. Don't rent out your space and ask me to do all the work when I'm done so you don't have too.

I'm confused by this. If it's an air bnb or vroom I always clean up before we go and ask that others do the same for my properties. Is this so much to ask? I thought it was normal protocol.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Staying with MIL.

Everybody including adults must put a towel on their chair while eating at the kitchen table.

There is only bar soap in the entire house. Dishes are hand washed with a bar of Ivory soap.

There are decorative liquid soap dispensers in the bathroom but they are only for show. Decorative tissue box covers are also empty. She doesn't like for people to use the decorative hand towels but there aren't other towels to use.

The upstairs shower drain is clogged so you're basically standing in a bath by the time your shower is done. It's been this way for over 2 years. She doesn't think it's an issue.

Everyone is freezing but MIL won't turn the heat up.

God I hope my son doesn't bring anybody like you home.
Pay Op
Go to Costco and stock up all the paper (towels, hand towels, tissues)
Get her slip covers for the dining chairs
And pay her gas bill for the month

Trust me, if you're still alive when your son is dating, you won't have to worry about any DIL. Your son will either remain single or you'll become estranged. Nobody is coming to be your guest in order to wait on you. Ha! My MIL has this same attitude and you know where it's gotten her? Alone on holidays, that's where.

Agree with PP, why invite people to stay with you and not have necessities? Pay her gas bill? Buy paper products? No. Unless there is an actual problem like sickness, disability, memory loss etc... this is absurd.

My MIL has severe money issues but she is waaaay to proud to admit it or take anything excessive from us.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Staying with MIL.

Everybody including adults must put a towel on their chair while eating at the kitchen table.

There is only bar soap in the entire house. Dishes are hand washed with a bar of Ivory soap.

There are decorative liquid soap dispensers in the bathroom but they are only for show. Decorative tissue box covers are also empty. She doesn't like for people to use the decorative hand towels but there aren't other towels to use.

The upstairs shower drain is clogged so you're basically standing in a bath by the time your shower is done. It's been this way for over 2 years. She doesn't think it's an issue.

Everyone is freezing but MIL won't turn the heat up.

God I hope my son doesn't bring anybody like you home.
Pay Op
Go to Costco and stock up all the paper (towels, hand towels, tissues)
Get her slip covers for the dining chairs
And pay her gas bill for the month

Trust me, if you're still alive when your son is dating, you won't have to worry about any DIL. Your son will either remain single or you'll become estranged. Nobody is coming to be your guest in order to wait on you. Ha! My MIL has this same attitude and you know where it's gotten her? Alone on holidays, that's where.

Agree with PP, why invite people to stay with you and not have necessities? Pay her gas bill? Buy paper products? No. Unless there is an actual problem like sickness, disability, memory loss etc... this is absurd.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Staying with MIL.

Everybody including adults must put a towel on their chair while eating at the kitchen table.

There is only bar soap in the entire house. Dishes are hand washed with a bar of Ivory soap.

There are decorative liquid soap dispensers in the bathroom but they are only for show. Decorative tissue box covers are also empty. She doesn't like for people to use the decorative hand towels but there aren't other towels to use.

The upstairs shower drain is clogged so you're basically standing in a bath by the time your shower is done. It's been this way for over 2 years. She doesn't think it's an issue.

Everyone is freezing but MIL won't turn the heat up.

God I hope my son doesn't bring anybody like you home.
Pay Op
Go to Costco and stock up all the paper (towels, hand towels, tissues)
Get her slip covers for the dining chairs
And pay her gas bill for the month

Trust me, if you're still alive when your son is dating, you won't have to worry about any DIL. Your son will either remain single or you'll become estranged. Nobody is coming to be your guest in order to wait on you. Ha! My MIL has this same attitude and you know where it's gotten her? Alone on holidays, that's where.