Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:51     Subject: Re:women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:
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I'm a SAH wife, and I never ask my husband for money. We have always had joint bank accounts and both will discuss if either of us wants to make a large purchase. This is no difference with that between the times I'm working and the times I'm not. I don't look at it as his money because having a SAHW allows him to be a better worker. He doesn't worry about dry-cleaning, laundry, dinner, housecleaning. All he has to do is go to work. He never has to leave early to pick up his car at the shop. He used to get phone calls from his mom during work, but now she can call me if she needs something. We live on less money, but we are very happy with this arrangement. Now, Saturdays involve just spending time together, not running errands when the stores are the most crowded. I don't worry about what will happen if he runs off. I supported myself before, and I would be able to again. However, this is not likely to happen because we have built our marriage in a way that we are both dependent on each other. It's probably not for everyone, but I love taking care of my husband, and he loves taking care of me.

Of course, there are plenty of people online and in real life judging me for this. Do I care? Nope.


He's not bored with you?
Why would he be bored with me? Because I don't talk about work? On the other hand, his stories about his job are just SOOOOOOO interesting. "Honey, tell me again how you couldn't use the break room because they were painting it?" I value his job and the hard work he does for our family, but I don't think working makes someone more or less interesting. For us, we have the same education level and similar intellectual interests, so we usually have great time with each other. I can see how a trophy/stepford wife would be boring, but that's not me.

Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:49     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
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Anonymous wrote:I love it when feminists try to tell other women what they are supposed to do and how they are supposed to live.


Right? I guess that whole choice thing was just in theory.


You can choose to SAH for no good reason, but my CHOICE is to have no respect for your choice. See that?


While you're busy judging me I won't be thinking about you at all.


And that's why you reply to this post, right?


Bless your heart.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:49     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
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Anonymous wrote:I love it when feminists try to tell other women what they are supposed to do and how they are supposed to live.


Right? I guess that whole choice thing was just in theory.


You can choose to SAH for no good reason, but my CHOICE is to have no respect for your choice. See that?


While you're busy judging me I won't be thinking about you at all.


Wonderful. That still doesn't make feminists bossy
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:48     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I love it when feminists try to tell other women what they are supposed to do and how they are supposed to live.


Right? I guess that whole choice thing was just in theory.


You can choose to SAH for no good reason, but my CHOICE is to have no respect for your choice. See that?


While you're busy judging me I won't be thinking about you at all.


And that's why you reply to this post, right?
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:48     Subject: Re:women who don't work or raise kids
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Anonymous wrote:This thread is making me ill.

At first i thought I was jealous, but even if I had the option to stay home and do nothing, I have way too much pride to do that.

I'd like to be a decent role model for my daughter--I want to teach her that her goal shouldn't be to marry "well," but it should be to fulfill her potential rather than just take the easy/lazy way out. Seriously, ladies, you stay home without kids to raise? Your husbands are going to get tired of that real fast. I know I'd kick my man to the curb if he decided to do that (and we didn't have 2.5 kids, which we do). Why do you as women get that luxury, but your husbands don't?


In my case it was an arrangement that my husband wAnted as much as I did. It is a luxury for him in many ways, as well as a status symbol.


This can't be real. Are you American? What a sorry excuse for a woman. If you have daughters that you plan to follow in these footsteps, are you going to bother educating them?
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:47     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
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Anonymous wrote:Looks like angry feminism is alive and well in DC!


Yes! It's posts like this that wake up the side of me that's usually dormant as I go through my weekdays on autopilot. Thanks, OP, and all the SAHWs for taking the place of caffeine this morning! I am so thankful for my job, my kids, my husband, and interesting friends who do more than eat bon bons all day or take pride in being trophy wives.


More like angry jealousy. Not a stay at home wife, but I really could care less about people's choices and I'd never make a blanket judgement about any group of people. I'm sure people have their reasons, and the reasons are likely varied.


You don't come to DCUM much, do you?
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:47     Subject: Re:women who don't work or raise kids
I would like to request a S/O thread. I have so many questions, most of which are admittedly my own stereotypes.

Describe your circle of friends. Do they have children, stay at home, work?
Do you find that you have very few female friends?
Did you mother's work?
How would you describe your relationship with your father?
Did you experience any trauma growing up?
What was your homelife like as a child?
Any alcoholics in your family?
Do you always leave your house with hair done and a full face made up?

Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:47     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I love it when feminists try to tell other women what they are supposed to do and how they are supposed to live.


Right? I guess that whole choice thing was just in theory.


You can choose to SAH for no good reason, but my CHOICE is to have no respect for your choice. See that?


While you're busy judging me I won't be thinking about you at all.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:47     Subject: Re:women who don't work or raise kids
Everyone who thinks SAHWs are a waste of space suffers from "angry jealousy"? Wow there, talk about ironic. You don't seem to have considered a variety of reasons why people look down on SAHWs, other than jealousy.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:45     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Looks like angry feminism is alive and well in DC!


Yes! It's posts like this that wake up the side of me that's usually dormant as I go through my weekdays on autopilot. Thanks, OP, and all the SAHWs for taking the place of caffeine this morning! I am so thankful for my job, my kids, my husband, and interesting friends who do more than eat bon bons all day or take pride in being trophy wives.


More like angry jealousy. Not a stay at home wife, but I really could care less about people's choices and I'd never make a blanket judgement about any group of people. I'm sure people have their reasons, and the reasons are likely varied.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:44     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I love it when feminists try to tell other women what they are supposed to do and how they are supposed to live.


We aren't telling them what to do, we are just judging them. Get your facts straight lady!


Exactly! Women who decide to be SAHWs are going to be judged, just like some judge me for working when we don't need my income. That doesn't invalidate my choice.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:43     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I love it when feminists try to tell other women what they are supposed to do and how they are supposed to live.


Right? I guess that whole choice thing was just in theory.


You can choose to SAH for no good reason, but my CHOICE is to have no respect for your choice. See that?
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:42     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:I love it when feminists try to tell other women what they are supposed to do and how they are supposed to live.


Maybe this is too subtle for you, but when I say I don't respect SAHWs, I'm not telling them they should go get a job just to please me. Do you see the difference there?
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:41     Subject: Re:women who don't work or raise kids
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Anonymous wrote:I have never worked since the day i I said "I do".
I am happy to help my working friends when they are in a bind.
What is the expression they use today, "haters gonna hate"?


Do you have education beyond high school?


Yes, a masters degree. Why do you care?


Did you use your master's degree before you got married? Why didn't you work after marriage?


Go away!


Ah, no good answer. Gotcha.


Check out 10:37.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 11:41     Subject: women who don't work or raise kids
Anonymous wrote:I love it when feminists try to tell other women what they are supposed to do and how they are supposed to live.


Right? I guess that whole choice thing was just in theory.