Anonymous wrote:Very sad.

When someone who was the victim of online bullying commits suicide, I cannot believe there aren't people out there-- the bullies-- who know themselves to be in some way culpable, even if there is and never will be a murder investigation.

Thank you to our moderator Jeff for vigilantly ensuring this site does not degrade to the kind of nasty garbage that is on the site that trashed this young woman and others.

No, suicide is never the answer, and no, I should not speculate as to why someone might commit suicide, but with the speculation on this particular thread about murder, I think it's worth remembering that there are ways one can slowly whittle away at the soul of another human being without ever laying a hand on them.

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Anonymous wrote:They found her body

Oh my God! I just got back from hiking when I heard about this Saturday. Then I saw how she was bullied on
that forum and the whole thing is so upsetting. God bless her.

Wait - I heard there was gossip about her and other females working for the FD.

But are you saying she was bullied on FU while she was still alive? If so that's horrible!

In December on FU. It is horrible. I really feel for her.

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Anonymous wrote:seems rather quick to call it a confirmed suicide when the body was found hours ago. I have to admit some suspicion about this knowing that her estranged husband is a cop, and cops have easy access to evidence and influence over their peers.

I watched him on the news pleading for her to be found. He looked like he was crying, but there were no tears. I have seen people with personality disorders do this. And the fact that they were estranged. Very suspicious.

Omg just stop. Being estranged doesn't mean you don't love someone or that you are guilty of murder.

No, but the crying without tears, if pp was correct, is a time-honored tradition by spouses with something to feel guilty about. That's not to say he had anything to do with her death, but he might be feeling guilty about the estrangement, relief that his allegedly cheating wife is gone. Or worse.

Crying without tears is a time honored tradition practiced by guilty spouses? Huh?

Seriously. What is your source for this practice.... General Hospital? Greys Anatomy?

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Anonymous wrote:Either a predator saw her alone and victimized her, and dumped her car, or the husband did it. And I have nothing against that guy, but statistically, if a married woman is missing or harmed it's usually the husband.

I saw his anguished news conference. It was very off.

Anonymous wrote:Either a predator saw her alone and victimized her, and dumped her car, or the husband did it. And I have nothing against that guy, but statistically, if a married woman is missing or harmed it's usually the husband.

Firefighters, who I hold in very high regard, who my children call real life superheroes, writing nasty, hateful things about another human being.

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Anonymous wrote:She took her own life people, super sad but it's as simple as that. Just because he husband is in law enforcement doesn't mean he did it. Just because he cried without tears doesn't mean he's guilty, people need to stop with the conspiracy theories, because now terrible things are being alleged against the husband.

What people should be focusing on is exposing the terrible online bullies who posted horrific things about the woman on Fairfax Underground. Slut shaming type language was written about her supposedly by other coworkers/fire fighters. What I read was written this winter, with very specific details of her personal and work lives. She had to know about it. Adults, writing this kind of stuff about a coworker, another adult. Firefighters, who I hold in very high regard, who my children call real life superheroes, writing nasty, hateful things about another human being. And look what has happened. I don't think it is a far stretch to allude it may have contributed to whatever internal struggles or depression she was experiencing. It is no different than the stories you read about middle schoolers online bullying a classmate who then kills her/himself, except these are adults. So sad.

Print out what you read and write a letter to her station leader about how shameful it is. You should say exactly what you said here but directly to them. There's no doubt that the online bullying contributed to this suicide.

Anonymous wrote:She took her own life people, super sad but it's as simple as that. Just because he husband is in law enforcement doesn't mean he did it. Just because he cried without tears doesn't mean he's guilty, people need to stop with the conspiracy theories, because now terrible things are being alleged against the husband.

What people should be focusing on is exposing the terrible online bullies who posted horrific things about the woman on Fairfax Underground. Slut shaming type language was written about her supposedly by other coworkers/fire fighters. What I read was written this winter, with very specific details of her personal and work lives. She had to know about it. Adults, writing this kind of stuff about a coworker, another adult. Firefighters, who I hold in very high regard, who my children call real life superheroes, writing nasty, hateful things about another human being. And look what has happened. I don't think it is a far stretch to allude it may have contributed to whatever internal struggles or depression she was experiencing. It is no different than the stories you read about middle schoolers online bullying a classmate who then kills her/himself, except these are adults. So sad.

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Anonymous wrote:seems rather quick to call it a confirmed suicide when the body was found hours ago. I have to admit some suspicion about this knowing that her estranged husband is a cop, and cops have easy access to evidence and influence over their peers.

I watched him on the news pleading for her to be found. He looked like he was crying, but there were no tears. I have seen people with personality disorders do this. And the fact that they were estranged. Very suspicious.

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Anonymous wrote:seems rather quick to call it a confirmed suicide when the body was found hours ago. I have to admit some suspicion about this knowing that her estranged husband is a cop, and cops have easy access to evidence and influence over their peers.

I watched him on the news pleading for her to be found. He looked like he was crying, but there were no tears. I have seen people with personality disorders do this. And the fact that they were estranged. Very suspicious.

Omg just stop. Being estranged doesn't mean you don't love someone or that you are guilty of murder.

No, but the crying without tears, if pp was correct, is a time-honored tradition by spouses with something to feel guilty about. That's not to say he had anything to do with her death, but he might be feeling guilty about the estrangement, relief that his allegedly cheating wife is gone. Or worse.

Crying without tears is a time honored tradition practiced by guilty spouses? Huh?

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Anonymous wrote:seems rather quick to call it a confirmed suicide when the body was found hours ago. I have to admit some suspicion about this knowing that her estranged husband is a cop, and cops have easy access to evidence and influence over their peers.

I watched him on the news pleading for her to be found. He looked like he was crying, but there were no tears. I have seen people with personality disorders do this. And the fact that they were estranged. Very suspicious.

Omg just stop. Being estranged doesn't mean you don't love someone or that you are guilty of murder.

No, but the crying without tears, if pp was correct, is a time-honored tradition by spouses with something to feel guilty about. That's not to say he had anything to do with her death, but he might be feeling guilty about the estrangement, relief that his allegedly cheating wife is gone. Or worse.