Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 22:25     Subject: How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
15 to 20.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 22:24     Subject: How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
If we're out with friends and we drink more expensive wine, we just say the wine is our treat, and please have a glass. A bottle for four seems the norm to me, unless we are spending hours over dinner, which seems increasingly unusual these days in the US.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 20:46     Subject: How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
Probably 20 if being honest, glass of wine or a
Beer a night after the kids are in bed and then probably a couple Friday and Saturday
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:08     Subject: Re:How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
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Anonymous wrote:A very thin friend in her 60s wanted to share a single bottle of wine among ourselves and our spouses. I had to tell her that my husband and I drink a bottle ourselves three or four times a month. A bottle is 5 glasses, and 2.5 glasses consumed in 2.5 hours over a nice meal per person doesn’t seem like a lot to me (but we don’t drink at all during the week).


Why did you "have to tell her" how much you and your DH drink? Why couldn't you just share the bottle with her like she suggested? Be flexible sometimes. Especially when it's in your best interest health wise.


Because I wanted more than a glass of wine with my dinner.


You could have handled it more tactfully by saying "Sure, let's start with that!" A waiter would have asked if you wanted more. Or just stuck to one glass of wine that night.


Why shouldn’t I do what I want? It’s not tactful to suggest she and her husband should each get a glass of wine instead of sharing our bottle?


No, it’s tactful to defer to the older person.


We were splitting the bill, she and her husband on one check and my husband and me on another.


I would definitely need a whole bottle of wine to survive a dinner with you and I generally drink once a month.


Huh? Why?


Seriously? (1) Because you noted that your friend is very thin, which is an unnecessary fact and you used it just to be judgmental and get people to think negatively about her. (2) Because in response to her question about splitting a bottle of wine (which is very, very normal), you HAD to tell her that you and your husband drink a bottle yourselves three or four times a month. There were a number of other far less obnoxious ways you could have responded. (3) Because in response to posters asking questions you doubled down on your drinking and argued with them about why you shouldn't be allowed to do what you want to do, which wasn't really the point and shows a complete lack of self-awareness. (4) Because you continued to argue about the way you were going to split the bill like that was a good reason not to share a bottle of wine. Want me to continue?


Thanks for responding. I didn't post very articulately and I see your points. The reason I mentioned she's thin is that I was implying her alcohol tolerance is low due to bodyweight, should have stated that outright. I did not tell my friend how often my husband and I drink a bottle of wine per month, I said we drink a bottle ourselves over a meal out. Regarding (3) I'm sorry, I still don't see the point. My friend and her husband wanted a bottle that was less expensive than the bottle we wanted. One of the main reasons to split the bill by couple is so that my friend and her husband wouldn't have to pay for our choice of expensive wine (so that we could indulge in a more expensive bottle).
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Post 01/12/2026 09:30     Subject: Re:How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
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Anonymous wrote:A very thin friend in her 60s wanted to share a single bottle of wine among ourselves and our spouses. I had to tell her that my husband and I drink a bottle ourselves three or four times a month. A bottle is 5 glasses, and 2.5 glasses consumed in 2.5 hours over a nice meal per person doesn’t seem like a lot to me (but we don’t drink at all during the week).


Why did you "have to tell her" how much you and your DH drink? Why couldn't you just share the bottle with her like she suggested? Be flexible sometimes. Especially when it's in your best interest health wise.


Because I wanted more than a glass of wine with my dinner.


You could have handled it more tactfully by saying "Sure, let's start with that!" A waiter would have asked if you wanted more. Or just stuck to one glass of wine that night.


Why shouldn’t I do what I want? It’s not tactful to suggest she and her husband should each get a glass of wine instead of sharing our bottle?


No, it’s tactful to defer to the older person.


We were splitting the bill, she and her husband on one check and my husband and me on another.


I would definitely need a whole bottle of wine to survive a dinner with you and I generally drink once a month.


Huh? Why?


DP here. Because they are miserable. It's not you. It's the PP.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 09:27     Subject: Re:How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
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Anonymous wrote:A very thin friend in her 60s wanted to share a single bottle of wine among ourselves and our spouses. I had to tell her that my husband and I drink a bottle ourselves three or four times a month. A bottle is 5 glasses, and 2.5 glasses consumed in 2.5 hours over a nice meal per person doesn’t seem like a lot to me (but we don’t drink at all during the week).


Why did you "have to tell her" how much you and your DH drink? Why couldn't you just share the bottle with her like she suggested? Be flexible sometimes. Especially when it's in your best interest health wise.


Because I wanted more than a glass of wine with my dinner.


You could have handled it more tactfully by saying "Sure, let's start with that!" A waiter would have asked if you wanted more. Or just stuck to one glass of wine that night.


Why shouldn’t I do what I want? It’s not tactful to suggest she and her husband should each get a glass of wine instead of sharing our bottle?


No, it’s tactful to defer to the older person.


We were splitting the bill, she and her husband on one check and my husband and me on another.


I would definitely need a whole bottle of wine to survive a dinner with you and I generally drink once a month.


Huh? Why?


Seriously? (1) Because you noted that your friend is very thin, which is an unnecessary fact and you used it just to be judgmental and get people to think negatively about her. (2) Because in response to her question about splitting a bottle of wine (which is very, very normal), you HAD to tell her that you and your husband drink a bottle yourselves three or four times a month. There were a number of other far less obnoxious ways you could have responded. (3) Because in response to posters asking questions you doubled down on your drinking and argued with them about why you shouldn't be allowed to do what you want to do, which wasn't really the point and shows a complete lack of self-awareness. (4) Because you continued to argue about the way you were going to split the bill like that was a good reason not to share a bottle of wine. Want me to continue?
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 22:37     Subject: How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
0. I don’t drink alcohol (sugar is my vice).
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Post 01/11/2026 22:35     Subject: How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
0-1
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Post 01/11/2026 21:44     Subject: How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
Most weeks zero. If we go out to eat, 1-2 drinks at a restaurant.
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Post 01/11/2026 21:16     Subject: Re:How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
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Anonymous wrote:A very thin friend in her 60s wanted to share a single bottle of wine among ourselves and our spouses. I had to tell her that my husband and I drink a bottle ourselves three or four times a month. A bottle is 5 glasses, and 2.5 glasses consumed in 2.5 hours over a nice meal per person doesn’t seem like a lot to me (but we don’t drink at all during the week).


Why did you "have to tell her" how much you and your DH drink? Why couldn't you just share the bottle with her like she suggested? Be flexible sometimes. Especially when it's in your best interest health wise.


Because I wanted more than a glass of wine with my dinner.


You could have handled it more tactfully by saying "Sure, let's start with that!" A waiter would have asked if you wanted more. Or just stuck to one glass of wine that night.


Why shouldn’t I do what I want? It’s not tactful to suggest she and her husband should each get a glass of wine instead of sharing our bottle?


No, it’s tactful to defer to the older person.


We were splitting the bill, she and her husband on one check and my husband and me on another.


I would definitely need a whole bottle of wine to survive a dinner with you and I generally drink once a month.


Huh? Why?
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Post 01/11/2026 16:52     Subject: How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
Anonymous wrote:Zero. Alcohol is poison so I don't drink any. I don't smoke or use edibles. I also highly limit my sugar intake. I very rarely if ever eat anything really sweet like cookies, cakes or ic cream.




If only you were so disciplined about staying on topic
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Post 01/11/2026 15:33     Subject: Re:How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
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Anonymous wrote:A very thin friend in her 60s wanted to share a single bottle of wine among ourselves and our spouses. I had to tell her that my husband and I drink a bottle ourselves three or four times a month. A bottle is 5 glasses, and 2.5 glasses consumed in 2.5 hours over a nice meal per person doesn’t seem like a lot to me (but we don’t drink at all during the week).


Why did you "have to tell her" how much you and your DH drink? Why couldn't you just share the bottle with her like she suggested? Be flexible sometimes. Especially when it's in your best interest health wise.


Because I wanted more than a glass of wine with my dinner.


You could have handled it more tactfully by saying "Sure, let's start with that!" A waiter would have asked if you wanted more. Or just stuck to one glass of wine that night.


Why shouldn’t I do what I want? It’s not tactful to suggest she and her husband should each get a glass of wine instead of sharing our bottle?


No, it’s tactful to defer to the older person.


We were splitting the bill, she and her husband on one check and my husband and me on another.


I would definitely need a whole bottle of wine to survive a dinner with you and I generally drink once a month.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 13:34     Subject: How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
Zero alcoholic drinks
Zero sugary drinks
Just water and herbal teas.

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Post 01/11/2026 13:28     Subject: Re:How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
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Anonymous wrote:A very thin friend in her 60s wanted to share a single bottle of wine among ourselves and our spouses. I had to tell her that my husband and I drink a bottle ourselves three or four times a month. A bottle is 5 glasses, and 2.5 glasses consumed in 2.5 hours over a nice meal per person doesn’t seem like a lot to me (but we don’t drink at all during the week).


Why did you "have to tell her" how much you and your DH drink? Why couldn't you just share the bottle with her like she suggested? Be flexible sometimes. Especially when it's in your best interest health wise.


Because I wanted more than a glass of wine with my dinner.


You could have handled it more tactfully by saying "Sure, let's start with that!" A waiter would have asked if you wanted more. Or just stuck to one glass of wine that night.


Why shouldn’t I do what I want? It’s not tactful to suggest she and her husband should each get a glass of wine instead of sharing our bottle?


No, it’s tactful to defer to the older person.


We were splitting the bill, she and her husband on one check and my husband and me on another.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2026 11:29     Subject: How many alcoholic drinks do you have a week?
Too many. Maybe 5-8, trying to cut back, but given the current state of things it’s part of my coping methods.