Age is irrelevant. The low drive person is the problem when they think compromise is sex 4 times a month or less. That's not compromise. That's adhering to the low drive person's schedule and nothing else.

Some of the low drive women here have mentioned sex once a week AND oral once a week. I commend them for trying, at least.

The concept of oral or anything beyond intercourse is usually lost on the low drive person so, to you (low drivers who are trying), good on you!

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this thread is still going.

My husband and I both are pretty sexual and after 10 years of marriage we still get down 4-5 times a week. Sure there were lulls when we had little babies... but now that the kids are 3 and 5 we are back into it again.

I don't see how this problem wasn't evident at the beginning of the relationship. My husband and I aren't as thin, fit, and hot as we were way back when... but we still want to have sex either way.

Duh! Because people change, hormones change, health change, stress levels change, priorities change.

There is no betrayal or deceit - this is what growing up is all about. However, in a healthy marriage, the spouses try and accommodate each other needs.

Growing up = less sex?

Remember, the low drive people are trying to convince everyone that they, themselves, are normal and only young, childish, and socially inept people want sex more than a few times per month.

We have more and better sex mid-40s than we did in our 20s. Married 23 yrs. Sex cums and goes, but barring a broken hip or some other physical deal, sex is WAY better now. Point is that aging doesn't necessarily have to result in a poor sex life.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this thread is still going.

My husband and I both are pretty sexual and after 10 years of marriage we still get down 4-5 times a week. Sure there were lulls when we had little babies... but now that the kids are 3 and 5 we are back into it again.

I don't see how this problem wasn't evident at the beginning of the relationship. My husband and I aren't as thin, fit, and hot as we were way back when... but we still want to have sex either way.

Duh! Because people change, hormones change, health change, stress levels change, priorities change.

There is no betrayal or deceit - this is what growing up is all about. However, in a healthy marriage, the spouses try and accommodate each other needs.

Growing up = less sex?

Remember, the low drive people are trying to convince everyone that they, themselves, are normal and only young, childish, and socially inept people want sex more than a few times per month.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this thread is still going.

My husband and I both are pretty sexual and after 10 years of marriage we still get down 4-5 times a week. Sure there were lulls when we had little babies... but now that the kids are 3 and 5 we are back into it again.

I don't see how this problem wasn't evident at the beginning of the relationship. My husband and I aren't as thin, fit, and hot as we were way back when... but we still want to have sex either way.

Duh! Because people change, hormones change, health change, stress levels change, priorities change.

There is no betrayal or deceit - this is what growing up is all about. However, in a healthy marriage, the spouses try and accommodate each other needs.

Growing up = less sex?

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Anonymous wrote:Low drives who's rather read a book than ever have sex are the retarded ones, socially or otherwise.

Sexually retarted!

Just by 1 letter though.

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this thread is still going.

My husband and I both are pretty sexual and after 10 years of marriage we still get down 4-5 times a week. Sure there were lulls when we had little babies... but now that the kids are 3 and 5 we are back into it again.

I don't see how this problem wasn't evident at the beginning of the relationship. My husband and I aren't as thin, fit, and hot as we were way back when... but we still want to have sex either way.

Duh! Because people change, hormones change, health change, stress levels change, priorities change.

There is no betrayal or deceit - this is what growing up is all about. However, in a healthy marriage, the spouses try and accommodate each other needs.

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this thread is still going.

My husband and I both are pretty sexual and after 10 years of marriage we still get down 4-5 times a week. Sure there were lulls when we had little babies... but now that the kids are 3 and 5 we are back into it again.

I don't see how this problem wasn't evident at the beginning of the relationship. My husband and I aren't as thin, fit, and hot as we were way back when... but we still want to have sex either way.

Check back in when you've been married about 30 years and are in menopause.

People change. Very few want the same level of sex they did when they first met. Age takes its toll.

I can't believe this thread is still going.

My husband and I both are pretty sexual and after 10 years of marriage we still get down 4-5 times a week. Sure there were lulls when we had little babies... but now that the kids are 3 and 5 we are back into it again.

I don't see how this problem wasn't evident at the beginning of the relationship. My husband and I aren't as thin, fit, and hot as we were way back when... but we still want to have sex either way.

I think the low-libido person has to accommodate the high-libido person. You may try oral, hand-job, toys etc...to give the higher libido partner satisfaction.

Sex is a basic need - much like food, water, shelter, security.

In terms of food - if one spouse eats less - it does not mean the other spouse needs to eat the same amount of food. We eat according to our hunger and appetite.

Sex is the same. If your spouse has a higher need for sex then either you satisfy it, or give the spouse the freedom to take care of it.

I am a wife - BTW.

Anonymous wrote:Low drives who's rather read a book than ever have sex are the retarded ones, socially or otherwise.

Sexually retarted!

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Anonymous wrote:I am not socially retarded. I'm sure my lower drive H is still within the lower range of normal. Who cares? It may be normal but it doesn't work for me.

Why did you marry him then?

Oh, yeah... because you didn't have any experience! Now you blame him because you didn't take the time to get to know your own needs when you were in college.

Completely socially retarded.

Do you think all people who are virgins for religious reasons when they marry are socially retarded?

We know who is who! Now there isn't a doubt.
The best kind of Sneetches are Sneetches without!

I did find a high drive partner, it at least someone who claimed to be high drive. After a few years, they were happy with a lot less sex. I has explained it as an important need at the beginning. It sucks for the other partner to just decide it isn't a priority anymore. I feel betrayed, lied to and just overall undesirable.

Why can't people just be honest? It's a deal breaker and I explain it as such.

Low drives who's rather read a book than ever have sex are the retarded ones, socially or otherwise.