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Anonymous wrote:Yeah now we know you’re a troll. There is a male loneliness epidemic and it’s not because they are choosing it.

There are many men who think marriage isn’t worth it and choose to stay single. It’s funny you think you know better than the actual words from many men’s mouths on this topic.

Many men? Ok lol. Show some stats, because statistically more women than men are choosing to stay single. Your anecdotal “evidence” does not trump societal trends.

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Anonymous wrote:35 is hardly old to have another kid, especially around here. Second at 37. Sex one time. Many people here have first, second and third kids between 35-42.

yeah but its not a given

OP here. My doctor said I was a geriatric pregnancy because I was 35 when I gave birth. She said any subsequent births will be geriatric and considered high risk because of age.

What? Nobody has used that term for years. They wrote AMA on my records for my 2nd DS's birth....and he just turned 22.

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Anonymous wrote:35 is hardly old to have another kid, especially around here. Second at 37. Sex one time. Many people here have first, second and third kids between 35-42.

yeah but its not a given

OP here. My doctor said I was a geriatric pregnancy because I was 35 when I gave birth. She said any subsequent births will be geriatric and considered high risk because of age.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah now we know you’re a troll. There is a male loneliness epidemic and it’s not because they are choosing it.

There are many men who think marriage isn’t worth it and choose to stay single. It’s funny you think you know better than the actual words from many men’s mouths on this topic.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Cry harder folks.

Ok so you're entirely too much in the right-leaning online world. That's your main problem.

Explain again how he managed to buy you a house with your money, because I still don't understand it.

Bought a house with her money and put his name on the title.

She got scammed!

OP here. My name is on the house and all accounts.

Some people are being rude on here.

I have my own savings before marriage and some of my salary tucked away that is hate mine. The salary I’ve been earning since marriage has gone into a savings account. My husband used his money ( I know it’s our money) to buy the home for us. He bought me a car and paid for our wedding on his own.

It’s our money but I say he bought me a house have he wanted a different home but settled to make me happy. Both of our names are on the deed and on all accounts.

That's not what you said before. You said it was paid for partially with your earnings. Why are you changing the story?

And why can't you say "he went with the house I preferred" or literally anything more accurate than the fictional story that you're telling about Mr Benevolent Patriarch?

OP here. I said he paid for the house with savings. You guys fan with it that I paid to because I put my salary into savings. Different savings accounts.

In the last post on page 7, you said "We used joint funds from me working and his savings to buy our home." And since he is joint owner of the home, he half owns it, so at best he partially "bought you" less than half a home. So for you to say he bought you a home is untrue. Why do you feel the need to say it? He agreed to exchange joint assets for a different joint asset, and he deferred to you on aesthetics because he doesn't really care about that. That's nice, but it's not really that big a deal. Stop acting like he's the Prince of Manly Generosity. He's a regular man who is nice to his wife.

If you grew up in a socially conservative culture you might not realize how weird this constant catering to the male ego seems to people who didn't grow up that way. Men might like it if they're young or insecure, and there's always some face-saving rationale when challenged, like that the wife is "the neck that turns the head". But not everyone goes for that kind of thing. It seems like you went on vacation with women who aren't used to this kind of thing and find it disingenuous and off-putting and they were a little grossed out by your Surrendered Wife routine and wanted to warn you that it can have some real down sides.

The bar for men is literally in the ground, and some still show up with a shovel. I’m glad she has a nice person as her partner, but yeah, doing the bare minimum (or receiving it) should not be aspirational.

Anonymous wrote:How do women who do the vast majority of the housework, childcare, life management, etc. for their grown ass husbands who behave like entitled man children ever feel attracted to them enough again to want to suck them off or do anything really sexy with them?

That's the mental block for me. I 'get' that we women are socially conditioned to be caregivers and to acquiesce more than we demand, but every relationship I ever had I thought that role was nice for like . . . ten minutes, then I began to resent all the leisure time he had purchased by my labor both physical and emotional and I would soon begin to find him more than a little . . . repulsive.

I guess this is patriarchy, but I'm one of the women who doesn't feel compelled to accept it. I'm not saying my life is one long carefree picnic because it's not - it can be SO much harder to be a single woman standing on her own two feet with no support from a spouse or former spouse - but I love that I haven't been anybody's house servant for any portion of my adult life.