Anonymous wrote:Okay it’s all down to insults now.
I guess I wanted to know if there’s something like seeing a person through the lens of youth.
Like, I’ve caught this look once from someone (not this guy) I haven’t seen in 10-15 years which seemed like he still saw me as attractive. It was a brief encounter so I didn’t give it thought but now I remembered.

I know many here want to see me as a desperate woman waiting to jump at the guy, but no, I am not. I will be friendly and a good houseguest. No I won’t visit him in his bedroom at night
In fact we will both be mostly working and I don’t WFH so it’s probably dinners together and some talking and that’s it.
I don’t think you guys need to worry about the wife that much. So far the guy has been immaculate in how he behaved, with me at least.

Anonymous wrote:I guess it time to explain as I do every few pages that he’ll have a bedroom (couch was a figure of speech) and that he wiii be in between two work events in the area

Anonymous wrote:He's in his 40s, says he has business in town, and is staying with you on a couch.

WTF. Virtually any legitimate business trip is going to be employer paid for and that means a hotel.

What am I missing. Unless this is some uber secret client develpment / marketing trip.

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Anonymous wrote:This is just out of curiosity, I have a boring life so this event mildly excites me.
Here are the facts.
- a childhood friend is coming to stay with me for a week.
-we will be in my apartment alone
- we had a fling in our 20s and I was his first
-he is athletic and I am not, I am somewhat overweight but not obese. In short he is better looking
- we have stayed more or less in touch and have met briefly a few years ago
-he did not show any romantic inclinations during those meetings
- he is married
-I am not going to flirt with him (obviously)
- he was the one who asked if he could “crash on my couch”
- we are both in our late 40s

What does DCUM think? Is he going to try to sleep with me or no?

Yes he’s going to try to sleep with you.

Married 40s don’t “crash in the couch” of some former fling’s apartment.

Is he broke and unemployed? Be ready for some divorce drama story from him too.

He is employed and is a pretty high earner afaik

That’s what you think

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Anonymous wrote:My hs/college friend, who we had a fling together, no relationship, actually contacted me recently, asking for a relationship. I had to politely decline and tell him that I was married, it was weird, he’s married too but I guess there’s a dead bedroom.

Are you in good shape? Is he? Just curious

Yes and yes

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is just out of curiosity, I have a boring life so this event mildly excites me.
Here are the facts.
- a childhood friend is coming to stay with me for a week.
-we will be in my apartment alone
- we had a fling in our 20s and I was his first
-he is athletic and I am not, I am somewhat overweight but not obese. In short he is better looking
- we have stayed more or less in touch and have met briefly a few years ago
-he did not show any romantic inclinations during those meetings
- he is married
-I am not going to flirt with him (obviously)
- he was the one who asked if he could “crash on my couch”
- we are both in our late 40s

What does DCUM think? Is he going to try to sleep with me or no?

Yes he’s going to try to sleep with you.

Married 40s don’t “crash in the couch” of some former fling’s apartment.

Is he broke and unemployed? Be ready for some divorce drama story from him too.

He is employed and is a pretty high earner afaik

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Anonymous wrote:My hs/college friend, who we had a fling together, no relationship, actually contacted me recently, asking for a relationship. I had to politely decline and tell him that I was married, it was weird, he’s married too but I guess there’s a dead bedroom.

Are you in good shape? Is he? Just curious

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is just out of curiosity, I have a boring life so this event mildly excites me.
Here are the facts.
- a childhood friend is coming to stay with me for a week.
-we will be in my apartment alone
- we had a fling in our 20s and I was his first
-he is athletic and I am not, I am somewhat overweight but not obese. In short he is better looking
- we have stayed more or less in touch and have met briefly a few years ago
-he did not show any romantic inclinations during those meetings
- he is married
-I am not going to flirt with him (obviously)
- he was the one who asked if he could “crash on my couch”
- we are both in our late 40s

What does DCUM think? Is he going to try to sleep with me or no?

He is a man-child loser.

He is a decent guy. Most likely he isn’t planning to hit on me. The couch was a figure of speech as we go back to college years

If you go back to college years, why does the title say "childhood friend"?

Something doesn't ring true here. Nobody describes their college years as childhood.

He has “other business” in town but not actual work where they would pay for a hotel? Whole post and set up sounds fake.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is just out of curiosity, I have a boring life so this event mildly excites me.
Here are the facts.
- a childhood friend is coming to stay with me for a week.
-we will be in my apartment alone
- we had a fling in our 20s and I was his first
-he is athletic and I am not, I am somewhat overweight but not obese. In short he is better looking
- we have stayed more or less in touch and have met briefly a few years ago
-he did not show any romantic inclinations during those meetings
- he is married
-I am not going to flirt with him (obviously)
- he was the one who asked if he could “crash on my couch”
- we are both in our late 40s

What does DCUM think? Is he going to try to sleep with me or no?

Yes he’s going to try to sleep with you.

Married 40s don’t “crash in the couch” of some former fling’s apartment.

Is he broke and unemployed? Be ready for some divorce drama story from him too.

Anonymous wrote:My hs/college friend, who we had a fling together, no relationship, actually contacted me recently, asking for a relationship. I had to politely decline and tell him that I was married, it was weird, he’s married too but I guess there’s a dead bedroom.

Anonymous wrote:This is just out of curiosity, I have a boring life so this event mildly excites me.
Here are the facts.
- a childhood friend is coming to stay with me for a week.
-we will be in my apartment alone
- we had a fling in our 20s and I was his first
-he is athletic and I am not, I am somewhat overweight but not obese. In short he is better looking
- we have stayed more or less in touch and have met briefly a few years ago
-he did not show any romantic inclinations during those meetings
- he is married
-I am not going to flirt with him (obviously)
- he was the one who asked if he could “crash on my couch”
- we are both in our late 40s

What does DCUM think? Is he going to try to sleep with me or no?