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Anonymous wrote:I’m not American, but I don’t see the issue with carpooling. What’s wrong with that? We don’t do sleepovers due to a fear of SA, and we wouldn’t allow dating, because we don’t believe in intimacy before marriage, but what is wrong with carpooling?

How will you control this when your kid is in college?

DP. I think socialization, family dynamics and home culture also plays a part in how and when children become sexually active. Most gen-z are moving away from hook-up culture and I think this is also due to the culture and worldview that immigrants are bringing to the table. Hooking up as seen as trashy and poor people's behavior. Especially in the affluent and educated circles.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not American, but I don’t see the issue with carpooling. What’s wrong with that? We don’t do sleepovers due to a fear of SA, and we wouldn’t allow dating, because we don’t believe in intimacy before marriage, but what is wrong with carpooling?

Honestly, we believe this too, but the problem now is that kids are not really dating at all. Teach your kids how to date properly in high school while under your roof. How to ask, how to accept, how to refuse, how to plan, how to treat someone. Encourage group dates.

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Anonymous wrote:TLDR but got the gist from skimming --

Here are the American things I don't do or allow my kids to do (deleted the "cultural" because WTF) --

- Abandoning democracy
- Racism
- Misogyny
- Homophobia
- Blaming others for your own failings
- Not valuing those doing jobs you don't want to do
- Abandoning courtesy
- Abandoning graciousness
- Abandoning the actual words of the Bible
- Abandoning the Constitution
- Believe everything you hear without research
- Follow a cult

Just a few for example...

Please expand on how these are “American” things.

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Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.

You're exactly the kind of person that makes Americans wish immigrants would have stayed in their country of origin, and also wonder why they didn't. Congrats.

Totally different poster. Why are you assuming this person is an immigrant?

DP. Because they're slamming Americans...

Plenty of Americans slam Americans. You must be very limited.

People on this board get very butt hurt when they sense foreigners are looking down at them. I guess it is insecurity or resentment that someone doesn’t come to America and feel beholden to the people who are already here.

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Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.

You're exactly the kind of person that makes Americans wish immigrants would have stayed in their country of origin, and also wonder why they didn't. Congrats.

Totally different poster. Why are you assuming this person is an immigrant?

DP. Because they're slamming Americans...

Plenty of Americans slam Americans. You must be very limited.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why out of all things, the preventing dating/sex thing is the biggest problem. Who wants their teen kids having sex? Most UMC white parents do not. So why judge immigrants for not letting their kids date?

Because it’s simply not preventable. You can talk to your kids about how you “forbid” it all day long. It’s much more predictive to make sure your kids know hot to be smart and safe about it if/when they may choose to engage in sex. Unless you lock your kids in the house and never let them out, they will find a way if they want to.

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Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.

You're exactly the kind of person that makes Americans wish immigrants would have stayed in their country of origin, and also wonder why they didn't. Congrats.

Totally different poster. Why are you assuming this person is an immigrant?

DP. Because they're slamming Americans...

Anonymous wrote:TLDR but got the gist from skimming --

Here are the American things I don't do or allow my kids to do (deleted the "cultural" because WTF) --

- Abandoning democracy
- Racism
- Misogyny
- Homophobia
- Blaming others for your own failings
- Not valuing those doing jobs you don't want to do
- Abandoning courtesy
- Abandoning graciousness
- Abandoning the actual words of the Bible
- Abandoning the Constitution
- Believe everything you hear without research
- Follow a cult

Just a few for example...

Anonymous wrote:Teen birth rates are highest in southern states, which trend more conservative.

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Anonymous wrote:Eat sausage, fries, bacon, and sugar-full pastries for breakfast.

Who eats fries for breakfast? Where did you notion of Americans come from?