Here's an example of an OkCupid woman that's typically DC and probably similar to OP's friends...I won't post the link but I will describe her:

age: 33-36

looks:

physically slim/fit, attractive, body a solid 7 though the nose is a bit large and has Jewish facial features though ethnicity/religion not listed.

education/interests:

Phd in social science/political science/history, ivy undergrad, acela corridor upbringings - profile screams elite taste so much that it'll turn off most men. fine dining, fine drinks, museums, country club sports, etc. (to be honest, i enjoy a lot of this shit this woman does but i can see it being a turn off for lots of guys)

what she's looking for:

a series of sentences where most are oxymoronic and as a package unrealistic.

here's the kicker:

one of the photos she has shared is a screen-capture from her being a guest talking-head on TV. It is the worst quality picture of the set (small, a bit blurry, etc) and she's a girl that obviously does not need to go searching for good pictures of herself because she has many others on her profile and from what I can tell is pretty social.

She has obviously put it there for a reason and the type of guys she's trying to attract - intellectual/high attention to detail will recognize/realize the intent of that picture and for most it'll be a turn off. We have no issues with high achieving women (or women that achieve more than us), but she obviously wants to be a 'star' either in politically/policy circles, on tv, etc. To us that screams high-maintenance, ball-breaker, headache, etc. I have been on cable tv before but I don't need to put a picture of myself to 'show off'. It is a bit vulgar/crass.

You know that all she's looking for is the right resume with a dick attached to it - nothing more, because that's how she presents herself online. I think for women like this, they will have more like trolling LinkedIn for dating.

I know so many reasonably attractive, reasonably successful women who hit 40 unmarried. Why? Because they were holding out for some one who was super-hot, made $$$, and shared their taste in music, etc . . . ladies, be a little bit realistic. Do you look like Gisele? No? Ok, adjust your expectations accordingly or face being alone.

Anonymous wrote:Graduate degrees are very difficult to get. Sometime you have to show up and talk to the professors.

Have you tried banging them? I find that usually greases the skids if you know what I mean.

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Who cares? What's your point?

Marriage is a financial liability to men, that's my point.

Anonymous wrote:Only about 11% of Americans have graduate degrees. The most popular is in education, which skews towards women.

Only in DC are all these useless non technical, non law and non medical graduate degrees employable

For those in your circle 35+, maybe including you too OP, what types of guys are you excluding? Would you date a divorced guy? What if he had a kid/kids? Do you date only w/ in your 'race' or,do you cross ethnic barriers?

What types of activiites do you for fun - when you're not at bars or clubs on the weekends? I can tell you if you are crossing off your list single dads, divorced guys, 35-45, you're really missing out on a wide pool of pretty eligible, mature and successful guys in this town.

Single guy in late 20's here - was out in seattle and portland - you dc girls crush your competition out there.

even just browse on okc - the 6-8 on the attractiveness scale, hyper-educated, driven, ambitious group of women are a dime a dozen around here - there is a real paucity of your type out in the pacnw.

As a sociological tool, okc is super interesting - just browsing different cities on it, you start to get an idea of the distribution of the type of women in a particular area.

Anonymous wrote:No grad degree, not interested.

So don't complain that you're single. You've ruled out many eligible bachelors.
Those with grad degrees are probably put off by your self-entitlement and arrogance.

Only about 11% of Americans have graduate degrees. The most popular is in education, which skews towards women.

Try online dating.

Graduate degrees are very difficult to get. Sometime you have to show up and talk to the professors.

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I notice that a lot of DC women require that a man have a college degree from a good school or they will not consider him.

You almost never hear men with this requirement, even those who want LTRs.

Remember, a youngish man with a degree from a good school, who is six feet tall, who is in good shape, who is funny and a has decent personality represents maybe 1-2% of men in this country, and he has a lot of options. Do honestly feel that you are in the top 1-2% of women (from a man's perspective)?



There's a lot of truth on this thread, but I call b.s. on this one. I have NEVER heard of this, and I'm a 38 y.o. woman who's lived here for 15 years, with lots of female friends both married and not. This poster sounds like someone who's sensitive about where he did or did not to college and is projecting.


I don't know. A lot of women with degrees seem to feel like they would be "settling" if they married a man without one.


I agree. I wouldn't have considered a man without a graduate degree. Lucky it worked out for me.


Why?


Because it's a symbol of drive and determination, and someone who really values higher education. Status symbol also. Plus I wouldn't want to worry any man without one would develop an inferiority complex since I have one.

Well that says it all...hopefully more women will be like you.



What if the man has an insane career going and doesn't want to take time off to go back to grad school? I was promoted in banking and never needed to go back to school. Hence, I don't have a grad degree, nor do I want one. I would rather learn at work and get paid for it.


You value money more than being highly educated. That's not my deal.


Yeah god forbid you fall in love with a man with a solid career and without the student loans from grad school.

No grad degree, not interested.

Where are you from? What is your background?

Having a graduate degree is unusual. Outside of DC, and a few major cities, requiring a graduate degree would rule out virtually all men. You would be limiting yourself to doctors and attorneys.

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I notice that a lot of DC women require that a man have a college degree from a good school or they will not consider him.

You almost never hear men with this requirement, even those who want LTRs.

Remember, a youngish man with a degree from a good school, who is six feet tall, who is in good shape, who is funny and a has decent personality represents maybe 1-2% of men in this country, and he has a lot of options. Do honestly feel that you are in the top 1-2% of women (from a man's perspective)?



There's a lot of truth on this thread, but I call b.s. on this one. I have NEVER heard of this, and I'm a 38 y.o. woman who's lived here for 15 years, with lots of female friends both married and not. This poster sounds like someone who's sensitive about where he did or did not to college and is projecting.


I don't know. A lot of women with degrees seem to feel like they would be "settling" if they married a man without one.


I agree. I wouldn't have considered a man without a graduate degree. Lucky it worked out for me.


Why?


Because it's a symbol of drive and determination, and someone who really values higher education. Status symbol also. Plus I wouldn't want to worry any man without one would develop an inferiority complex since I have one.

Well that says it all...hopefully more women will be like you.



What if the man has an insane career going and doesn't want to take time off to go back to grad school? I was promoted in banking and never needed to go back to school. Hence, I don't have a grad degree, nor do I want one. I would rather learn at work and get paid for it.


You value money more than being highly educated. That's not my deal.


Yeah god forbid you fall in love with a man with a solid career and without the student loans from grad school.

No grad degree, not interested.

You would have turned mark Zuckerberg down?

Pp must be like 22 to be that impressed by a grad degree.

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I notice that a lot of DC women require that a man have a college degree from a good school or they will not consider him.

You almost never hear men with this requirement, even those who want LTRs.

Remember, a youngish man with a degree from a good school, who is six feet tall, who is in good shape, who is funny and a has decent personality represents maybe 1-2% of men in this country, and he has a lot of options. Do honestly feel that you are in the top 1-2% of women (from a man's perspective)?



There's a lot of truth on this thread, but I call b.s. on this one. I have NEVER heard of this, and I'm a 38 y.o. woman who's lived here for 15 years, with lots of female friends both married and not. This poster sounds like someone who's sensitive about where he did or did not to college and is projecting.


I don't know. A lot of women with degrees seem to feel like they would be "settling" if they married a man without one.


I agree. I wouldn't have considered a man without a graduate degree. Lucky it worked out for me.


Why?


Because it's a symbol of drive and determination, and someone who really values higher education. Status symbol also. Plus I wouldn't want to worry any man without one would develop an inferiority complex since I have one.

Well that says it all...hopefully more women will be like you.



What if the man has an insane career going and doesn't want to take time off to go back to grad school? I was promoted in banking and never needed to go back to school. Hence, I don't have a grad degree, nor do I want one. I would rather learn at work and get paid for it.


You value money more than being highly educated. That's not my deal.


Yeah god forbid you fall in love with a man with a solid career and without the student loans from grad school.

No grad degree, not interested.